A customer reached out recently to request for aegosexual pride kitties sticker.
To be honest, I had wanted to create a aegosexual pride cats design 3 years ago.
it was challenging because the overall shape of the kitty stack is too thin and long for the pattern of the flag.
I did it with bats instead.
Not perfect but I was able to make use of their wings and the relative size of their heads to show a subtle inverted triangle without looking too forced or weird.
The customer was happy to have the bats instead. And I am happy that she’s happy.
Honestly I should talk about the ace experience more. I don’t see enough. Like–obviously it’s dehumanizing to be repeatedly compared to robots or aliens but uh…sometimes it feels like that??
My husband will get all horny while I’m, I don’t know, changing out of sweaty gardening clothes. And I’ll be like, “But we have to make lunch?? I stink? Now is not a good time?? Logic?” And clearly it’s not about logic to him. He is experiencing the entire scenario very differently. And I’m here like,
Or the times where you realize that like, having an actual physiological reaction to attractive people is not some enculturated metaphor, and people are actually doing that all around you all the time, and you’re like, Ah, clearly my studies of human culture have been incomplete. I have missed a critical psychosocial component. Many things now appear in a different light. *takes notes on holopad*
friend: he’s so gorgeous I just want to lick him
me: that seems unsanitary
I’m demi in that really specific classic way where the entire standard allosexual-norm range of Attraction™ kicks in with the Right Person™†, and I have experienced this, which means I have this hilarious bridging ability where on the one hand yes I do know what that entire Physiological Suite of Responses is like (and yes it is just that insane) and yet on the other hand I’m still looking at actual allosexuals and I’m like, your life must be so exhausting. Like the times that this has happened to me derailed my entire life, and yet you seem to have this happening every third day, this is absurd.
And it happens to them with people they don’t even LIKE, sometimes! WILD.
[†what are the parameters of Right Person? Fucked if I know - I know what’s NECESSARY, but not what’s SUFFICIENT. :palms up shrug!:
genuine curiosity, do ace people know that sexual urge is marked by an actual distinct physical sensation (what people call horniness etc.) of its own, which you can’t really describe like anything else? Like how being hungry or thirsty or tired or excited all have unique and distinct sensations to them? I say this because when this came up on facebook earlier there were multiple comments like “huh? What sensation? It’s never felt like anything to me” and that’s how those people discovered today that they might be asexual
loads of notes right off the bat from people who didn’t know! Yeah guys if you have a “sex drive” it’s like not just thought patterns but a weird full body feeling which is neither good nor bad but can become very distracting and nagging, making it difficult to care about anything else until you actually do what it wants you to do, specifically with another person, which then replaces the urgent fixation with a “high” that’s also not really comparable to anything else.
It seems like some people still get this but are asexual in the sense that they just don’t need other person. With the typical full blown drive, you really can’t completely satisfy it and experience the high again by yourself, but can only kind of quiet it down a little for maybe a day. If you don’t have any frame of reference for that then I’d imagine the average person’s desperate obsession with everything sexy really must be baffling to witness out of context.
You’re allowed to find pride in your asexuality and aromanticism. I know it can be difficult, between people not knowing or believing it exists and people who might accept that it exists but will always see it as pitiful and insignificant, something to be silent about, something shameful or “tmi”, something to mention as an afterthought. But aromanticism will always be far more complex and far-reaching and life altering and significant than people who brush it off as “doesn’t date” are able to understand, and asexuality will always be more nuanced and eye-opening and liberating than people who brush it off as “doesn’t have sex” will ever understand. You’re allowed to find meaning in these labels and in the communities surrounding them, and you’re allowed to show pride for who you are.
Note: This isn’t an insult/sassy come back to people to asking valid questions/statements (well maybe a bit sassy lol), none of it’s meant to offend people that are calmly trying to educate themselves to lgbtq+. Questions are always welcome!
This post is so clear and effectual And compelling’s the content that’s textual That I kid you not In real life I just got - I just realized I think I’m asexual.
Comic #261:-Growing up Ace -Website links: here! Being pride month I wanted to dig a little deeper into what it was like growing up Asexual, too many people gatekeep and suggest that an absence of something doesn’t qualify as queer. I was definitely treated as abnormal or broken by well meaning friends & strangers alike.
Happy pride specifically to the heteroromantic aces, and heterosexual aros. I love you all. You are wonderful human beings and an important part of the lgbtqia+ community.
Love the positive responses to this! I see pride posts for almost every other identity, and since I’m an ace blog, I figured I better make one for my aros and aces (acknowledged that not everyone on the spectrum is hetace/hetaro).
*remember the spectrum! The above identities exist on a spectrum along with many, MANY more. Love EVERYONE on the ace and on the aro spectrum!*
ALT
