This advice is meant for girls interested in threesomes and polygamous relationships involving their sisters (or equivalent - friends, cousins, female relatives etc.). Thanks to societal bullshit expectations, men have been taught to suppress their primal instinct to collect more women throughout the course of their lives. As a result, they will often deny any interest in polygamous relationships, contrary to their natural drives. So, girls interested in living by nature’s rules of being part of a harem or family of women serving one man, will often find it difficult to bring up this topic with the hope of getting honest answers and thoughts. Therefore, I have devised a method for girls to smoothly and quickly start a functioning harem even with men who superficially deny interest in these things.

1. Pre-discuss with your sister(s) and set-up a harem with them.

2. Familiarize all sisters with the usual kinks by reading through a blog such as this.

3. Establish some clear rules for a harem to function - such as a clear hierarchy, complete obedience to a Master without limits, complete privacy, strict vetting of new recruits and clear consequences on flouting of rules, etc.

4. Insist that other sisters must chaperone any of the sisters going on any dates. If you are already dating or are in a relationship, just insist upon this for all future outings with your man.

5. Send him nudes of yourself and all your harem sisters frequently even if he protests.

6. On the date itself, all girls should wear very revealing clothing and no bra or panties.

7. Whilst he might be focused on the girl he had asked out on the date, all the girls present should be frequently flashing him their breasts and vaginas and making reference to each others privates casually and openly.

8. They should also dare each other starting with his intended date, to expose themselves and perform various sex acts on him, in a cheerful and humorous fashion.

9. Then they should casually get him to do some rough sex acts on them as a dare.

10. If things progress well, they should as a group, beg him to be their Master and to use them as he pleases.

I hope the above tips lead to the formation of a good number of harems. Remember girls, all males are meant to be alphas to all women, whether they know it or not. Serve your men and pay homage to nature by helping the men you know reach and satisfy all their primal drives.

I had an exchange today with a fellow Master and this got me thinking about the practical aspects of organizing a polygamous relationship. Working as a professional in a field which closely scrutinizes the meaning and effects of all sorts of relationships, I have come to some insights, which I wish to share.

It is all well and good to fantasize about having a posse of mindless slaves or obliging subs to do your bidding but how is this going to be sustainable? If you have managerial/leadership experience, you will know that human resource management can be the most challenging aspect of the job. Every single recruit to the cause comes with a different set of skills, personal backgrounds, interests and dislikes, values and goals, and personal attitudes and aptitudes. This will affect the way they relate to others within the unit, their abilities, the effort they will put in, their compliance, and their longer-term commitment.

It is much the same in setting up a harem. Your ability to manage multiple people really depends on your ability to select the right individuals, and unless you can predict the future, you will likely fail. People invariably will present their most pleasing aspects during the first few meetings, showcasing their hidden flaws much later on, when things start becoming comfortable.

So the following will detail my advice on how to start and maintain a harem. Please note, I am interested essentially in polygyny which is maintaining a relationship between one man and multiple women, so my advice will reference this lifestyle within a dominance and submission framework. However, I do think aspects of this will still be applicable to other poly-amorous lifestyles.

1. Probably the best thing you could do is to enter into a relationship with a girl pair/group at the same time. For girls interested in this lifestyle, I always suggest talking to your sisters, friends and other female relatives and forming a harem with them before finding your Master. For Masters, look for a group of girls wanting to enter into a relationship with you at the same time. Sisters, friends and relatives have a natural bond which will endear them to each other and promote the continuation of the relationship.

2. For those already in a relationship, I suggest getting your partner emotionally invested in a polygamous setup. This whole thing will only work if both partners have the same vision. It is only natural that 2 people coming into a relationship don’t see eye to eye on every single thing. However, it is also natural that individuals in a relationship grow to adopt some of the interests of the other. So, introduce your partner to this lifestyle and monitor the uptake. To this end, you can introduce them to any number of Gorean, Cuckquean and similar literature, groups, blogs or websites. If they are interested, proceed to point 3. If they are not interested, do not pursue this for it will only end in tears.

3.  For those in a relationship with a willing partner, delegate the task of finding the other partners to her. Similarly for girls reading this who are already in a relationship with a guy who is willing to Master a harem, take it upon yourself to find the other partners.

