Just saw this important article about the effectiveness of Plan B emergency contraception and body weight. (Note: source is an “x free articles a month” site, but the incognito window trick works if you’re out of articles.)
The gist:
The Plan B “morning after pill” has lower effectiveness/a higher failure rate in individuals with higher body weight, with the effect becoming statistically significant around 155 pounds.
It does not, however, simply stop working at that weight cutoff, as some social media posts have suggested.
There’s a bigger chance it won’t work, but if you are in a situation where you need EC, and Plan B is what you can get, it’s still worth taking it.
Another pill EC pill, Ella, works well for users up to 190 pounds (but requires a prescription and is more expensive).
Planned Parenthood recommends the copper IUD for patients with larger bodies. If you need advice for your specific situation, they offer chat (free) and telehealth services (fee-based, but they have options).
The actual article has tons more information and links to sources.
I just took a plan b yesterday and a condom broke on me today is it safe to take another plan b
Yes, it’s safe. Plan B (AKA the morning-after pill, a type of emergency contraception) can help prevent pregnancy when you take it after having unprotected sex. But, it won’t prevent pregnancy for any sex you have after taking it. So if you use the morning-after pill and then have unprotected sex, you’ll need to take it again.
If you’re having vaginal sex and you don’t want to get pregnant, use an ongoing form of birth control like the pill,patch,ring,shot,implant, or IUD. Using both a condom and another method of birth control gives you extra protection from pregnancy and also protects you and your partner from STIs.
So, I was definitely not able to follow MLAM’s orders not to piss while on my date. I held out a really long time, through drinking a cider, Former President going to the bathroom, pressing on me, making out, and all the way up to him fingering me. That’s where I had to break. I felt like I almost pissed, and also his fingers were probably some of the biggest things I’ve had in me in a while, so I actually had to safeword out of fingering, which made me feel silly. Of course Former President told me not to, and we discussed why I redded. I actually started crying and I decided I had to go to the bathroom. I think I cried more than I would have just from the pain of being fingered while trying not to piss myself because I felt bad for being disappointing, which was interesting. Before I left Former President’s apartment, I texted MLAM and told him what had happened. I apologized and told him that I understood that I’d need to be punished.
As for the date, and Former President himself, I definitely had a good time and I’m glad we got together, and I’d like to do so again. To be completely honest, MLAM is way better at pain and fucking with my mind. But, you know, that’s to be expected, considering he has ruined me for other men. (50% joke, 50% truthfact) On the other hand, Former President and I got more sexual than MLAM and I had, which was fun in its own right. Gasp! It’s almost as if two different people might act like two different people and I should just fucking enjoy experiences for themselves!
(Long-ass post after the break)
Former President met me at the Metro station. I wore my First Date Outfit that MLAM picked for me to wear on first dates, since it was what I wore on our last date. It was a bit warm for the weather, but having him pick out clothes for me is hot, so I’m not really complaining. I thought of begging a sundress alternative if I ever have a date outside, but he doesn’t care about my comfort, and I suppose working around the outfit could be an interesting aspect of control. We hugged hello, and then walked over to a bar/restaurant that is part of his apartment complex. We each had a drink and split a Mediterranean plate, which was good. We talked about various things, from feminism, to our shared undergrad, to kink, and more. I did tell him about the fact that I wasn’t supposed to piss until I got home, and said that I doubted I’d be able to stick to it, and that I might feel bad about that. He was chill about all that, which was good.
When we finished, we went up to his apartment and sat on his couch. I took off my jacket, so I just had on leggings and a black bandeau (slut). We started doing negotiations and talked about limits, likes, dislikes, etc. Eventually we started making out, he was mean and pushed on my abdomen, and then picked me up and carried me to his bed.
We made out and grabbed at each other for a while, and then he told me to take my clothes off, and eventually his. I realized I actually hadn’t taken off another person’s clothes in a while, so I actually hesitated and he grabbed me and told me to hurry up. I did it and then explained that I’d hesitated because MLAM never really had me remove his clothes. Former President growled at me that he wasn’t MLAM and had his own expectations, which was a good reminder to me to stop being a stupid slut and treat the experience as its own thing.
After a bit, he started fingering me, and holy fuck did it hurt. That’s where I had to red out and go piss, violating MLAM’s instructions. After I came back, we relaxed a bit, and then started making out and stuff again. Somewhere along the way, he did spank me, which was good, but not hard enough, and in far too easy a position. Considering it was a first date, though, it was fine. He also did bite my bite, as requested. I said “harder” while he was biting, and immediately thought “Why the fuck do I even have that in my vocabulary anymore?” It was nice and painful. He’s also pretty into pressure to cause pain, so he got after spots on my sides a couple times, which did hurt a bit, so that was good.
