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This is a true story about a journey I made recently with my partner into the swinging scene. This is the first time I have ever written a story of any description, so please feel free to feedback!
It was nearly a year ago when my partner Jake and I were discussing fantasies. He was not particularly forthcoming with regards to his fantasy, saying that he loved everything we do and would be willing to try anything. I on the other hand, had a reason for starting this conversation, I had always dreamed of going to bed with another woman.
It is a fantasy that had been with me for years, I had come close to fulfilling it once, about 4 years ago. I met a girl on the internet, Zara, and we emailed and phoned each other, we would regularly indulge in some very sexy chat, text messages and answer phone messages. Making myself cum
whilst hearing her bring herself to orgasm was a favourite past time of mine for a while! Unfortunately when it came to meeting in person I got cold feet and backed out at the last minute, something I have regretted ever since!
During our chat about fantasies I told Jake how much I wanted to go to bed with another woman, he
must have felt like all his Christmas’s had come at once, naturally he asked me what the appeal was
and what I hoped to do with this mystery woman. I told him the truth, I was desperate to feel the soft
skin of another woman next to mine, to feel the weight of her breasts, to touch another pussy and feel
the slippery wetness that I created, to lick at a woman and feel her cum on my mouth. The thought of
doing these things turned me on beyond belief, I would get wet just thinking about it and have no
choice but to find a private place to deal with my horniness!
Jake and I talked at great length about how we would go about bringing this fantasy to life and what
part he would play, I felt strongly at that point that he would only be able to watch us, I didn’t want him
touching another woman, I wasn’t sure I would be able to deal with that.
We decided, after much talking that we would go to a Swingers club, it was a spur of the moment
decision one Sunday evening and our options were somewhat limited as to where might be open, we
had nothing local to us so we chose a club about an hour and a half from our house. It was a club
with a difference, in that it was a naturist spa, sauna, jacuzzi, steam room etc.
On the journey to the club we talked more about what the rules were and what we were allowed to
do, but being new to the scene we just had no idea what to expect or to do.
When we arrived we were greeted at the door by a fantastic guy, he showed us around and
introduced us to some regulars and generally made us feel very welcome. We deposited our clothes
in a locker and wrapped ourselves securely in towels..I wasn’t sure how ready I was to have a load of
strangers seeing me naked!!
Jake and I made ourselves comfortable at the bar for a while and to get rid of any nerves I quickly
knocked back a couple of glasses of wine, we soon moved on to the jacuzzi, we both removed our
towels and settled ourselves into the warm bubbly water, we soon got chatting to some others that
were also in there.
Not more than ten minutes after getting in we noticed two women getting a bit raunchy, at first I didn’t
know where to look but very quickly I couldn’t tear my eyes away, they were in public so clearly they
weren’t bothered about having an audience!! I watched closely as one of the women, lets call her
Jane licked and sucked at the pussy of another, she quickly bought her to climax and had the favour
returned!
It’s hard to describe to you how turned I was by this scene, but most women will know that when
underwater it’s not easy to for your pussy to get soaked with your own wetness, well mine was, thats
how turned I was! Jake was clearly feeling the same, this much was obvious by the state of his cock, I
wasn’t surprised when I let my hand stray that I quickly came across his big hard cock!
I leant over and whispered to him that we should go to the sauna, it was empty at the point and I was
aching to be touched, I just didn’t feel confident enough for this to happen in public! We made our way
quickly to the sauna and once I had laid my towel down on the bench I laid back and bared all, my
nerves about others seeing me naked gone completely! Jake sat on the bench above me, he takes
the heat better than I do, and he placed his hand on my leg. His cock was still hard and sticking out
all proud!
Jake told me how incredibly sexy I looked laying there, skin gleaming from the heat of the sauna. I
parted my legs slightly, a cheeky invite for him to explore further and when his hand got to my pussy
he groaned at how wet I was. He slid a finger inside me to lubricate it and then pulled it out and
began to gently rub at my clit.
All of a sudden we were joined by someone else, a man, he came and sat down but didn’t say a
word, Jake looked at me questioningly and I knew that he wanted confirmation that I was ok for him to
continue touching me. I gave him a slight nod of my head and he continued his work on my clit, I laid
back, closed my eyes and let the pleasure over take me. When I peered out from my closed eye lid I
knew that our guest was enjoying our exhibitionism, he had his cock in his hand and was rubbing it
slowly. Jake must have felt another gush of wetness as it came from me, because he gently moaned
again and slid two fingers into me.