4. It will be infinitely better to find partners from the pool of women you already know. This means within sisters, friends and female relatives. As for reasons why, please read point 1.

5. It will be essential for girls involved to completely serve under the leadership of their Master without limits, surrendering any moral compass or conscience to their Master, and unquestioningly serving all his interests whether it appeals to them or not. In the less than ideal setting where there are limits, these should be observed by all members equally. 

6. It will be essential for all members to maintain secrecy about their lifestyle in regard to all outside members. All potential new recruits should be vetted extensively before letting them into your exclusive group. This is both for safety and your peace of mind.

7. It will be essential for there to be some sort of agreed hierarchy within the group. Order and structure are essential for good and clear group dynamics. This should be enforced by the more senior members of the group.

8. It will be essential for group activities to extend to other areas of life apart from sexual activities so relationships can become wholesome.

9. One must think about the costs of running such an endeavour and really, a stay at home group of slaves that is not generating any income, is neither practical nor sustainable. So, I would suggest gainful employment be sought by all members to contribute towards the Master’s harem.

10. If members of the group are threatening group dynamics by not observing the hierarchy, not observing secrecy, not contributing financially and otherwise, not following the group rules, have severe mental illnesses or personality disorders, or engaging in damaging habits (severe drugs and alcohol, self harming and overdosing, violent/criminal acts, undisclosed infidelity) have a discussion within the group and release them from the group. Trying to work with these problems will do more harm than good for the harem.

So there you have it. This is actually quite a serious post. I have been thinking about these issues for awhile but I have finally gained the impetus to put it in writing. I hope you aspiring polygamists out there will find the above points useful. If you wish to discuss anything at all, do not hesitate to contact me.

10 reasons for polygamy

For most of human history polygamy (i.e. polygyny - one man with multiple women) was the norm. This was how nature intended it and we see it right across the animal kingdom and especially so with our closest mammal relatives. So, why should it be any different for us humans? The problem seems to stem from a mistaken belief that women and men are increasingly happier with modernity. Whilst the technological advancements of the current age have brought much comforts, I don’t think we can say we are happier as a species. Depression and suicide rates are through the roof as are all manner of other psychiatric disorders. This is why a return to the ways of the past with respect to polygamy will bring us closer to nature and is the path our kind should take. The following are some of the positive reasons for polygamy.

1. Families, siblings, friendships stay together. Typically these relationships grow apart at least to some degree over time but if you stay in a relationship with one man, this will not happen and you will work towards common goals.

2. Potential financial benefits may be greater if there are several working adults supporting the family.

3. Domestic and other chores will be less time consuming with more hands on deck.

4. Sexual interactions will be infinitely more exciting. This will be especially so if women leave these choices to the Man who they serve.

5. Loneliness will never trouble you ever again. I suspect that this in fact is likely the major cause of mental illness in our increasingly fractured society with isolated nuclear families.

6. Any sort of entertaining activity or outing will be infinitely more fun.

7. All problems are better solved with more heads and brains under a centralised leader.

8. You will have a sense of purpose and order belonging to a larger unit where your place in the hierarchy is clear.

9. Men have bountiful seed and thus have been clearly made/evolved to have multiple partners to give their progeny the best chance of survival.

10. Women have a finite number of eggs and a limited number of menstrual cycles where they can conceive. If they do conceive, they are unable to conceive further for another year typically on top of a further focus on child rearing, an extended period during which they are more vulnerable and need added protection. This clearly indicates that girls have been made/evolved to select one Man to serve and get his favour, to give their progeny the best chance of survival.

Discuss with your partners or if single, discuss with your sisters, friends and female relatives. Make it happen and enjoy a life of bliss!

Kinks of a Dom

This is a personal post to order and organise my interests. Naturally new things arise from time to time and priorities can change as well. So, I have taken pains to list the most stable and arousing of my interests.

