This happened a while ago, but it shows how people view me in life sometimes. I went to Taco Bell to pick up something to eat and the minute I walked in this group of guys in the back started pointing at me, laughing, snickering and calling me a freak of nature for the way I looked. But the woman who served me my food pulled me off to the side and told me that was beautiful and unique and to not let assholes dictate me and label me for something I’m not. Sometimes people are shit, but sometimes there are those willing to stand up and support you even when people push you down. That woman at Taco Bell made my whole day, and I appreciate her for standing up for me. When you look as unique as me there will always be people to put you down, but the jokes on them, because the way I look makes me happy, it makes me feel beautiful and handsome and attractive. And isn’t that what life’s about, trying to find your own personal happiness? Sometimes I find it difficult to even leave the house, because those asshole people exist everywhere. I can’t even remember going out in public once in the last few years without someone putting me down and laughing at me. But I know there are also good people to stand up for me. So fuck society’s version of what attractive should be, I’m attractive in my own way, and I’m not going to let a few narrow minded people treat me like shit for it.
“Be the person you are. Never try to be another, and you will become mature. Maturity is accepting the responsibility of being oneself, whatsoever the cost. Risking all to be oneself, that’s what maturity is all about.”
If anyone is curious what she says directly after this quote:
When one or the other of these thought patterns makes it hard to throw things away, we can’t see what we really need now, at this moment. We aren’t sure what would satisfy us or what we are looking for. As a result, we increase the number of unnecessary possessions, burying ourselves both physically and mentally in superfluous things.
The best way to find out what we really need is to get rid of what we don’t. Quests to faraway places or shopping sprees are no longer necessary. All you have to do is eliminate what you don’t need by confronting each of your possessions properly. The process of facing and selecting our possessions can be quite painful. It forces us to confront our imperfections and inadequacies and the foolish choices we made in the past.
Many times when confronting my past during the tidying process I have been so ashamed. My collection of scented erasers from primary school, the animation-related goods that I collected in junior high school, clothes I bought in high school when I was trying to act grown up but which didn’t suit me at all, handbags I bought even though I didn’t need them just because I liked the look of them in the shop.
The things we own are real. They exist here and now as a result of choices made in the past by no one other than ourselves. It is wrong to ignore them or to discard them indiscriminately as if denying the choices we made. This is why I am against both letting things pile up and dumping things without proper consideration. It is only when we face the things we own one by one and experience the emotions they evoke that we can truly appreciate our relationship with them.
There are three approaches we can take towards our possessions. Face them now, face them sometime, or avoid them until the day we die. The choice is ours. But I personally believe it is far better to face them now. If we acknowledge our attachment to the past and our fears for the future by honestly looking at our possessions, we will be able to see what is really important to us.
This process in turn helps us to identify our values and reduces doubt and confusion when making life decisions. If we can have confidence in our decisions and launch enthusiastically into action without any doubts holding us back, we will be able to achieve much more. In other words, the sooner we confront our possessions the better. If you are going to put your house in order, do it now.
IF MARIE KONDO HAD BEEN ANAKIN’S JEDI MASTER HE NEVER WOULD HAVE TURNED TO THE DARK SIDE
Reblogging both for Star Wars and for genuine Kondo Advice™️
