We’re well into the new year now. Chances are if you made a resolution, you are either knee deep in it or you’ve abandoned it completely. Now spring is in the air, cuffing season has officially ended, and everyone is either boo’d up or single and ready to mingle. Now that I’m on the dating scene again, it got me thinking…how does one’s relationship affect their fitness?
Anybody who wants a shot with me knows the quickest way to my heart is through a good cheat meal.
Nothing wrong with letting your partner treat you. I love a late night food run, but only fast food places are open late like that. If your partner is not as concerned about being healthy together, you might want to reassess your priorities.
There are myths that exist about relationship weight. One of them is that people, both men and women, get comfortable with a new partner and stop working out or eating right because they don’t have anyone to look good for anymore. Another is that women let themselves go in relationships because men “like it” when they have extra meat.
But then there are sad rings of truth to “relationship weight” too. Some women still fear that their partners will leave them for someone younger and skinnier.
Other women experience abuse from their partners, who make fun of them and belittle them if they gain “too much weight” during the course of the relationship. Without positive reinforcement, a lot of women like this continue to spiral into depression and more unhealthy habits.
This is the 21st Century. Women don’t have to be concerned about what men like and don’t like. But we should be concerned about the energy that we allow into our space, and how it affects our physical, mental, and emotional health.
So is relationship weight a thing or not?
A relationship is what you make it. If you want to keep up your routine, you have to discipline yourself in a relationship just like you do in everything else. Maybe don’t stay out late with your partner three nights a week so that you can make your morning workouts. Instead of going out to eat, suggest cooking at home or trying the new healthy restaurant downtown! Make your date nights active. Try going on a hike or exercising together.
Bottom line, if you’re in the right relationship, you will be healthy and your partner will encourage you to be healthy too.
i love it when things stop bothering you. like two months ago i was totally bitter about so many things and now im like “u know what i don’t even care” & that’s a beautiful feeling
