#gorean

I had an exchange today with a fellow Master and this got me thinking about the practical aspects of organizing a polygamous relationship. Working as a professional in a field which closely scrutinizes the meaning and effects of all sorts of relationships, I have come to some insights, which I wish to share.

It is all well and good to fantasize about having a posse of mindless slaves or obliging subs to do your bidding but how is this going to be sustainable? If you have managerial/leadership experience, you will know that human resource management can be the most challenging aspect of the job. Every single recruit to the cause comes with a different set of skills, personal backgrounds, interests and dislikes, values and goals, and personal attitudes and aptitudes. This will affect the way they relate to others within the unit, their abilities, the effort they will put in, their compliance, and their longer-term commitment.

It is much the same in setting up a harem. Your ability to manage multiple people really depends on your ability to select the right individuals, and unless you can predict the future, you will likely fail. People invariably will present their most pleasing aspects during the first few meetings, showcasing their hidden flaws much later on, when things start becoming comfortable.

So the following will detail my advice on how to start and maintain a harem. Please note, I am interested essentially in polygyny which is maintaining a relationship between one man and multiple women, so my advice will reference this lifestyle within a dominance and submission framework. However, I do think aspects of this will still be applicable to other poly-amorous lifestyles.

1. Probably the best thing you could do is to enter into a relationship with a girl pair/group at the same time. For girls interested in this lifestyle, I always suggest talking to your sisters, friends and other female relatives and forming a harem with them before finding your Master. For Masters, look for a group of girls wanting to enter into a relationship with you at the same time. Sisters, friends and relatives have a natural bond which will endear them to each other and promote the continuation of the relationship.

2. For those already in a relationship, I suggest getting your partner emotionally invested in a polygamous setup. This whole thing will only work if both partners have the same vision. It is only natural that 2 people coming into a relationship don’t see eye to eye on every single thing. However, it is also natural that individuals in a relationship grow to adopt some of the interests of the other. So, introduce your partner to this lifestyle and monitor the uptake. To this end, you can introduce them to any number of Gorean, Cuckquean and similar literature, groups, blogs or websites. If they are interested, proceed to point 3. If they are not interested, do not pursue this for it will only end in tears.

3.  For those in a relationship with a willing partner, delegate the task of finding the other partners to her. Similarly for girls reading this who are already in a relationship with a guy who is willing to Master a harem, take it upon yourself to find the other partners.

4. It will be infinitely better to find partners from the pool of women you already know. This means within sisters, friends and female relatives. As for reasons why, please read point 1.

5. It will be essential for girls involved to completely serve under the leadership of their Master without limits, surrendering any moral compass or conscience to their Master, and unquestioningly serving all his interests whether it appeals to them or not. In the less than ideal setting where there are limits, these should be observed by all members equally. 

6. It will be essential for all members to maintain secrecy about their lifestyle in regard to all outside members. All potential new recruits should be vetted extensively before letting them into your exclusive group. This is both for safety and your peace of mind.

7. It will be essential for there to be some sort of agreed hierarchy within the group. Order and structure are essential for good and clear group dynamics. This should be enforced by the more senior members of the group.

8. It will be essential for group activities to extend to other areas of life apart from sexual activities so relationships can become wholesome.

9. One must think about the costs of running such an endeavour and really, a stay at home group of slaves that is not generating any income, is neither practical nor sustainable. So, I would suggest gainful employment be sought by all members to contribute towards the Master’s harem.

10. If members of the group are threatening group dynamics by not observing the hierarchy, not observing secrecy, not contributing financially and otherwise, not following the group rules, have severe mental illnesses or personality disorders, or engaging in damaging habits (severe drugs and alcohol, self harming and overdosing, violent/criminal acts, undisclosed infidelity) have a discussion within the group and release them from the group. Trying to work with these problems will do more harm than good for the harem.

So there you have it. This is actually quite a serious post. I have been thinking about these issues for awhile but I have finally gained the impetus to put it in writing. I hope you aspiring polygamists out there will find the above points useful. If you wish to discuss anything at all, do not hesitate to contact me.

The Noose of Light by Mark Harrison

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This is a topic this girl has wanted to write about here for awhile but had been distracted or temporarily forgotten until now.

First off, what is this girl talking about.

Well simply the use by some submissives and slaves to use 3rd person when talking of themselves instead of the use of 1st person personal identification like “I” and “Me” and the use of lower case lettering for slave names and personal identification when using 3rd person or 1st person.

Contrary to popular belief these forms of slave speech is not Gorean in origin. Gor if your not familiar is a fantasy book series from the author John Norman that has a rich slave and D/s culture that has spread to online and real life use as a form of D/s roleplay. Yes Gorean online culture popularized these things, but the origins are much much older. Like almost every D/s part of the Gor novels you will find the origins come from D/s and slave culture in history. The different forms of kneeling, the slave speech etc all come from D/s and slave history around the world. The Gor novels and popularity online just consolidated it into one place. As for the slave speech, the Gor novels actually had slaves use both 3rd and 1st person. So it was not a Gorean hard and fast rule.