The pleasure was just too much at that point and I gave in to it and came all over his fingers, our
voyeur clearly enjoyed my show as he came at the same time, I watched as creamy cum shot from
the tip of his cock in an arc onto the floor of the sauna.
Jake’s willpower astounded me at this point as he had not so much as placed a hand on his cock, I
could see it was straining and it certainly looked harder than I had ever seen it before, when our
voyeur left the sauna I asked Jake why he had not touched himself and he told me that in this state of
such high arousal he felt like he would come almost immediately!
Hearing how turned on he was I was immediately ready for more, I took him by the hand and led him
back to the now nearly empty jacuzzi, as he got in I sat on his lap and lifted myself enough to catch
the tip of his cock with my pussy. I teased him for a minute, sitting in that position, just the tip of him
inside me, I used my muscles around him and squeezed and released a number of times. Jake
moaned and practically begged for me to fuck him hard, when I refused he grabbed my shoulders
roughly and forced me down upon his massive hard cock.
I couldn’t take any more, I was so turned on so I rode him hard and fast, lifting up and pounding down
on him time and time again. It didn’t take me long before I was yelling out “I’m cuming, I’m cuming”
time and time again, Jake was thrusting back into me with equal force to my thrusts onto him and I
felt him tense as he shot his load inside me!
After regaining our breath and composure I turned around and spotted a very sexy man behind me,
he had a glint in his eye and a hand on his cock, he asked us if we would like to get a room with him.
As I’ve already told you my fantasy was to be with another woman so I wasn’t prepared for this
situation mentally, but physically I was aching for more. I looked at Jake who told me he was fine with
it if I was. Fine with it, I was practically gagging for it!
We moved to private play room immediately and I pushed Jake back onto the bed, I leant over and
started to suck his tired cock, trying to entice it back into it’s aroused state, our guest, Andrew I’ll call
him, was simply watching me as I sucked on my lovers cock. Before a few minutes had passed Jake
was aroused again and fully enjoying the blow job I was giving him. I felt a hand on my bottom that I
knew did not belong to Jake and the thought sent another wave of wetness through me, Andrew had
clearly noticed this because he started to trail his hand down to my pussy. I felt him tease apart my
lips feeling for my wetness, and when he found it he pushed two fingers into me. As I lay there
kneeling on the bed sucking Jakes cock I was being finger fucked by a complete stranger, I can’t tell
you what a horny feeling this was!
I was really getting into this and getting more and more turned on, I was close to orgasm when I felt
the wet soft touch of a tongue on my pussy, Andrew was licking me and finger fucking me, this sent
me quickly spiraling over the edge and I came hard on his tongue and fingers.
As I regained my composure, yet again, I looked at Jake and asked if he would swap places with
Andrew, I wanted to be fucked but I didn’t want a stranger to be the one doing it! Jake was clearly up
for this, he was once again, incredibly turned on, Andrew laid on the bed and I immediately took his
cock in my mouth, he was big, very big and very hard too! Jake stood behind me and slipped his cock
into my soaking wet pussy, I groaned, not an easy feat with a mouthful of cock let me tell you.
This went on for a couple of minutes before Jake pulled out of me, I turned and looked questioningly
at him and in answer he pushed me further on the bed, he leaned and whispered in my ear, fuck him,
straddle him and fuck him. I was more than pleased to obey this command and did exactly as I was
told, I straddled Andrew and lifted myself onto his massive cock. I couldn’t help the moans escaping
my mouth as he stretched and filled me. I started to ride him up and down and he thrust back in to me
each time. I was sitting upright moving up and down over him when I felt Jake push me gently
forward, I wondered what was going on but it didn’t take long for it to become obvious.
Quite suddenly I felt the tip of Jake’s hard cock at the entrance to my arse, this is something we’ve indulged in quite regularly and I love it, the feeling of him inside my arse, thrusting and cuming inside me is amazing.
I was worried at first, I’d never considered this before but Jake was gentle, he eased himself into me slowly and as when he was in up to the hilt he stayed perfectly still, letting me get accustomed to the feeling of being fucked by two cocks at once.
All of sudden I felt lust rip through me and I went crazy, Jake fucked me hard, very hard in the arse and in time with him I rode Andrews cock. We were all moaning and getting close to climax when Jakes hand slipped around me and between mine and Andrews body, he reached down and started to play with my clit, I knew I wouldn’t be able to take this much longer without orgasming.
I could feel both Jake and Andrew were close, I could feel their cocks growing inside me, this turned me on more and all of sudden I couldn’t hold back, I screamed out “I’m going to cum, cum with me,
cum with me”
They obliged, I don’t think they could have done anything else, we were all so turned on, we all climaxed together and I felt Jake shoot cum deep into my arse and Andrew do the same deep inside my pussy.
