#punishments
She told me as a punishment she would make me take 1 stroke in the pussy then stand in the corner for 10 mins and keep doing it for an hour or two oh my
This is what you get you filthy fucking piece of scum. Let’s see how you feel after a couple days of being used as the house’s plumbing system. Every sub here has been ordered to use your urinal each and every time they need to relieve themselves. Maybe next time you’ll think twice about refusing to drink Jake’s piss! -Mistress A
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A major part of many kinky dynamics is a focus on discipline. While “discipline” can be a fun part of your everyday activities, it can also mean something more specific in terms of punishment. “Punishment” differs from the general sense of discipline in that it has a specific goal to focus on that changes a submissive’s behaviour.
Many people engage in what can be called “funishment,”—punishment-type activities, like regular spankings or other forms of play, that are not meant to alter the behaviour of the submissive but rather to provide enjoyment to either/both/all parties. However, it is important to distinguish the difference between playful discipline and serious punishments. Punishments are consequences of negative actions, whether this is based on officially-written regulations or unspoken general behaviours like brattiness, defiance, or dangerous behaviours.
The idea of punishment is based largely on psychological research in the area of behaviourism. It consists of techniques that are supported by science to effectively alter the behaviour of an individual. (If you want to learn more about the research behind punishments, look up B. F. Skinner’s work in this area.)
Two types of punishments exist: positive punishments, which add undesired consequences to the behaviour, and negative punishments, which take away desired privileges.
Now, before I get into some specific ideas for punishments, there are some important key points I’d like to make. Please be sure to read all of these before deciding on a specific punishment.
- Punishments do NOT negate the right to a safeword. Some people are mislead into dangerous situations by being told they cannot safeword during a punishment. This is completely untrue. All parties have a right to safeword at any time during any kind of play or punishment. Taking away the right to safeword equates to abuse, plain and simple. Don’t ever tell your partner they cannot safeword or ignore their safeword for the sake of punishment. This is not effective and is extremely harmful to your partner’s mental and/or physical well-being.
- NEVER punish out of anger. Anger is never a healthy motivation for punishment. Punishments are meant for the submissive’s benefit, at the core. If the submissive’s behaviour has made the Dominant angry, they should have a cooling-off period where they can calm down, think about an appropriate punishment, and resolve the matter at a later time, after healthy discussion about what happened.
- Limits are NOT to be used as punishments. Many people have activities they don’t particularly enjoy that aren’t on their limits list. Some people have specific ideas for punishments that suit them best. However, regardless of you or your partner’s experience with punishments, it needs to be understood that hard limits are not punishments. Hard limits are never to be used for punishment’s sake because “hard limit” means “I do not want to do this under any circumstance.” Using a hard limit as a punishment would be an abusive act, as hard limits come with an automatic safeword attached, since they are specificly stated as things the person does not feel comfortable with. Never, ever, threaten or use hard limits to punish a submissive.
- Use healthy discretion. This one should seem obvious, but don’t follow through with punishments if rule-breaking was out of the submissive’s control. Say the submissive has a 11PM bedtime, but they recently suffered a trauma or loss and can’t sleep. Let them engage in healthy coping skills instead of punishing them for something they aren’t doing on purpose. Above all else, make safety and well-being a priority.
- Make the punishment fit the crime. Punishments that are relative to the defiance are much more effective at changing the behaviour than random punishments. For example, if the submissive cums without permission, try a punishment from the “orgasm control” section. This will better reinforce the reasoning in the submissive and more effectively guide them to make better choices in the future. There are also punishments that work best for specific dynamics like for littles or pets, so be sure to read into those, below.
- Aftercare is absolutely required. Like any kind of play, aftercare is required at the end of the scene. This is especially important during punishments because often times, the submissive is consumed with feelings of guilt and disappointment. After a punishment, Dominants need to give their submissives aftercare that includes a conversation about why they were punished, how proud the Dominant is for them taking the punishment so well, and that there are no negative feelings between them. The submissive should leave the punishment scene feeling forgiven for their mistakes and proud of themselves for making things right with their Dominant. Do not leave your submissive alone after a punishment without aftercare, ever! This is highly abusive and can seriously harm your partner.
