#ed warrior
For a really long time I didn’t think I’d ever feel beautiful..
Then one evening…
I had gotten out of the shower and was getting ready to head out with friends when I stopped to look in the mirror. And I stared, as I usually do, overanalyzing every detail.. Then I took a step back, I looked at myself, naked and sopping wet, and said aloud, “You know what? I am fucking cute.” And as if a curse had been lifted, I felt this huge weight lift off my shoulders. So I said it louder, more excited this time as I smiled real big at myself, “I really am cute!”. And just like that my brain began to rewire itself. My drearily consistent neurological pathways were suddenly taking a turn and one I quickly recognized as enjoyable. Every feature I ever despised of myself, from my tall nose, to my assymetrical eyes, seemed so much less important. It was almost silly to me, that I never saw past those things in the first place. I started to realize that the person I am is a whole lot better than I think.
While I have been put down for my looks in the past, it occurred to me there were dozens of people, both online and irl, who thought of and saw me differently. They see me as beautiful and go out of their way to tell me this, yet I was putting priority on those who just sought my downfall instead. I became sickeningly aware of how much weight I put on these negative thoughts about myself, how much time I spent despising myself, for NO reason other than not achieving societies idea of perfection. Well, Im achieving my own perfection, one that not everyone will like, one that society might reject, but one that I know I will love and one that I know the people I care about will love. Both inside and out.
Its important if youve been chasing youre idea self, that the self youre after isnt predetermined by what society will like, or what some guy who trash talked you will like, or what some stingy bitch who gossiped about you will like. Instead, chase after a you that embraces your already naturally beautiful qualities, one that enhances those things and strives to make the people who are important to you happy. You might not have the most symmetrical face in the world, you might feel too tall or too short, too skinny or too fat, but Im here to tell you youre not ‘too’ anything except for too hard on yourself. Stop rejecting who you are, embrace it. You need to work on bettering the things you love about yourself instead of trying to get change the things you despise. And I promise that once you refocus on what you love instesd of what you hate, the world will become a lot brighter from day to day ♡