1. Areola slip

2. Nip slip

3. Large areolas

4. Large nipples

5. Large labia

6. Large natural breasts

7. Saggy breasts

8. Braless and pantiless

9. Old man and Young girl

10. Fat man and slim girl

11. Ugly/disabled man and beautiful girl

12. Dominance and submission (M>f)

13. Cum facial

14. Cum swallow

15. Ass licking/Rimming

16. Girl drinking Man’s piss

17. Girl eating Man’s shit

18. Girl being Man’s toilet

19. Face fucking

20. Tit torture

21. Pussy torture

22. Groping/Stripping

23. Forced everything

24. Anal especially painal

25. Virgin defloration

26. Ass to mouth and pussy to mouth

27. One guy and many girls

28. Humiliation of girls

29. 24/7 TPE with no limits

30. Flashing and exhibitionism

If any of these interest you, contact me. I am constantly on the look out for more slaves to join the Harem.

This is advice for those who are fantasizing about becoming subsluts and are not yet owned. For those who are owned, this may give you something to think about.

1. Stop wearing bras and panties.

2. Always wear revealing clothing. Your nipples, breasts and pussy should be easily seen and accessed.

3. Try not to have tattoos and piercings as your body should be a blank template for your future Master to use as he wishes.

4. Voraciously consume written material in this post and the rest of this blog and similar blogs to gain some direction and purpose.

5. Immediately obey all men in all areas of life. Apart from sexual matters which I will explore further in this post, this will involve obedience in financial, academic, social, family matters, etc. Start obeying your annoying younger brother for example. Give in to all his requests. Give him everything you have without any complaints.

6. Obey all men, no matter how young or old, smart or intellectually disabled, slim or fat, attractive or unattractive, well groomed or dirty and smelly, rich or poor, physically/mentally able or disabled, dominant or submissive, aggressive or passive, in all areas of life without question and without limits.

7. Advertise your submission to all men you come across in the way you behave and smile to them and anticipate and live to please their every wish and fancy.

8. Send all men who request, your nude pictures and videos including those of your friends, sisters and so on, without hesitation.

9. For you there is no such thing as molest, rape and assault as you are a tool for all men to use as they wish.

10. Actively encourage men to grope and use you at will. If a stranger gropes you, position yourself such that it becomes much easier for him to grope you. Only go away when he physically makes you.

11. Kiss men only on their penis and anus, unless they insist otherwise.

12. Try to perform oral sex on all men that you know and don’t know. Perform oral sex in whichever way the man wants it. I for example, want to be embraced while I fuck the sub’s face mercilessly.

13. If you perform oral sex, always lick his anus and when you do, stick your tongue as far as you can into his anal cavity.

14. When he cums on your face, drink and swallow what goes into your mouth and leave the rest on your face to dry.

15. Beg all men to use you as a toilet. Drink his piss, lick his anus clean, eat his shit.

16. Always sleep with your face in his crotch or anus.

17. Use his penis as a pacifier and try to suck on him 24/7, if he is soft or hard, distracted or interested, pissing, shitting or not, awake or asleep.

18. Get your sisters, friends, cousins, other female relatives, or other girls to join you in a harem under the same rules as discussed above and look for your Master.

19. Look for your master in all men be they friends, teachers, relatives, strangers, in person or online. Tumblr seems to be a great place to find a master for yourself as the men here are really openly advertising their sexual interests. You should approach all men on tumblr who claim to be masters and beg to serve as they wish.

20. Any man who claims you as his sub-slave will from that point onward be your only Master and you will only serve him and whoever else he wishes.

A subslut will make no distinction between a good looking rich 20 something year old dominant man and a dirty, homeless, morbidly obese, 70 something year old man walking with a hunch and a limp. She must have served the underclass to be truly a subslut worthy of such a title. I really value the pretty young girl daily pleasuring and getting a cum facial from a great grandfather in a wheel chair.

