I had an exchange today with a fellow Master and this got me thinking about the practical aspects of organizing a polygamous relationship. Working as a professional in a field which closely scrutinizes the meaning and effects of all sorts of relationships, I have come to some insights, which I wish to share.

It is all well and good to fantasize about having a posse of mindless slaves or obliging subs to do your bidding but how is this going to be sustainable? If you have managerial/leadership experience, you will know that human resource management can be the most challenging aspect of the job. Every single recruit to the cause comes with a different set of skills, personal backgrounds, interests and dislikes, values and goals, and personal attitudes and aptitudes. This will affect the way they relate to others within the unit, their abilities, the effort they will put in, their compliance, and their longer-term commitment.

It is much the same in setting up a harem. Your ability to manage multiple people really depends on your ability to select the right individuals, and unless you can predict the future, you will likely fail. People invariably will present their most pleasing aspects during the first few meetings, showcasing their hidden flaws much later on, when things start becoming comfortable.

So the following will detail my advice on how to start and maintain a harem. Please note, I am interested essentially in polygyny which is maintaining a relationship between one man and multiple women, so my advice will reference this lifestyle within a dominance and submission framework. However, I do think aspects of this will still be applicable to other poly-amorous lifestyles.

1. Probably the best thing you could do is to enter into a relationship with a girl pair/group at the same time. For girls interested in this lifestyle, I always suggest talking to your sisters, friends and other female relatives and forming a harem with them before finding your Master. For Masters, look for a group of girls wanting to enter into a relationship with you at the same time. Sisters, friends and relatives have a natural bond which will endear them to each other and promote the continuation of the relationship.

2. For those already in a relationship, I suggest getting your partner emotionally invested in a polygamous setup. This whole thing will only work if both partners have the same vision. It is only natural that 2 people coming into a relationship don’t see eye to eye on every single thing. However, it is also natural that individuals in a relationship grow to adopt some of the interests of the other. So, introduce your partner to this lifestyle and monitor the uptake. To this end, you can introduce them to any number of Gorean, Cuckquean and similar literature, groups, blogs or websites. If they are interested, proceed to point 3. If they are not interested, do not pursue this for it will only end in tears.

3.  For those in a relationship with a willing partner, delegate the task of finding the other partners to her. Similarly for girls reading this who are already in a relationship with a guy who is willing to Master a harem, take it upon yourself to find the other partners.

4. It will be infinitely better to find partners from the pool of women you already know. This means within sisters, friends and female relatives. As for reasons why, please read point 1.

5. It will be essential for girls involved to completely serve under the leadership of their Master without limits, surrendering any moral compass or conscience to their Master, and unquestioningly serving all his interests whether it appeals to them or not. In the less than ideal setting where there are limits, these should be observed by all members equally. 

6. It will be essential for all members to maintain secrecy about their lifestyle in regard to all outside members. All potential new recruits should be vetted extensively before letting them into your exclusive group. This is both for safety and your peace of mind.

7. It will be essential for there to be some sort of agreed hierarchy within the group. Order and structure are essential for good and clear group dynamics. This should be enforced by the more senior members of the group.

8. It will be essential for group activities to extend to other areas of life apart from sexual activities so relationships can become wholesome.

9. One must think about the costs of running such an endeavour and really, a stay at home group of slaves that is not generating any income, is neither practical nor sustainable. So, I would suggest gainful employment be sought by all members to contribute towards the Master’s harem.

10. If members of the group are threatening group dynamics by not observing the hierarchy, not observing secrecy, not contributing financially and otherwise, not following the group rules, have severe mental illnesses or personality disorders, or engaging in damaging habits (severe drugs and alcohol, self harming and overdosing, violent/criminal acts, undisclosed infidelity) have a discussion within the group and release them from the group. Trying to work with these problems will do more harm than good for the harem.

So there you have it. This is actually quite a serious post. I have been thinking about these issues for awhile but I have finally gained the impetus to put it in writing. I hope you aspiring polygamists out there will find the above points useful. If you wish to discuss anything at all, do not hesitate to contact me.

10 reasons for polygamy

For most of human history polygamy (i.e. polygyny - one man with multiple women) was the norm. This was how nature intended it and we see it right across the animal kingdom and especially so with our closest mammal relatives. So, why should it be any different for us humans? The problem seems to stem from a mistaken belief that women and men are increasingly happier with modernity. Whilst the technological advancements of the current age have brought much comforts, I don’t think we can say we are happier as a species. Depression and suicide rates are through the roof as are all manner of other psychiatric disorders. This is why a return to the ways of the past with respect to polygamy will bring us closer to nature and is the path our kind should take. The following are some of the positive reasons for polygamy.

1. Families, siblings, friendships stay together. Typically these relationships grow apart at least to some degree over time but if you stay in a relationship with one man, this will not happen and you will work towards common goals.

2. Potential financial benefits may be greater if there are several working adults supporting the family.

3. Domestic and other chores will be less time consuming with more hands on deck.

4. Sexual interactions will be infinitely more exciting. This will be especially so if women leave these choices to the Man who they serve.

5. Loneliness will never trouble you ever again. I suspect that this in fact is likely the major cause of mental illness in our increasingly fractured society with isolated nuclear families.

6. Any sort of entertaining activity or outing will be infinitely more fun.

7. All problems are better solved with more heads and brains under a centralised leader.

8. You will have a sense of purpose and order belonging to a larger unit where your place in the hierarchy is clear.

9. Men have bountiful seed and thus have been clearly made/evolved to have multiple partners to give their progeny the best chance of survival.