Humiliation
A great way to get a submissive to stay in line is to humiliate them when they’ve done something wrong. There are several ways to go about this, depending on your dynamic and kinks, but it’s an effective and amusing way to get the message across.
Clothing Restriction
Clothing restriction can be done both domestically and in public. Restriction can be as much as not allowing any clothing (in legal or private settings), ordering a certain amount of skin be showing, or choosing a specific outfit or collar for the submissive. For shy submissives, clothing restriction can be intense. This is an especially good punishment for submissives who have said negative comments about their bodies.
Diapering
For ABDL or little submissives, this can either be a reward or a punishment. Depending on the comfort level with diapers, they can be used as a punishment that ties into humiliation. Making them relieve themselves in only the diaper for a set amount of time or wearing it around the house as their only clothing can be very humiliating for some people.
Sissification
Sissification is a kink that is most common in submissive men. It’s the act of dolling a man up like a girl and humiliating him based on his presentation as such. This can be very effective for some people but can be very problematic to others. Be careful not to use this kink as punishment with trans or gender non-conforming subs without their explicit consent, as it can very easily trigger dysphoria and cause severe emotional problems.
Public Humiliation
Public humiliation can be done in any subtle way that embarrasses a submissive without breaking any obvious laws. Some examples include making them wear an anal plug or remote-controlled vibrator to dinner, public leashing, or making them kneel at social gatherings. Work this idea into the submissive’s specific kinks and limits to be sure it’s just enough to embarrass them, without making them unbearably uncomfortable.
Orgasm Control
Orgasm control is simply that—controlling the submissive’s orgasms. Most of these types of punishments are used for submissives who break rules about orgasms, be it without permission or when they were told not to touch themselves. Controlling orgasms is an amusing way to teach the submissive who their orgasms belong to.
Edging
Edging is the act of getting your partner right to the edge of orgasm, then denying them release. This can be done multiple times, even in short amounts of time. It’s a little psychological torture, best for those who cum without permission.
Toy Restriction
For a submissive, like myself, who is accustomed to using toys during masturbation or play, toy restriction is a very effective punishment. This is especially good for submissives who have a difficult time reaching orgasm without toys, as it makes things very frustrating very quickly. An evil punishment may even combine toy restrictions with a quota of orgasms for the day that they must reach in order to get off restriction. Desperation will sink in very quickly and this lesson will be easily learned.
Forced Orgasms
Forced orgasm is another great punishment for submissives who cum without permission. It turns a great sensation into a torturous experience very quickly. This is especially great with toys like the Hitachi or a Sybian. Focus on a goal—either for number of orgasms, or a specific amount of time. An hour spent riding a Hitachi can really be the most agonizing thing for some people due to heightened sensitivity after each orgasm.
Denial
Denial is the complete opposite of forced orgasms. It’s like edging, but there is no orgasm at the end of the scene. This can be doing while using toys and not allowing the person to orgasm or it can be done by restriction orgasms or even touching oneself for a longer period of time.
Chastity
Chastity, much like denial, is the refusal of orgasms. However, with chastity, the submissive is completely unable to touch themselves, even if they wanted to. Devices for people with penises and vaginas are available to purchase online to assure your submissive is following orders properly.
Domestic Discipline
Domestic discipline includes things that can be done within the home. Some of these include behaviour modifications or restrictions. While some of these can be done outside the home, these are good examples of things for couples who live together can do for punishments.
Chores
Chores not only benefit the entire household, but they can also be an effective punishment for unruly subs. Added chores can be especially fun if you make her clean the bathroom with a toothbrush or make him do dishes with nipple clamps on. Combine with other punishments for your amusement!
Furniture Restriction
Especially fun for people into pet-play, furniture restriction involves limiting where the submissive can sit or lie down. Require that they sit on the ground instead of the couches or sleep on the floor next to the bed if they’ve been defiant.
Caging
Another good one for pets, especially. Caging can be used to make the submissive reflect on their reasons for being punished. Be sure to use a cage small enough to confine them, but still large enough so they aren’t going to hurt themselves by spending too much time in the cage.
Bedtime
A great one for littles! Bedtimes are good for college students who don’t do their homework, or easily distracted adults with work to do. Set up rules that require all obligations get done and enforce an early bedtime to be sure they are well-rested (and easily frustrated) when they don’t follow these rules.