My next installment will detail our return visit to the Spa, this time we were joined by another couple and my fantasy came true!
Catching up
It’s been awhile since I’ve written a post. I have so many drafts, but I never seem to get them perfected enough to post.
A brief run down of the last couple of months:
Our little polycule is as happy and healthy as ever. 2 of the kids are back at college, 1 got her own apartment, and 1 finished his degree and is hopefully finding his own place in the next year. This opens up Ross’ and Rachel’s house to sleep overs. It’s kind of a big deal; Chandler and I have “a drawer,” so to speak. Our kid is comfortable with our relationship but not as uncomfortable knowing we’re having guests, so we wait till he works late at his second job every other weekend then we house swap.
Our latest rehab is a multi unit Airbnb and is almost finished. It’ll double as our 2nd home (when not rented out, anyway). 1 unit will be Ross’ and mine, the other will be Chandler’s and Rachel’s. I’m pretty fucking excited about that. It’s as close as we each will get to having “our own place.”
Next week, we all head to Riviera Maya for 7 fanfuckingtastic nights in an all inclusive paradise. We’ll split the sleeping arrangements 3-3 with 1 night TBD. Maybe that’ll be a night of all 4?
The E word (exclusivity) has been floated by in a couple of conversations, but that’s a whole post on its own (in my drafts folder).
We were almost interviewed by CBS for a polyamory documentary, but production decided not to come to our city. That would have been interesting to do. We’d love to see more positive media coverage on non monogamy instead of most of the salacious, sister-wife bullshit that’s usually the spin on these shows.
My heart is so full and happy with these 3 amazing humans. I’m fully aware of how fucking lucky I am and don’t take a minute of this life for granted.
Skipping the party
The 4 of us were invited to a post pride party this weekend. The host posted that “it’s our 1st LS party!” I might be really a little naive, because I thought it meant the 1st party at their new house where the guests just happen to be LS friends.
When the hostess started posting pics of the play areas, the penis piñata, and condom/wipe station, I realized, ohhhhh…THAT kind of LS party. Which is cool, too, but…..
There was a time that Chandler and I would’ve been super excited to hit up this party, and eagerly checking out the guest list to see who we might hook up with.
Now, however, we’re just so happy and content with Ross and Rachel, and the party scene has lost its appeal. We still love hanging out with our swinger friends, and making out with them is fun, but none of us really have that desire to hook up with them.
We’re all kinda just with each other right now, but we’re not exclusive and probably will never designate our status as such. That eases my anxiety that Ross and Rachel won’t ever feel tied down. But for now, we’re all pretty damn happy to skip the house play parties.
Man to man: five tips for guys attending sex parties
Taken from an article written by W for the blog of a swinging/sex party organisation. The focus of the article and the intended audience are people attending relatively vanilla, swinging sex parties as opposed to polyamorous, kinky or queer events. However, there are a number of similarities between those types of events and therefore much of this advice is applicable across the board.
Whether it’s your first time or your tenth, attending a sex party elicits a wild mix of feelings, not least of which are excitement and a heavy dose of nervousness. After doing this for a few years, I’ve come across a handful of tips for men which will hopefully help first timers relax and give veterans a refresher.
1. Consent, consent, consent
The popular saying is that there’s nothing sexier than consent and while that’s completely undeniable, the real rule is that nothing happens without consent. This likely isn’t news to you but you should take a fresh look at your attitudes and behaviour every time you play.
Always seek and obtain enthusiastic consent before initiating or progressing anything Establish boundaries, work out how each of you like to play, and when you want to stop. Check in with your partner regularly, even (and especially) among the wildest throes of an orgy.
There are plenty of ways to make seeking consent fun, spontaneous, and natural; it doesn’t have to be a monotonous stream of “may I touch you”. Try out “I’d really love to do X with you, if you’re interested” or “my partner and I are happy to do Y, would you like to join us” or simply “does that feel good, would you like more”. If they say yes, that’s great. If it’s a no, thank them for being clear about their boundaries and never press the issue.
Remember that consent must be freely, enthusiastically given and can be withdrawn at any time by either of you.
2. Remember why you’re there
Unless you’re at a party that allows single men, you’re likely attending a party with your regular partner. People start swinging for many reasons but it’s fair to say, no one goes into it hoping to get hurt.