10. Women have a finite number of eggs and a limited number of menstrual cycles where they can conceive. If they do conceive, they are unable to conceive further for another year typically on top of a further focus on child rearing, an extended period during which they are more vulnerable and need added protection. This clearly indicates that girls have been made/evolved to select one Man to serve and get his favour, to give their progeny the best chance of survival.

Discuss with your partners or if single, discuss with your sisters, friends and female relatives. Make it happen and enjoy a life of bliss!

Jenni was exhausted after spending many hours chatting with her new found friend, Steve. They had been talking about what real love was meant to be. All around them in the natural world there was plenty of polygamy and the same in humans until very recently. Steve had laid out the clear foundations for this. Man had but plenty of seed, clearly intended to spread far and wide to give his progeny the best chances of survival. Women on the other hand, only had a finite number of eggs, a finite number of menstrual cycles, and if they got pregnant, they would be unable to conceive for an extended period. So, it was in the woman’s interest to reserve her energies to finding her one male lover to dedicate the rest of her life to. This clearly favoured Men having multiple female partners all dedicated to only him alone. Nature had clearly intended this to be the way and this was the reason for the success that humans had achieved over all other animals. “Why had we gone against nature in the last 50 to 100 years?”, Steve asked.

Jenni kept ruminating over these conversations she was having daily with Steve and became more and more convinced that this was how it was meant to be. The week had gone by and she had all but fallen in love with Steve, but she did not want to propose to him on her own. She wondered about who would be both brave and visionary to join her in this endeavour but also considered how such a relationship could last. It finally occurred to her that her younger sister, Gina, would be the perfect person to join her in this adventure. Who else would understand and care for her as a sister whilst simultaneously being in a relationship with the same guy as her?

Jenni and Gina shared the same room anyway and Gina had been aware that Jenni had been talking animatedly to a guy called Steve. So, when Jenni brought his name up in a conversation, she was not surprised. However, she was surprised when Jenni proposed to her that they both date Steve together. Both Gina and Jenni had never been in a relationship before although they had their fair share of crushes over the years. This seemed like a big step for the both of them. Nevertheless, the idea that they would both be together with one man, sharing the love, their deepest thoughts and desires, as well as a future together, seemed like a wonderful idea. So, Gina told Jenni that she loved her plan and wanted to get involved immediately.

That night, Jenni introduced Gina to Steve, and the three spoke at length. By the end of the conversation, in their excitement, the two girls had blurted out their plans to Steve to become his girlfriends. Steve of course was very pleased, and told them as much. He discussed his expectations of the relationship, namely complete submission and obedience to him. This was all new to both girls but they had read and seen plenty of literature and videos depicting the joys of dominant-submissive relationships. Eager to get started and in the joy of their new found love, the girls readily agreed to his conditions.

The following night, Steve texted instructions to both girls to send him pictures of themselves together in various clothing. He told them to stop wearing bras and send him pictures of themselves in lesser and lesser clothing until they were completely naked. Jenni was the first to remove her bra and urged Gina to follow suit. She took out her smart phone and took several pictures of the both of them and sent it with kisses to Steve. As the girls dutifully obliged, they began to enjoy this more and more. and this pleased Steve greatly. The girls were dripping wet by the end of the night with all the pictures and videos and could not wait to see him. The three of them then arranged to meet at his home when no one else was around the following day.

…To be continued…

In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

️ Question: If your husband had four wives, what kind of co-wife would you be?

Answer: Allah the Almighty knows best.

If my husband, with Allah’s Will and Qadr/Decree, was legally married to four women, with me being one of his wives, I would:

1] Try my best to frequently remind him to take care of all his wives as fairly and lovingly as he can for Allah’s sake, avoiding intentional injustice and unjustified negligence towards any of the women whom he is lawfully married to.

2] Advise the other wives to have patience with our husband whenever he is financially struggling or emotionally unwell.

3] Occasionally visit the residence of each co-wife, if we’ve learned to become close friends, and similarly welcome them to the place where I stay whenever I’m in the mood to receive visitors.

4] Consistently make effort to develop the friendship and sisterly love for Allah’s sake with the wives of our husband, while staying away from favoritism and insecurely teaming up against one wife or two wives.

5] Treat the children of my husband’s other wives as if they were my own kids - with patient empathy and understanding. If one wife is infertile, I’d do what I can to avoid mentioning topics which I sense could upset her.

6] Invite all co-wives or one co-wife on different timings for shopping, attending Islamic lectures together, or dining outdoors to strengthen our sisterhood for Allah’s sake, while reminding one another to stay steadfast regarding showing respect to our dear husband.

7] Act as an unbiased referee whenever two or three co-wives are quarreling, and calmly attempt to resolve the dispute, instead of coaxing them to aggravate avoidable drama.

8] Inspire each co-wife to diligently educate their loved ones and other individuals about the virtues and wisdom of why Allah the Most Wise legalized capable and willing Muslim males to be wed to up to four loving wives.

9] Coach my husband to always forgive his wives, including myself, if ever any of them behaves in a way that he finds disappointing. Motivate him to never quit trying to keep the family strong and united for Allah’s sake, reminding him as well as the co-wives that our foe shaytan is the only one who truly gets satisfied upon witnessing the number of broken Muslim families increasing due to pride/kibr, selfishness, impatience, unjust suspicion, and irrational attachment to this fleeting dunya.

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Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu ‘anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes.”

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife.”

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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