Time-Out
Another punishment for reflection. Time-outs are good for brats and littles because it makes them analyze what they did wrong. Put them in a corner or a special “time-out chair” so they know they are being punished. Increase the time or add in other punishments if they break rules more than once.
Sensory Deprivation
Sensory deprivation is a lot like time-out, but can be used for added psychological torment. Plug the submissive’s ears or use headphones, blindfold them, bind them to a bed or chair, and completely ignore them for a set about of time. This desensitizes them and not only makes them reflect on their reasons for punishment, but makes it very uncomfortable, assuring they won’t want to end up in isolation again.
Objectification
Objectification is fun for Dominants who like their submissives in service to them during punishment. Make them kneel and become your footstool or coffee table while you watch TV or catch up on work. This is even better when you make them do it completely naked and/or in front of guests.
Dietary Restriction
If a submissive has done something against the rules, you can make them follow a strict diet. This is especially useful for those using behaviour modification to lose or gain weight. However, be careful to ensure the submissive is still getting enough nutrition. For littles, see how much they want to be a brat after you take away their dessert privilege. For pets, try making them eat out of a bowl on the floor for each meal.
Speech Restriction
For disrespectful submissives, punish them by taking away their right to a personal pronoun, making them refer to themselves as “this girl,” “Your slut,” “Master’s puppy boy,” or anything else you want to use. You can also make it a rule that they must refer to you by your Dominant title at all times, even in public. Having to remember their restrictions on speech will keep them thinking about their punishment all day.
Corporal Punishment
Corporal punishment is enforcement by physical contact. These types of punishments involve pain, which is a tricky subject for punishing. Typically, pain punishments don’t work as well to change behaviour, especially if the submissive is also a masochist. Be sure to carefully choose what kind of pain if you’re going with one of these methods.
Impact
If your submissive likes thuddy pain, use stingy pain. If they like stingy pain, use thuddy. Push their limits carefully, but make it clear this is a punishment and not for fun. Have them apologize as you strike them. Tell them why they are being punished and make it clear that they are to be good and learn from their mistakes.
Rice Kneeling
Kneeling on uncooked rice is an age-old technique that leaves painful marks. Be careful with time, as this can scar if done for long periods of time or used constantly. Be present during this to be sure the submissive can take it and listen carefully for safewords. Use this as a time out or have them recite an apology to you as you do this.
Figging
Figging is done by carving a plug out of ginger and inserting into the anus. This causes a stinging pain that ranges in intensity depending on the person. Frozen ginger is a milder form of this punishment.
Writing Assignments
Writing assignments are usually meant to bore a submissive into obedience. Whether it’s writing lines or a random homework assignment, the punishment focuses on making it undesirable for the submissive to misbehave.
Lines
Writing lines is effective if you use it reflectively. For example, for a submissive who is disrespectful, you can have him write, “I will always be polite around my Sir,” a hundred times. For a submissive who cums without permission, you can order, “I will ask permission from Mistress before I cum,” until they fill up five pages. What’s even more fun is making them be stuffed with a toy or on their knees with nipple clamps on while they write.
Apology Letter
An apology letter is a simple task meant to make the submissive think about what they have done, analyze why it was wrong, and have them apologize formally by writing it down. Have them read their letter to you our loud or crumple it up and put in their their underwear for that added perk of remembering all day that they were punished.
Essay
An essay is a good assignment for submissives who don’t seem to understand their rules. Make them come up with reasons as to why these rules are in place and write a formal essay about the reasoning and purpose of these rules. Making them analyze the fact that this is for their benefit will remind them that rules are not just there to be mean, but to guide them to healthier behaviour.
Homework
Especially fun for people with school girl or teacher fantasies, assign a random homework assignment. Ever wonder about a certain subject but never have time to actually research it? Assign a paper to your submissive about a subject of your choosing and have them report back to you—because knowledge is power! Grade their paper and reward/punish again as necessary for the quality of their work.
It’s important to remember that reinforcements are also important in addition to punishments. When your submissive follows directions, reward them. Give them a treat or praise them and thank them for being so good. If you mix positive reinforcement with punishments when necessary, they’re sure to be trained in no time!
xx SF
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Punishments 2
*Being put in time out is always frustrating but it allows me time to reflect and evaluate how i can make better choices in the future.
