#wholeheartedsuggestions
realizing i spend too much time worrying about embarrassment. i don’t know something? that’s okay. i haven’t seen that movie or know about that book? that’s okay. i do something that makes my life easier that people consider the “lazy way”? that’s okay. i like this harmless thing people think is “cringe”? that’s totally okay. it’s a waste of energy to criticize myself because of the judgement i anticipate from others.
to men who have or are facing abuse: your experiences are real and valid. you should never have to just take it to be a man. domestic abuse affects all genders. don’t feel like speaking up is weakness.
people will come and go from your life, sometimes with no clear reason. it’s not your fault nor theirs. you just drift apart and outgrow the friendship you once had. it’s so sad to see it go, but know that there will be others to look forward to.
don’t mistake people being rude and judgement for constructive criticism. life is too short to be concerned with rude assumptions that don’t truly say anything about you or your character.
being sensitive doesn’t make you over sensitive. it’s okay to feel and to react.
i sometimes forget there aren’t official rules for what you have to know as an adult. don’t need to read the latest ny times bestseller, don’t need to know the differences between wines, don’t need to have seen all the cult classic movies, don’t need to have endless crazy fun college stories. i know not everyone feels this pressure, but as i’m getting older, sometimes it feels like i have to fake knowing certain experiences. and i really don’t.
life will not always solely be survival mode. it will be really living instead of just staying alive.
*picks you a flower* pretty flower for pretty person
days don’t have to be great to be good days. good days can be calm and relatively uneventful, a small rest from seemingly longer days. those are the ones i find myself overlooking and then missing. there were days when i tasted really good fresh fruit or bought a happy little bee plant or took a nice nap or had lunch outside under the sun. those were good days i should have given more credit.
I never knew true peace until you held me close
Imagine you’re sleeping with your partner and they’re pressed against you with a soft smile, tracing little hearts on your chest
me drinking ily juice
Whatever you do, don’t imagine your partner kissing all over your face. Don’t imagine them laughing softly as you blush and turn away from you. Definitely don’t imagine them pulling you close and pulling your hands down to keep smothing you with love.
its okay to be burnt out, its okay to feel tired. Your partner still will love you and make sure you’re safe. They’ll tenderly kiss your forehead as the hold you close and rub your back slowly.
Whether you go on a wild, loud, party date or a softer, quieter date you’re valid. As long as you’re happy with each other.
Get someone to kiss the top of your hand, get someone that pulls chairs our for you, get someone that holds open doors for you, get that soneone who’s cheesy but you love them all the same
Oh to go on a road trip in a car with a mattress and see the world together with your lover. Cuddling on a blanket as you watch the sun set and the stars dance, visiting all the fun little places in each town, and how much alone time you both have. You both realise just how much you mean to each other and you can see your love grow stronger
Go on a stupid reckless date! Go into a Wal-Mart and raise hell, kick rubber balls around, take the scooters and race each other, have a lightsaber fight. Get lost in each other’s laughter!
You will find that right someone that loves you and your flaws. You’ll find someone who will always stay with you no matter how rough it might get. You’ll love someone who’s okay with seeing your darker half and wants to help you all the way.
Imagine you gently playing with your partner’s hair, curling it around your fingers over and over as you both enjoy the moment. Imagine you both being on a bed covered in blankets as you mess with their hair, you both snuggled up closely and slowly drift to sleep in each other’s arms.
