#how do i tag this

captainlordauditor:

skaldish:

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Still bothered by the US cultural idea that men can only be non-romantically intimate with one another in war-like or competitive circumstances.

I’m pretty quiet about the fact I’m a transman usually, but holy shit I need to tell you about the culture shock I’m going through because it’s blindsidingme.

There’s a huge sense of social isolation that comes with being perceived as male, because now people are subconsciously treating me as a potential predator. Allstrangers, no matter their gender, keep their guard up around me.

It made me realize that there is no inherent camaraderie in male socialization as there is in female socialization—unless, of course, it’s in very specific environments. And the fact I don’t amnbiently experience this mutual kinship in basic exchanges anymore is an insanely lonely feeling.

You know how badly this would have fucked my mind up if I had grown up with this?

It is 4:30am and I’m mourning the loss of a privilege I didn’t even know I had.

Anyway, I’m going to figure out how to navigate this. Don’t know how yet, but I’m gonna.

Absolutely, because it’s an extremely sticky issue.

Frankly, this is something I would’ve never understood without living the experience.

It’s now blatantly clear to me that most cis men probably experience chronic emotional malnutrition.They’re deprived of social connection just enough for it to seriously fuck with their psyches, but not enough for them to realize that it’s happening and what’s causing it.

It’s like they’re starving, but don’t know this because they’ve always been served 3 meals…except those meals have never been big enough.

This deprivation comes from all sides of aisle, by the way.

In the case of women: When I’m out in public and interact with women, all of them come off as incredibly aloof, cold, and mirthless. I have never experienced this before even though I know exactly what this composure is—the armor that keeps away creepy-ass men.

As someone who used to wear it myself, I know this armor is 100% impersonal. Nobody likes wearing it, and I can say with absolute certainty that women would dump the armor in favor of unconditional companionship with men if doing this didn’t run the risk of actual assault. (Trust me when I say women aren’t just being needlessly guarded.)

But I only have a complete understanding of this context because I’ve experienced female socialization. If I hadn’t, I would’ve thought this coldness was a conspiracy against me devised by roughly half of the human population. Even now, with all that I know about navigating the world as a woman, I’m failing to convince my monkey-brain that this armor isn’t social rejection.

And as for male socialization? Again, it seems taboo for a man to be platonically intimate with men for reasons I have yet to fully understand, but I think it boils down to a) the fact society teaches boys that it’s not okay to be soft with each other, and b) garden-variety homophobia. Our media only shows men being intimate with one another when they’re teamed up against a dire situation, and I’d bet real money it’s a huge reason why men gravitate toward activities that simulate being teamed up against an opposing force.

But men are not machines of war. Yes, testosterone absolutely gives you Dumb Bastard Brain, but that just makes you want to skateboard a wagon down a hill or duct-tape your friend to the wall, not kill someone.

The human species looks so much colder standing from this side.

I can see how men might convince themselves that their feelings of emotional desperation is personal weakness as opposed to a symptom they’re all experiencing from White Imperialism. Because this human connection, this frith, is as essential for our wellbeing as water is.

So sick. How sick. I want to destroy this garbage.

#I think that’s why there’s that stereotype about men raised by or around women#because they actually know what it’s like to be around women who aren’t afraid and who value platonic intimacy#so they KNOW that it exists and they can get there#versus a ‘man’s man’ who doesn’t even realize it’s a concept#it’s a HUGE fucking problem

hey guys! aus will be written in a longer time now due to a specific situation. my bunny is a little bit sick and i’m concerned af over it, so until i take her to the vet and i discover what’s truly wrong, plus treatment, i gotta put it aside right now :( i’ll write them, i promise! but after this situation is done so that my anxiety leaves;;

-admin c

what’s the hype about the show with the gay pirates? is it good?

Imagine your FC staring you right in the eyes while they squeeze and crush a watermelon between their thighs. Are you terrified or aroused? I mean… probably both.

i was gonna write and post a long wall of text about the situation but honestly I dont have that kind of energy to deal w it anymore and it’s just tiring. I’ll just say that the shit with Depp V Heard is fucked and i’m glad that we’re able to get more clarity on the situation since these things matter, but I explicitly support people with PDs such as ASPD, BP, NPD, and HPD and it disappoints me that once again completely unrelated innocent people are going to continue to get thrown under the bus because neurotypicals cannot comprehend why or how someone would hurt and abuse someone else unless it had to do with a “scary” mental illness.

allsassnoclass:

i know this has too many layers but these are my 4* main headcanons

shedoravault:

Reference for the She-Ra in my AU thing (I gave her generic clothing for this because I like changing her clothes often)

I feel bad for associating my blog with Izzurius and then never making legit stuff of him, so have some sketches of him and his IPU compartment. I also add the groovin’ guy since I had no idea what I was doing…

I made this with pride!

You can take the title figuratively or not!

Also Happy Pride month! I did not make this meme for pride month (being serious, it was for something else!)

Welcome!

I’m Neutral4life, don’t question why my @ isn’t capitalized it’s just like that…

I’m just your average person, a little shy, but average.

I used to own a blog, but i deleted it on accident and so I decided to take a break, BUT I’M BACK!

For those who never met me, I’m Neutral4life, but you can call me Neutral for short. I’m a artist/writer online. I have a Wattpad and Quotev account, but I’m not really active there.

My header image belongs to Retrospecter. I don’t know if he drew it, but the character is his, go check him out.

And now for a bio that will probably be useless and never updated!

My bio:

Currentobsession Husbando: Izzurius of pride

Fandoms: fnf, Danganronpa, Retrospecter’s fnf mod, and more!

Age: 18 but will be 19 soon!

Gender and pronouns: Female with she/her pronoun

Do I do commission and requests? No, sorry I’m not ready for that yet.

sawasawako:

lol the other day i had a dream about eskam making a new season and it was cris 2.0 where the main plotline is that she goes to take therapy at this really weird, isolated looking place - and somehow, my brain registered it as “season 4” lmfao

i kinda want a shit load of raw pretzel dough