Example scenario of a great subslut:
Tania dresses like a subslut and often walks through a seedy park where some dirty, homeless people congregate. Whenever she gets cat called, she smiles in appreciation. One day a drunk middle aged fat guy with a huge beer gut accosts her and when she turns into a secluded area, grabs her from behind and squeezes her breasts hard. She makes no motion to resist his actions and turns toward him. He then pulls her breasts out and fondles and bites them hard. She winces a little in pain but places her hands on his head to encourage him to continue, which he does. He then pushes her head down and she quickly rushes to his crotch which is wreaking of body odour and dried cum and piss. She pulls out his penis and kisses it sweetly and begins to suck on him whilst he fucks her face. She proceeds to lick his anus which he has not washed or cleaned in a long time. Meanwhile he turns her over and fucks her dry in her ass. Her ass hurts a lot but she bites her lip while he uses her to his satisfaction. He then pulls out finally and cums on her face. She swallows all of the cum that flows into her mouth and leaves the rest on her face. The man slaps her across the face and takes all of her money. He tells her “You’re mine bitch!” and spits on her as he walks off. Tania manages to crawl home and tell her two younger sisters about having become a true subslut and finding a master for their harem. They dress her wounds while they excitedly discuss about how they will serve their new master. All three girls go the next day dressed as subsluts and look for their master who is passed out drunk under a tree in the park. They book a hotel room and take him there where they take his clothes off and suck his penis and lick his anus together. They do this until he finally wakes up and looks at them surprised and starts hitting them. They then explain to him that they are there to serve him completely and Tania immediately shows her sincerity by approaching his penis and sucking him with the other two quickly following suit. The man came to accept his role as a Master and many things happened that night. The two younger sisters lost their virginity in all their holes and all three of them drank his piss and took turns to lick his ass clean after he had taken a shit. They gave the man all their money when they left and they continued to serve him every day as he saw fit….

I hope you all enjoyed this one. I certainly did. Please feel free to reblog and share the love for this is but a labour of love and passion. I am always open to questions and more, so don’t hesitate to contact me if you wish.

This is a topic that boggles the mind of many girls. You may feel the need to draw the line somewhere in your Dom-sub/slave relationship (thus completely negating the point of such a relationship) but you want desperately for your master to desire you. If you are with a man, surrender completely from the very beginning and live to please. If you do this, your relationship will blossom to new heights. You will have true purpose and your master and you would have achieved your respective primal goals. For those who need more structure and instruction, I have some strong recommendations for you to follow. Points in bold are my personal favourites.

1. Flash him your boobs (bare minimum) and pussy from the first date/meeting.

2. Never wear any underwear and always wear something that will reveal your body with ease.

3. Always press your body up against him and encourage him to grope, rub and finger you freely. Especially ask him to finger your anus all the time.

4. Send him nude selfies and videos of yourself and with friends frequently.

5. Always try to spend your entire date in a room or private area, making out with him.

6. Try to kiss him on his penis for your very first kiss with him.

7. Spend your entire time with him on his penis.

8. Rub your face in his crotch, lick him all over and suck with reckless abandon.

9. Train yourself to take him completely into your mouth and throat.

10. Place his hands on your head to use as he pleases.

11. Never hold his penis with your hand(s). Your hands should be embracing his body while he thrusts himself into your mouth.

12. Always lick his balls and anus and stick your tongue deep into his anus while he masturbates or you masturbate him.

13. Make sure he cums in your mouth and/or face.

14. Make sure you lick and swallow every last drop of cum.

15. If there is any cum left on your face, do not wipe it off. Leave it there until it dries completely and forget about it.

16. When preparing food for him or laying out meals, try to do this with your breasts and/or pussy exposed.

17. Suck on him while he eats.

18. Suck on him while he drinks.

19. Suck on him while he watches TV or plays games.

20. Suck on him while he is doing work.

21. Suck on him while he is on the phone.

22. Suck on him while he is in the shower.

23. Suck on him while he is sitting on the toilet.

24. Suck on him while he is asleep.

25. Suck on him from morning to night, whether it is soft or hard.

26. Talk to him with his penis in your mouth.

27. Use his penis as your pacifier.

28. Sleep with your face in his crotch, in his ass, or with his penis in your mouth.

29. Encourage him to squeeze, pull, pinch, bite (especially), twist, slap, punch your breasts and nipples with force.

30. Do all his requests on command. Surprise him and do these at other times as well. This will please him.

31. Encourage him to use your ass for sex all the time. Suck his penis for lubrication if you must. Otherwise, try to do it dry. He will really enjoy this.

32. Drink his piss daily and lick his ass clean. Be his toilet. Let him bless you and mark his territory with all of his juices.

33. Most importantly, always be working on making and growing a harem for him. Encourage him to think of, look at, play around with and use other girls, by bringing this up every time and discussing with your sisters, cousins, friends and other female relatives to join you in your relationship.

