If you’re an “ally”, aka a decent cishet human being that isn’t intersex, then good for you, but you’re not a part of the LGBTQ+ community.
The A is for Aromantic, Asexual, and Agender, and I’m tired of the acephobia going around claiming that we’re not a part of the community/we just want to be special/we just want to be oppressed/we’re using up resources/etc when those same people think the A means Ally.
1) We are a part of the community.
2) We aren’t appropriating anything. We are not heterosexual, cis, and/or heteroromantic, so we belong in the community.
3) We don’t want to be oppressed. No one with sense wants to be oppressed. The acephobia you and society spouts is a form of oppression. The measures taken to “correct” asexuality is oppression. The fact that asexuality was considered a disorder not too long ago is oppression. The fact that it’s hard to be out as ace is oppression.
4) “Using up resources” my ass. If one ace person doesn’t need them, that’s great, and they won’t use them, obviously. If another ace person does, who are we to deny them? Why is it a problem because we’re ace? If a gay person doesn’t need resources and another gay person does, no one shits on gay people for “using up resources others need”. No one assumes a trans person is taking resources when they don’t need them just because they’re available. What’s with the idea that ace people would?
TL;DR Acephobia is disgusting, Asexual, Aromantic, and Agender people belong in the LGBTQ+ community, and the A in LGBTQ+ does NOT stand for Ally.
And yes, this was sparked by the rampant acephobia after Jaiden Animation’s video. Do better, be better.
We have terfs who admit that ace discourse was their first step towards radfem ideas. We’ve had multiple break downs of how terfs and radfems try to radialize other people by using ace/bi/pan/nb/queer/etc. discourse. We’ve had multiple break downs of how popular exclusionist arguments use the same faulty logic and arguments that radfems use.
Can exclusionists maybe finally admit that this is a problem and either drop the discourse entirely or try to come up with arguments that aren’t copied from radfems?
This is really important to recognize, because exclusionists don’t often want to recognize this dirty little truth about their community.
note how the “queer is(always)a slur (and should never be used, even to talk about yourself or the queer community or queer academia)” nonsense is directly mentioned as point 2 on the aphobe to TERF pipeline