So where did these things come from and why use them now?

Theuse of capitol and lower case is often cited as an invention of Greek scribes beginning around the 3rd century AD. Though this girl has heard of it used in Sumerian text, but has found no proof of this. The Greek scribes began using Capitol for names of free people, and lower case for names of owned people. This made for an easy way to tell them apart at a glance. There is some interesting information on how this is actually still a legal trick used today with the use of all capitol letters for people’s names.

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Look at your Bills, check out your Drivers License, your Social Security Card, Utility Bills, anything with your name on it.

What do you see?

Any form that is used for Business purposes will have YOUR NAME in Capital Letters.

I notice but why is it printed like that?

Anytime you are involved in Business Transactions, you will always see YOUR NAME in CAPITAL LETTERS. Only in this form are you able to deal with either Banks or the Government. Whenever Your Name is spelled with a combination of capital and lower case letters it refers directly to you as a Natural Person.

another source of this type of modern capitol names use information The-Legalities-of-AllCapitalLetters-Names-your-drivers-license

This girl won’t get into all the stuff on the legal all cap names, but just know the use of capitol and lower case is a very important thing to people and can actually be used without your knowledge or consent.

So when it comes to D/s what does a slave using lower case signify? That they are owned, or property, or it is an act of taking a submissive role. The lower casing of a name, or using “i” instead of “I” is a way for a slave to show their submissive role. This is something you see online more than in real life, due to you don’t often see people write in real life about themselves. Online this can become a very important tool for a sub or slave to show their submission, to express their subbie nature, or even identify themselves. It also helps put the sub in a special mental state where they feel more connected to their submissive nature. Lets face it, most subs are not living a 24/7 D/s life. So little tricks like no capitols can help bring that submissive nature to the surface after a hard day of being the boss at the office. Happens more than you would think.

Now the use of 3rd person over 1st person is one most often cited as a Gorean invention, but once again it was just borrowed and popularized by the Gor novels and online Gor. The use of 3rd person by slaves is well documented as used by the African slaves in the USA. While not all of them used it, there was a majority who did. This was in part to create a division between free people and owned people, just like with the use of capitol letters. It was also used to indoctrinate the slaves into being property, to give them no ability to think of themselves as self possessed. Think 1984 thoughtcrime style. This was actually not a new thing for slaves though. It has been done through out history with many different cultures that had slavery. In Roman and Greek culture, it was actually done voluntarily by some slaves as a form of respect for their owners and to show the slaves as owned property. Of course Roman and Greek slavery was quite different then African slaves of the USA. Roman and Greek slaves often felt pride in their slavery and were often treated quite well.

So again the use of 3rd person modernly has come from the past, for subs and slaves to be able to differentiate themselves from free nonsubmissive people. It again is a way for a subbie to get into their mental state of submission. Like the ancient Roman and Greek slaves, it can be a sign of submission and respect to their owner or Dom/me. Again it makes a clearer distinction for online D/s, no trouble spotting the subbies when they speak in 3rd person. Like the use of lower case, this is a way for submissives and slaves to “get into character” after a day of not being in D/s life.

Some Dom/mes ask or command their subs to use these methods, but often this girl has found it is the subs themselves that take on these forms. This girl was not commanded to do it, and she knows many others who were not. As this girl said it is a way to mentally get into that submissive mind, to bring it to the surface. While this girl lives pretty much a 24/7 D/s life, she does enjoy the use of these methods. This girl also is involved in a D/s relationship that is primarily online, what might be another part of why, when you can’t express your self in subtle body language then altering your text to a submissive tone helps convey your submissive nature.

While this does not cover the whole scope of this topic it is a dive into the subject that hopefully will help educate and get people thinking. Maybe it will also help get the word out that this is much older than Gor. Since it is often sterotyped as a Gorean thing. This girl has never been involved in Gorean D/s roleplay and has no interest in it. This girl has only briefly read some of the books, and honestly they are poorly written. While there are some interesting ideas in it, a lot is written like a teenage boy’s fantasy for slavery. Very immature and unrealistic from a woman’s point of view. This girl is not discounting the entire work, as girl said she has not read it all. This girl is pointing out though well accepted truths about the writing style of the books. Many fans of Gor will admit these faults, but they have overcome them for love of the deeper story. This girl never was able to get past the poor writing, but then this girl is very well read and has expectations that many might not.

Well hope people enjoy this.

“I will be gentle with you this time,” I said, “but sometimes, you must understand, you will be used quite differently, for example, with contempt or scorn, or brutality, or cruel indifference, or, perhaps, with ruthless power.”

“Yes, Master,” she said.

“Similarly,” I said, “you will learn to serve in whatever position your master dictates and in whatever garb, or lack of garb, he pleases.”

“Yes, Master,” she said.

“And sometimes, too,” I said, “you may have to serve in bonds, even cruel bonds, such things as thongs, and cords and chains.”

“Yes, Master,” she said.

“And sometimes, too,” I said, “willlessly, even though your back and legs may still sting from his lash.”

“Yes, Master,” she said.