Always remember, a man who uses you completely, has trusted you completely to reveal his true self to you. This is an honour and privilege that you must surely treasure with all your heart. Feel free to discuss the above with me if this piques your interest as well.

Jenni and Gina had gone to sleep and woken up the next day feeling like they had been in a dream. They could hardly believe all that had happened the night before and were both looking forward to their date today. The girls had not informed Steve that today was Gina’s birthday. They had never been on a date before and didn’t know what to wear. So, they shaved and waxed and discussed at length about which top or dress they were going to wear. Then, all of a sudden, they both received a text from Steve. They reached for their phones excitedly and saw that in it was a set of instructions from him about what to wear, and how to get to his home. He told them both simply to wear short, thin dresses and no bras and panties. The girls had never been anywhere without their underwear and were worried about what their parents might say if they wore revealing dresses. However, they were eager to please their new boyfriend and devised a way to cover themselves with cardigans, as well as longer pants under their dresses, which they would change out of at the local mall. The girls excitedly put on some make-up and did their hair, giggling from the excitement. They told their mum that they were going to have dinner outside and watch a movie at the cinemas and would be back a little late, and not suspecting anything as both of them were together, their mum sent them off at the door happily. It was after all Gina’s birthday and both girls had been working hard all year. 

The two girls reached the nearby mall and went quickly into the toilets and got changed. Their nipples were clearly showing through their dress and so they kept their cardigans on for privacy. They then quickly jumped into a taxi and went straight to Steve’s home. Whilst on route to Steve’s home, they removed their cardigans and used their bags to cover themselves.

It had begun to rain and so as soon as the girls arrived at the door, Steve briskly ushered them into the house. They rushed in to get out of the rain and went into the lounge. Both girls were instinctively covering their chests with their bags and Steve told them to put their bags down. Nervously, they put them away and Steve then could see them fully in the beautiful dresses that they were wearing. Jenni was wearing a light blue and white dress with a floral pattern. The dress had a low neckline, with a lot of her ample cleavage showing and the dress sat just above the middle of her thighs. Her nipples were clearly poking through the thin material and had become very erect in the cold and wet weather. Gina was wearing a pink dress which did not show a lot of cleavage but it was shorter than Jenny’s dress. As the material was somewhat sheer, her whole breasts were clearly visible. 

Steve was staring at their bodies and had not said anything for awhile when Jenni then blurted out that it was Gina’s birthday that day. Steve admonished them for not informing him earlier as he had not gotten a present for Gina. He was however pleased with the way the girls had conducted themselves thus far. He knew they had gone a long way to show their affections and he wanted to show them his appreciation for all their efforts. He asked them to both sit beside him on the couch and turned on the television. They sat on either side of him and were watching the television when they slowly felt his hands slowly cupping their breasts and caressing their nipples. The girls felt a rush but froze and pulled away a little. They had no prior experience and had not even been kissed before. Sensing this, Steve told them that he was their master and would lead them all the way. He said that they belonged to him forever and completely and he would tell them exactly what they needed to do to please him. This was quite liberating for both girls as they had not really considered what they were meant to do. They liked the idea that they belong to one man, their master and all they had to do was to please him as he saw fit.

Slowly, they both relaxed and Steve then grabbed and fondled their breasts as the three of them watched a movie together. Steve quickly pulled their breasts out off their dresses and tugged and pulled at their nipples. Jenni’s breasts were much larger than Gina’s and were also sagging a little on her belly. Gina’s on the other hand had thicker nipples and larger areolas. All of these delighted Steve greatly. While squeezing Jenni’s large breasts, Steve leaned over and licked Gina’s nipples and started nibbling on them. This was very arousing for her and she found her hands reaching to caress his head. Taking the cue, he bit and pulled at her nipples and breasts with his teeth, which Gina found both painful and pleasurable. Pausing, he then moved to Jenni’s breasts lifting them up to his mouth and biting each one until bite marks were clearly visible all over them. Jenni really enjoyed this and wished he would go on forever.

