Trying out making my own diapered loser poster ! Let me know what you all think! Also as always reblog, share, and spread my exposure and humiliation anywhere you want!
Trying out making my own diapered loser poster ! Let me know what you all think! Also as always reblog, share, and spread my exposure and humiliation anywhere you want!
I think one of the worst things this site has normalized is the idea that sorting out disagreements privately in DMs is bad or creepy.
years ago my housemate made a bizarre callout post about me and when I messaged them like “dude what the fuck, can we talk about this” they posted that I was “attempting to mollify them behind closed doors” like some sinister shadowy manipulator
god I feel this.
sorry to tack my silly story onto your serious/ emotionally traumatizing one, but years back I made a poorly worded post about my cat being on a diet (it was vet-prescribed, they gave me a calorie count to follow to get her to a healthier weight), and it got a lot of backlash from people who didn’t realize that an overweight Oriental cat will still look slimmer than your typical tabby because those little dudes are built different.
like this is fat:
versus a healthy weight:
anyway, I try not publicly disagree with people because it can lead to dog-piling with the receptor experiencing legitimate emotional distress (plus accusations of me “directing an army of followers to harass them”) so in this situation I was like “okay, I’ll be more sensitive about that” and instead privately messaged the folk who were being the loudest about me being a reprehensible animal abuser for withholding Whiska’s Temptations from god’s most innocent creature.
I think I said something like “hey there, I saw your commentary and wanted to give some clarification: the cat is on a vet-prescribed diet and is of a breed that is unusually slender”, and the response from multiple people was “ha, nice try doing damage control behind the scenes! you’re obviously trying to protect your reputation and income, but you can’t silence me!”, as though I were, as beast-glatisant put it, some sinister shadowy manipulator.
it’s frustrating that making every disagreement a showy public performance is considered “being transparent”, and trying to clear up confusion or settle differences in a private conversation is “manipulative and dastardly”, rather than just……the adult thing to do.
I’ve written posts about this before and am glad to see anyone else talk about it. Private messaging is the kinder thing to do. I’m shocked every time I message someone about something rude they’ve said or some way they’ve misunderstood something and they react like I’m being cowardly. I’m not saying this to brag but I have tens of thousands of followers, so they’re essentially telling me they WANT me to call them out in front of potentially thousands of active users. Are they just thatconfident people will side with them??! They’re prepared for their controversial words to go unknowably viral??!?