I was kissing him and his neck and his nipples (which are super sensitive, which translates to super fun) and he told me to go lower, so I started licking and sucking his balls, and up the shaft a bit. He indicated that he wanted a blowjob and I looked up at him and said “Can I see those test results?” he reminded me they were from December, and did not press the issue, getting up and putting on a condom, instead. Responsible!LFB rules the day! So, I gave him a blowjob with the condom on. He actually has a smaller than average penis, which makes for enjoyable blowjob giving. Well, enjoyable if you’re given free reign. Less so when your head is being held down until you gag and choke. But of course, that’s enjoyable in its own way.
So, a little after that, we were about to have piv sex and for some reason I stopped him. I’m not entirely sure why. Part of it was actually wondering what Legal Lolita and MLAM would think, which is kind of fucking ridiculous of me because what? Then I was also getting some generalized societal slut shamey feelings, and a bit from myself. Former President backed off, except for continuing to tease me. He would grab me and move me like he would if we were fucking and uuuunf it was so rough and I wanted it and eventually I said, “Fuck it. Put on another condom.”
He fucked me nice and hard, slamming into me and moving my body and holding me and gods I needed that. The whole time he was saying/whispering/growling dirty things into my ear that I could only half understand, and I was saying things like “Fuck” and “Yes” and “Use me.” Well, at one point he was growling something and I was saying “Yes” at about the same time when I realized that he had said the word “Cum.” Whether that meant orgasm or ejaculate, I didn’t want to answer without being sure what the question was, so I said “What?” but then it was too late and he pulled out and and whipped the condom off and started cumming on me. It would have been fine, except that he got some on my vulva. I slapped my hand over my pussy and kind of froze and was thinking “Oh shit oh shit oh shit.” He finished and grabbed a towel and wiped me off but wasn’t exactly the most careful about that.
I was actually freaked out at that point, and when he came back to cuddle, I expressed that a little bit. He apologized but didn’t seem to be getting how upset I was. Then, I started to unfreeze and process and decided to just be open and honest and told him that it had been upsetting. He apologized again and seemed to actually realize what had happened and was super sorry. I took a deep breath and said “Don’t laugh, but I think I want EC.” He decidedly did not laugh, and was incredibly understanding. He acknowledged his fuck up, said he could understand if I was mad, and offered to pay half the cost, without any prompting. Best possible response.
We hopped in the shower and, while we were showering, did a bit of the relationship negotiation-type discussion that my friend, Sexy Librarian, had told me she did when she negotiated with MLAM, which is something he and I didn’t do at the time. Former President and I determined that we both are mostly looking for friends. Particularly friends with special interests.
When we went back into the bedroom, he noticed that he had bit out one of my earrings. I was a bit sad, but not actually upset. He, on the other hand, felt super bad for two unfortunate things happening at once, so he kept looking for it long past when I’d given up. We cuddled a bit more, and then I got tired of just cuddling, so I started playing with his nipples and licking his balls. Remembering something he had said online, I asked him, “You enjoy anal play, right?” and when he answered in the affirmative, I started playing with his ass. I decided to have some fun and tease him. I asked him questions and made him tell me things like about the best paper he wrote in undergrad, while I played with his balls, nipples, and ass. He kept interrupting himself to make all sorts of lovely sounds. I love teasing. It makes me feel powerful, but at the same time, it’s me serving my purpose, to provide pleasure to men.
While we were talking about pain, he offered me a back massage, and I gave him a skeptical “Are you actually being nice or are you going to be hurting me?” look, and he said he wouldn’t say. It did feel fantastic, but also hurt. He was straddling me while giving me the massage, and then he was on top of me, sort of grinding against me, and I told him I was thinking about him fucking me in the ass. He said, “Oh?” and I continued telling him what I was thinking. He grabbed some lube and fingered my ass while I kept talking. Then he got a condom and yeah, I gave up that third hole. Anal with him was not at all painful and was really enjoyable because of his cock size.
We cuddled a bit more and talked for a while. He likes how responsive I am, and how small I am. (They usually do.) I told him he should spank me more, and that I wanted more pain next time. We also discussed the fact that he does, indeed, smoke, and has a guy, so at least I don’t need to worry about not having a source. I haven’t been, and don’t, smoke very much, though, so what I have should last me quite a while. Then, before I left, we had piv sex again for a little while. After I asked, “You’re not gonna pull that trick with the condom again, are ya?” and he said “No.” in a way that meant he def still felt bad about things.
We left his apartment and walked back holding hands. I noticed he seemed to be in a bit of a negative place, so I asked how he was doing. He still felt bad about the semen spillage, and I told him that while I was glad he took responsibility and owned his mistake and everything, I definitely didn’t want him to beat himself up about it. He said he wasn’t really beating himself up, but that he did feel like he should have had more control. We also figured out that he had thought I understood his question. When he realized I hadn’t, I think he felt even a bit worse. We kept talking as we walked, and made vague plans to hang out the following Wednesday. Those did not pan out.
