#anonymouses aroace adventures
your-local-salty-bitch-deactiva:
Reblog if you think asexuality is a legitimate sexuality.
I’m trying to prove something.
Reblog if your blog is a safe place for asexuals.
HELL YEAH
YOU KNOW IT
DAMN RIGHT IT IS
Absolutely!!
Might be asexual, still questioning sexuality
the absolute irony of the quadruple-A experience for me is that it actually makes it way easierfor me to navigate the world and the social elements of it, not harder
because the absolute hell that I would put myself through otherwise trying to wrangle myself into social-behaviour boxes OR trying to wrangle other people into my-behaviour boxes was just unsustainable. someone would use a social-relationship term for me or act in a way that television or the internet has taught me means xyz and I’d go “oh they think of me like xyz that means I have to act this way and that means they have to act this other way” and it’d just be a fucking minefield
quadruple-A is a STOP sign not just for other people but for me. it’s a reminder that my entire life has been an uphill struggle to define my own experience and my own relationships with the world in my own terms and I am finally learning exactly how to do that. sitting at the STOP sign, I can take a breath, zoom out, evaluate the situation and determine whether it actuallysuits me or whether I’m just trying to perform “humanity” so other people will treat me with the respect and consideration I require.
the beauty of saying “no” is that it frees up so much bandwidth for me to figure out what specific things I would like to say “yes” to. I’m not settling for whatever comes my way, I’m making space for that which will truly fulfill and validate and delight me ✨