Steve then stopped and told them both to stand up in front of him and face him. He told them to leave their breasts exposed. The girls, sufficiently intoxicated in pleasure, dutifully obliged. He then asked them to stand with their feet slightly apart and put their hands by their side and not to move no matter what. He told them he was now to going to inspect their bodies. The girls did not know what this meant but excitedly did as they were told. He then proceeded to lift their dresses slowly, edging eventually past their vaginas. Both girls had neatly trimmed their pubic hair but had not completely shaved them. He asked them to hold on to their lifted dresses with their hands whilst he examined their exposed vaginas. Steve reached between their legs and began rubbing their very wet clits and labias. The girls began breathing heavily, unable to contain themselves. He then asked them to turn around and bend over whilst continuing to lift their dresses. When they bent over, he slowly drenched his fingers in their wetness and proceeded to insert his middle fingers into their pussies and his index fingers into their anuses, at the same time. They were very tight and so Steve only managed to get partly along the way and then stopped and returned to rubbing their pussies.

He then asked them both to sit down next to him again and he immediately stood up. He motioned to both girls to sit together whilst he stood in front of them and undid his zipper. He pulled out his very erect penis in front of both girls and told them to kiss him there. Jenni had never seen an erect penis before in real life and was unsure about what she had to do especially given all that she had heard about the numerous and confusing right and wrong ways to give blow jobs. Gina also felt the same. So Steve put his hands on their heads and coaxed them towards his penis, and said, “Don’t think, let yourselves go and just kiss me”, and both planted their very first intimate kisses on his penis. Jenni said this was the first time she had ever kissed a guy and Gina also said the same, and that she had never imagined that this was how her first kiss would be, but would never have it any other way as it was so erotic. The girls planted many more kisses on his penis, relishing the moment. Steve was very pleased with this. His penis was throbbing by then and he asked the girls to follow him to the bedroom.

To be continued…

Jenni was exhausted after spending many hours chatting with her new found friend, Steve. They had been talking about what real love was meant to be. All around them in the natural world there was plenty of polygamy and the same in humans until very recently. Steve had laid out the clear foundations for this. Man had but plenty of seed, clearly intended to spread far and wide to give his progeny the best chances of survival. Women on the other hand, only had a finite number of eggs, a finite number of menstrual cycles, and if they got pregnant, they would be unable to conceive for an extended period. So, it was in the woman’s interest to reserve her energies to finding her one male lover to dedicate the rest of her life to. This clearly favoured Men having multiple female partners all dedicated to only him alone. Nature had clearly intended this to be the way and this was the reason for the success that humans had achieved over all other animals. “Why had we gone against nature in the last 50 to 100 years?”, Steve asked.

Jenni kept ruminating over these conversations she was having daily with Steve and became more and more convinced that this was how it was meant to be. The week had gone by and she had all but fallen in love with Steve, but she did not want to propose to him on her own. She wondered about who would be both brave and visionary to join her in this endeavour but also considered how such a relationship could last. It finally occurred to her that her younger sister, Gina, would be the perfect person to join her in this adventure. Who else would understand and care for her as a sister whilst simultaneously being in a relationship with the same guy as her?

Jenni and Gina shared the same room anyway and Gina had been aware that Jenni had been talking animatedly to a guy called Steve. So, when Jenni brought his name up in a conversation, she was not surprised. However, she was surprised when Jenni proposed to her that they both date Steve together. Both Gina and Jenni had never been in a relationship before although they had their fair share of crushes over the years. This seemed like a big step for the both of them. Nevertheless, the idea that they would both be together with one man, sharing the love, their deepest thoughts and desires, as well as a future together, seemed like a wonderful idea. So, Gina told Jenni that she loved her plan and wanted to get involved immediately.

That night, Jenni introduced Gina to Steve, and the three spoke at length. By the end of the conversation, in their excitement, the two girls had blurted out their plans to Steve to become his girlfriends. Steve of course was very pleased, and told them as much. He discussed his expectations of the relationship, namely complete submission and obedience to him. This was all new to both girls but they had read and seen plenty of literature and videos depicting the joys of dominant-submissive relationships. Eager to get started and in the joy of their new found love, the girls readily agreed to his conditions.