I think one big difference between MLAM and Former President is that, with MLAM, there is more of a power dynamic, which is partially him, and partially just something that takes time to develop. Also, while I certainly enjoyed the sex, maybe I’m not looking for something quite so sex heavy. One relationship like that is good, but I don’t really need or want more than a couple people I’m having piv with at a given time. I think in the future, it will be a good idea to meet and hang out with someone a couple times before playing or fucking. Definitely holding off on piv sex for a bit in the future. It’s too easy a way to be dominant over someone, and not my primary interest right now.
Pain and Mark Tally: He spanked me, bit me nice and hard, and grabbed me hard. I came away with some bruises on my shoulders and sides, and a couple on my inner thigh that neither Former President knew where they came from.
Oh wouldn’t this be tragic if word of this spread out everywhere possible?
Oh no…my hand slipped…
Remember if you live somewhere where this is an option you need, you need to be keeping a healthy stock of pregnancy tests and using them regularly to catch the pregnancy early enough. It is incredibly common for people to only find out well past 10 weeks. Of course that can be expensive so look for the paper strip type that doctors use, not the bulky plastic types typically advertised for home use if you can. And dont fall for marketing gimmicks with pregnancy tests, they all work about the same, you don’t need a digital screen and if in doubt do another test tomorrow.
(Also do your test first thing when you wake up for best results)
I would HATE for anyone in Texas to ACCIDENTALLY read this…
The dollar store carries pregnancy tests and they’re just as accurate as the ones from the pharmacy, fyi
Having worked in a doctor’s office, can confirm we just used cheap plastic OTC pregnancy tests and the dollar tree has them sometimes for $1.
As a further reminder– (loosely) once the sperm hits the egg and you become “officially pregnant”, pregnancy is calculated by going back to the date of your LAST period.
So if the date of your conception is March 29, but you got off your period March 01, congrats! You’re now 1 month/4 weeks pregnant. That’s how pregnancy is calculated.
And you absolutely cannot find out the day you conceived that you’re pregnant, because it takes at least 2 weeks before your body makes enough HCG to be perceived by a pregnancy test– so that’s another two weeks.
Which means you could have sex, become pregnant, wait the two weeks to test, and be ‘six weeks’ pregnant. That’s right– if you do everything right, and find out you’re pregnant literally as SOON as possible, you can already be 6 weeks pregnant.
“The Texas Heartbeat Act prohibits abortion when there is a detectable heartbeat, which may be as early as 6 weeks into a woman’s pregnancy.” This is why this act is genuinely evil. You could be ‘two weeks out from the date you had the sex that got you pregnant’ and be 6 weeks pregnant.
It’s not likely, but it’s incredibly possible. If you miss a period, it hurts NOTHING to check immediately. Don’t wait. Waiting a single month after your missed period to test could mean you’re suddenly 10 weeks pregnant– or more.
Actually, hang on, I want to talk more–
I went to the aidaccess website. For some states, they can mail the medicine to you directly without a prescription. For others, they’ll do an online consult with a doctor to prescribe and then mail you the medicine.
The cost can be from $110-150.
When you first start the consult, you see this.
We want to look at the second option. Because these are shipped internationally, and as sited on the website due to covid delays, the medicine takes three to four weeks to reach you.
If you find out you are pregnant at six weeks, you must order immediately in order to do a pill abortion at home under the ten week window. However, it gives you the option to buy in advance. Both mifepristone and misoprostol tablets usually carry a 2-year shelf life. The price isn’t THAT much higher than Plan B.
I researched that on my own– the shelf life thing– but was incredibly pleased to see the aidaccess website got into it as well.
[Image text: Advance provision 1. If you live in a place with a very restrictive abortion law, it can be helpful to have the medicines for a medical abortion in advance case of a future unwanted pregnancy. In this case you should contact us again immediately when you find out that you are pregnant so that we can give you the proper guidance. Please check the expiration date when you received the medicines (most can be kept up to 2 years after receiving the package as long as they are kept at room temperature and in their original and undamaged blister packs. It is likely that they can be kept for even longer but their effectiveness cannot be guaranteed after that point.
2.If you want the medicines because you had unprotected sex less than 5 days ago, you can still use emergency contraceptives!]
The aidacess website walks you through EVERY PART OF THIS.
If you have $150 to spare, this is potentially live-saving medication. If your current plan is to drive out of state, stay for three days at a hotel to maybe get an in-person abortion after listening to a heartbeat etc, please consider that cost versus this cost. It has a shelf life of two years. I’m considering buying some right now.
I am incredibly moved to know this option exists and am currently about to share it with every social media site I can.