That’s why it’s crucial that you keep your partner in the front of your mind at all times - even if you’re in the middle of an orgy that fills the room. Never forget why you’re here together, what you want to achieve together, and how you each support each other.
If you’ve established rules beforehand, now isn’t the time to bend or break them, and it’s probably not the time to try to renegotiate them either. If you desperately want to do something that’s outside your firm rules, talk to your partner about it.
If it’s appropriate, take them aside somewhere quiet and private to discuss it. But more often than not, my strong advice is just to enjoy what you’re doing within the rules on that night and then talk about changing those rules back at home later.
3. Attitude is everything
It’s tempting to think that behaving like the alpha dog is going to a sure-fire way to be lavished with attention. From years of witnessing it, I can tell you this couldn’t be further from the truth.
Guys who strut around acting as if they own the show are almost universally given the cold shoulder by singles and couples alike. Keep in mind that you’re not only hoping to win over one person, in many instances you’ll also need to earn the trust of that person’s regular partner too. Don’t blow your chances by being cocky and disrespectful, including to other men.
Be outgoing, friendly, humble, funny and kind; keep that swagger firmly in its box. Don’t be afraid to compliment other guys meaningfully - they’re much more likely to be endeared to you if they see you’re a genuinely good bloke and not just trying to have sex with their wife.
Finally, remember to comply with the rules of the party - no one likes a guy who thinks he’s above the rules.
4. Sometimes it just doesn’t work*
So this is somewhat of a secret among guys people at sex parties but I’ll give it to you straight up here: about 90% of men who attend a party will have some form of issue with their erection at some point.
The myth is that if a guy is surrounded by beautiful people and hot sex, he’s bound to be hard as a rock for hours and hours. The reality is that it can sometimes be a bit overwhelming or stressful to be naked and having sex in the same room as other relative strangers doing the same thing. The body’s natural response to stress is to shut down unnecessary functions which, unfortunately, includes your dick.
Regrettably, most guys’ natural response to this alarming twist is to panic or worry something is wrong. Of course, that’s literally the worst thing you can do.
If you find yourself in this situation remember that it’s happened to every other guy in the room, it’s only natural. I promise you, no one else in the room cares and your partner(s) will understand completely.
Being lighthearted and honest about it is actually the best way to overcome it. Simply saying to your partner “ah, looks like everything is a bit much right now for me, would you mind if I went down on you/kissed you for a bit/we did something else for a while” is often a perfect way to regroup, distress and get back to it.
Also keep in mind that there are plenty of other ways for you to have a great time a be a hit with everyone, don’t focus so much on just being able to have penetrative sex.
*While the rest of this article is applicable to all men, tip number 4 is specifically applicable to men with penises. I note that not all men have penises and not all people with penises are men, however, as a cisgender, heterosexual man I do not have a lived experience from which to comment on trans or queer issues and it would be disingenuous for me to take up that space where other more qualified individuals can and do comment.
5. Everyone’s least favourite friend - condoms
A lot of guys come to sex parties for the first as part of a couple who have been together for a number of years. The odds are that if you’ve been with a partner for many years, you’re fluid bonded and you’ve decided to not use condoms regularly. For many men, it may have been years since they last used one.
So what happens? A nervous, excited guy attends a sex party and then, right at the peak of everything, he has to flash back to his single days and remember how to put on a condom quickly and without fumbling all over the place. Of course, this has the potential to be stressful and we find ourselves back at tip number 4 again.
The best advice I can give is to try out some condoms prior to the party with your regular partner. Remember what it’s like to wear a condom and test different sizes, shapes, textures and materials to find exactly the one that suits you.
Once you’ve found the perfect one, go and buy a substantial amount and bring them to parties (don’t rely on the ones provided by the hosts). You’ll feel better using it and you’ll be comfortable with putting it on confidently and quickly.
Remember, you can end up using a dozen or more at a party so make sure you buy and pack appropriately. I buy mine in boxes of 100 and I’m still staggered by how quickly the stock diminishes!
Finally, make sure you and your regular partner have agreed safer sex practices together and then communicate those rules to new people. Condoms for penetrative sex is an almost universal rule but requiring a barrier for oral sex and hand sex is also very common. Make sure you know the rules for everyone before you play.
Swinging & Swapping: He sees another side of his wife—and isn’t sure what to make of it
Last month my wife and I went to a party given by -acquaintances of her best friend, Maria, who works in the same office she does. Maria is single and quite attractive. She lives near us and is over quite a bit. She’s certainly not shy in the way she talks about her sex life, which appears to be quite active, or in her manner of dress, which is provocative. With a terrific figure, she wears the…