The following night, Steve texted instructions to both girls to send him pictures of themselves together in various clothing. He told them to stop wearing bras and send him pictures of themselves in lesser and lesser clothing until they were completely naked. Jenni was the first to remove her bra and urged Gina to follow suit. She took out her smart phone and took several pictures of the both of them and sent it with kisses to Steve. As the girls dutifully obliged, they began to enjoy this more and more. and this pleased Steve greatly. The girls were dripping wet by the end of the night with all the pictures and videos and could not wait to see him. The three of them then arranged to meet at his home when no one else was around the following day.

…To be continued…

According to Gallup’s 2021 Moral Issues Survey, Americans’ views on sexual morality continue to become more liberal overall. In fact, for some of the issues on this survey, Gallup recorded the most liberal views on record.

Among the more notable changes are that Americans are increasingly comfortable with same-sex relationships, sex between unmarried adults, divorce, and having children outside of marriage. However, while significant shifts have occurred in those attitudes over the past two decades, Americans’ attitudes toward other sex-related issues—such as abortion and infidelity—have not changed quite as much.

Check out the table below for a closer look at the numbers and how they have changed over the last two decades. Note that Gallup started asking about most of these topics in 2001-2003; however, they added more issues to the list around 2013 (including pornography, birth control, and sex between teenagers), which is why I put that year in the table as a reference point. Also, new this year (in 2021) is a question about the morality of changing one’s gender.

Percentage of Americans Who Think Each Behavior Is Morally Acceptable (Gallup, 2021)

As you can see, the most dramatic change to occur is that a large majority of Americans now believe that gay and lesbian sexual relations are morally acceptable. Public opinion on this issue has shifted in a major way since 2001. Back then, most Americans believed that same-sex behavior was immoral; however, that has notably changed alongside the important social and political gains made by the LGBTQ+ community in recent years, including the fact that same-sex marriage is now legal throughout the nation (the result of a Supreme Court decision in 2015). 

Sex between unmarried men and women and divorce were rated as the most morally acceptable behaviors in 2001, and they continue to lead today. By contrast, both consensual non-monogamy (specifically, polygamy) and non-consensual non-monogamy (cheating) are the least accepted.

However, it is interesting to note that the number of Americans who think polygamy is morally acceptable has almost tripled over the last 20 years. It would be interesting to know whether moral acceptance of other forms of consensual non-monogamy—by which I mean polyamory, open relationships, and swinging—has changed over this same time period. However, Gallup has not inquired about the acceptability of these relationship configurations in their surveys, which means we can’t really say what, if any, changes have occurred. I would certainly hypothesize that their perceived acceptability has likely increased as well (especially in light of how interest in open relationships has surged over time), but we need more data to know for sure.

It’s also worth noting that while attitudes toward abortion have remained fairly stable since 2001 (increasing by just 5%), attitudes toward stem-cell research have become quite a bit more favorable during that same time period (increasing by 12%).

As for the additional issues asked about in 2013, we can see that there have been some significant shifts in the moral acceptability of porn use and sex between teenagers; however, most Americans appear to find these issues morally unacceptable, which is interesting considering how common these behaviors are—most people have sex as teenagersandmost people use porn at some point. By contrast, use of birth control is almost universally perceived as morally acceptable, with 9 in 10 Americans saying so.

Americans today also seem split on the moral acceptability of changing one’s gender: 46% say it is acceptable, while 51% say it is not. When you consider that 69% say gay and lesbian relations are morally acceptable (vs. 30% who say it is not), this points to an important disparity in the moral lens Americans apply to different segments of the LGBTQ+ community. Unfortunately, we don’t have historical data from Gallup on how attitudes toward changing gender have shifted (it’s likely that they have), but the overall extent and pace of change is unknown.

With all of that said, it’s important to highlight that while Americans’ sexual attitudes overall are increasingly liberal, the numbers in the table above indicate that many Americans hold conservative sexual values. This cultural divide is regional, with attitudes being more liberal in the northeast and west, and more conservative in the south. The partisan divide is greatest on LGBTQ+ and abortion issues, with more than 40 percentage points separating liberals and conservatives in their attitudes. All of this helps to explain why sexual morality issues are much more controversial in some states than others—and aren’t going away any time soon.

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The bad news is that the writer’s block that I’ve been in denial about for the past few months hasn’t left. The good news is that my desire for White Collar content hasn’t been impacted by it. In conclusion I made a short White Collar video edit for operationmorewhitecollar’s 12 Days of White Collar event, which occurs in December.