“You will learn to serve him whenever, wherever and however he wishes,” I said.

“Yes, Master,” she said.

“And perfectly,” I said.

“Yes, Master,” she said.

“For he is the Master, and you are the Slave,” I said.

“Yes, Master,” she said.

“For you are nothing, and he is all,” I said.

“I understand, Master,” she whispered.

Savages of Gor - Page 187

Being a slave is a whole way of life, involving a total modality of existence. There is a great deal more to it than simply serving a master in the furs.

Players of Gor

Most men of Earth do not, truly, unfortunately, pay much attention to women. Men often do not even, truly, know their mates. If they did, it seems that misunderstandings, divorces, and such, would be less frequent. An interesting contrast here is the Gorean master/slave relationship. Men tend to be extremely interested in things they own, and tend, usually, to be quite fond of them. Owned women do not form an exception to this general rule. The slave girl is commonly desired and prized by her master; she is one of his treasures. The Gorean master, interested in her and attentive to her, wants to know everything about her, in its complexity and intimacy. He wants to know her thoughts, her emotions and feelings, in their feminine, lyrical detail. Conversing with a lovely slave is one of the many pleasures of owning her. It is almost impossible for a girl to keep her thoughts or feelings from her master. He knows her too well. Most girls are extremely responsive to their masters, and love them deeply, with that incredible love which can be known only by an enslaved woman, that love which a woman can accord only to a man who is her total master.

Fighting Slave of Gor

“What is the duty of a slave girl?” I inquired.

“Absolute obedience,” she said, frightened.

“What are you?” I inquired.

“A slave girl,” she said.

“What is your duty?” I asked.

“Absolute obedience,” she cried out.

I looked out to sea. The two lanterns were now closer.

“Kneel,” I told Tina.

She did so immediately, frightened, her head to the ground.

Some four hundred yards away from shore, by my conjecture, the two lanterns stopped. There was then a third lantern, lower that the other two.

I took the slave whip from my belt and touched Tina on the shoulder with it.

She looked up, frightened.

“Please do not beat me,” she whispered.

I held the whip before her. “Kiss the whip,” I told her.

She did so, and looked up at me, pleading.

“Absolute obedience,” I told her.

“Yes, Master,” she whispered, terrified. “Absolute obedience.”

“The truest beauty, of course, comes from within, and, I suppose, from many sources. It may be, for example, a function of the lessening of inhibitions, and the removal of anxieties and internal contradictions. It may come from contentment, from happiness, from fulfillment, from joy, from such things. Such things cannot help but transform one’s expressions, one’s movements, one’s entire attitude and behavior. The beauty of the outside begins its journey from within.” (Witness of Gor, p.51)

“They all desire to be totally prisoners of love, and they will never be fully content until they become so.” (Mercenaries of Gor, p.68)

“Slavery has many effects on a woman, he said, It softens her, it enhances her beauty, it gives her a profound sense of herself, it fulfills her, it increases, considerably, her sexual responsiveness, it increases a thousandfold her capabilities to love, but one effect it does not have, it does not reduce her intelligence.” (Witness of Gor, p.311)

“I had been told I must live a lie. I had been told I must pretend to be what I was not. But here I had learned I must live the truth, and must be true to myself.” (Witness of Gor, p.308)

He looked on her intently. He studied her. He gave her great attention. She turned her head to one side, her wrists secured in many turns of the binding fiber, her fists clenched….on earth many men did not even know their wives…Never, truly had they seen them. But a Gorean Master will know every inch, and care for every inch, of one of his slave girls. He will know every hair, every sweet blemish of her. In a way she is nothing to him, for she is only a slave. But in another way she is very important to him. She is one of his women. He will know her. He will want to know her completely, every inch of her body, every inch of her mind. Nothing less will satisfy him. She is his property. He will choose to know his property thoroughly.

Hunters of Gor - Page 145

“The collar,” I said, touching it, “is put on from without, but what it encircles, the slave, comes from within.”

“Master?” she asked.

“Slavery,” I told her, “true slavery, comes from within, and you, my lovely little red-haired beast, I assure you, as was evidenced by your behavior and performances this night, are a true slave. Do not fight your slavery. Allow it freely and spontaneously, candidly, sweetly and untrammeled, to manifest itself. It is what you are.”

Savages of Gor.

So it is a new year and I am ready to start a new chapter in my life. Specifically I am ready to try dating again. It’s been a loooooooong while since I have dated anyone. I have come to realize that if I am going to be happy, I need to find someone that I can share my kink with. I don’t think I can go back to vanilla.

So I am going to be opening a FetLife account. Tumblr is okay as a online community for people who share the bimbo kink, but it seems like all the girls I meet here aren’t even in my same timezone.

However, to start a FetLife account I need to choose a screen name. I want to move away from “GoreanMann”. I’ve stuck with it here on Tumblr because that is how all my friends and followers know me, but it doesn’t really suit me. I am not a Gorean (it was a mistake of my early days in online erotica). So I want to propose the following contest. I am accepting suggestions for a new screen name. The person who submits the winning suggestion gets 1000 shiny new bimbo points!