It’s the first video edit that I’ve been able to finish and feel enough good about to publish, so I’m really excited to see what you guys will think!

The video file is approx. 14.1MB, and a quick google search tells me that tumblr allows you to post videos up to 100MB so I might post it here. Other options I’m considering are posting it on youtube and/or ao3, and adding a link on a post here. Let me know what you think!

polyamouruspride:

Just because someone isn’t currently in a poly relationship doesn’t mean they’re not poly.

Just like sexual orientation or gender identity, being poly is an /identity/. That doesn’t ever turn off. That’s like saying someone isn’t gay because they’re not actively in a gay relationship.

Just thought I’d put that out there, a lot of people seem to have problems with this.

What if Fusebox gave us a polyamorous season of Love Island the Game?

I’m thinking that instead of single people coming in to look for a partner, the show can have couples come in looking for partner. Sometimes a couple will get added in, or sometimes a single person looking for a couple can be added in the show.

I feel like this would be a cool new spin-off to the Love Island show.

Which Shadowhunters Book featured a poly couple again?

howlingday:

Jaune: Uh, I gotta go! Later! (Leaves)

Pyrrha: That was weird.

Ren: Secret girlfriend weird?

Pyrrha: No! Of course not! He’d tell us! …Right?

Nora: Or maybe because you’d be jelly?

Pyrrha: Jelly?

Ren: You know? Green-eyed?

Pyrrha: So? My eyes have always been green.

Yang: Jealous!

Ruby: You are so jelling!

Pyrrha: I am not jelling!

Blake: (Smirks) Mhm~?

Pyrrha: It’s just- There’s something weird going on, and I don’t like it.

Weiss: Yes, and you’re jealous.

Pyrrha: I am not JEALOUS!

Jaune: Woo. Got here in time!

???:Great your here go ahead and clock in!

Jaune: you got it sir!

*Time skip*

Yang: do this is that new cafe that opened up? I heard it used to be in Ansel but moved here I wonder why?

Blake: I heard the best employee moved here and the owner opened shop here just because!

Yang:wow! That’s crazy!

???:welcome to medieval cafe my fair ladies I will be your host this evening. May I offer the young misses our kings service? It’s limited to one table at a time.

Y/b: sure!

???: king Arc! Two mistresses would ask for your service!

???: …! …they are accepted I will serve them well. *removing helm* this way girls.

Y/b: Jaune?!

* the evening the two huntresses in training was incredible. Jaune was plentiful in giving attention, gave off a aura of regal ness as if he was a member of royalty, and even gave yang a shoulder rub when noticing her favoring her Nondominant arm*

-after paying-

Yang : excuse me! I had a quick question?

???:yes?

Yang:how do you come to hire Jaune?

???:OH! you know his name! Well to be honest he was a part time worker who always tried his best in the village trying to earn money to help his family so we offered a spot in our establishment. Needless to say when he joined after a while we had a 250% increase in business due to his hard work and looks. He is a god send to say the least.

Blake:Really? That’s impressive.

???:yes and plus look at that *points to Jaune wiping a table all the milfs and women were checking out his but* the prefect man with the best cake? It’s a no brainer.

Yang to Blake: let’s convince cereal girl to share Jaune with us!

Blake:… agreed.

Jaune: *blissfully cleaning unaware of the stares*

Hello! I have a very important question. How do others not get arrested for being polygamous, it is to my understanding that it is a felony, therefore I am scared to go into a relationship with more than one person. Please help!

It is NOT illegal to be in a relationship with more than one person! Polyamory and polygamy are not the same thing.

Polygamy specifically means being legally married to more than one person. It is illegal to go to the courthouse and fill out official documents claiming to be married to one person when you are already legally married to another person. You would only be breaking the law if you got the legal system involved by doing things like filing taxes as if you were married, applying for a marriage license, claiming to be married on official paperwork, etc.

Polyamory is simply being in a relationship with more than one person, which is not illegal. You will not get in legal trouble for being in a polyamorous relationship. There are a lot of legal resources out there for polyamorous individuals seeking to navigate things like hospital visitation, child custody, health insurance, and tax filing: read more about them hereandhere.