*In spite of recent training changes Master has always viewed this clit as useless to me. It’s presence is best used for pain, frustration, and His entertainment. He taught me to ignore it’s presence so pumping up and tormenting it was something i have always dreaded. It’s hypersensitivity makes me weak and He never hesitates to remind me of that when the situation calls for it.
*A coarse bristle brush to Master’s clit serves as a good reminder that my pleasure is insignificant. It’s especially effective when i stretch His holes and recite lines describing what a greedy slut i am.
*A Boar hair brush is makes a nagging cunt raw for days. Every step brings about finches and whimpers. The pain is intense and is slow to fade. Nag the hand that feeds you and you’ll be nagged by the wrath of His correction.
*Coating His swollen pussy with coarse salt burns like fire. The pain depends as the wet flesh absorbs each grain and there is no stopping it. i just have to accept it until it ends. Placing a penny on His clit reminds me that a single cent is too much to invest in a disobedient whore.
*Even a masochist can be corrected with pain when done correctly. Master knows just how to keep me walking the tightrope between pleasure and pain…..and He knows how to bring about misery that teaches me a very needed lesson.
-slave
Punishments 1
i’m often asked what kinds of punishments Master uses so what better way than to show you a few!
*When He came to me with Ace wraps i thought surely He’d lost His mind. How hard could that be to tolerate, right? Aside from being humiliated by their awkwardness the level of discomfort was more intense than i’d expected. In just a few minutes i was whimpering and willing to do anything to get them off of me!
*Tack bras were always pleasurable to me. i loved feeling the sharp tips digging and scraping against my flesh so when He assigned it as a punishment i was confused. What i had previously worn for only a few hours would be worn around the clock for 7 days, removing them only to shower. By day 8 i was a pathetic mess with a drippy cunt.
*You really have no concept of how heavy tits are until you have to hold them up with your teeth! Every step felt as if these nipples would be ripped off and my jaw ached from supporting their weight.
*Master has worked long and hard to ensue that these nipples stay erect and sensitive. They’re so large now that they’re impossible to hide so when He pressed them flat with wine corks the misery was indescribable!
*One of my less than proud moments was when i allowed jealousy to get the better of me. He promptly corrected that behavior by having me kneel with His nipples dipped in ice water. The shock turned to burning that sent shivers throughout my body. Add in reciting lines without allowing my teeth to chatter and i quickly learned my lesson!
*i’ve never liked being sent to the corner. It’s belittling and it leaves me to struggle with my thoughts. He upped the ante on that dislike by suspended His tightly wrapped tits from the doorknob. If that rope went slack my time was doubled so i sat there in my knees with legs spread wide to keep them pulled to their fullest extent. He says next time i get to straddle the door and lean back…
So there you have it. Round one of a glimpse into how i’m punished. Stay tuned for round 2 and a peak at the non physical punishments He’s used.
-slave
This would be awful for me. Being ignored is one of those things (along with feeling like I’m replaceable/not important/second best/a second choice/not worth effort, and comments about how I get off or how long it takes me) that I dislike on a level that risks bringing me out of a headspace or scene because it tips off actual issues. These things are limits when I play with most people, and even with people who own me/I’m very close to, pushing these boundaries requires thought and care, along with an awareness and acceptance that the play may very well have to stop in the middle or at least change course.
I do enjoy objectification, but the flavor of objectification that I like is more active. I want to be treated like an object and talked about like I’m an object, but I want these things to happen while I’m being used. I like being told that I don’t get a say because objects don’t have rights or opinions. I enjoy having someone use me to teach someone else how to do something while only speaking to the other person and talking about me like an object I like being told women are objects for men to use and that their (my) purpose is to bring pleasure and entertainment to men.
I truly hate the idea of being left alone in a room as a piece of furniture or decoration. Even if there were other people there, I would hate it if I was being entirely ignored. Being totally ignored for more than a little while would be too much, although I am somewhat interested in having someone I trust test that limit. It would have to be done carefully, and definitely on a one-on-one basis at first, but I think it would be a valuable experience and I’m curious how I would reaction.
A comment about me/said for my benefit every so often, even (especially?) a degrading comment or a misogynistic comment would soften the being ignored enough that I could stand it, if just barely. Even worse would be saying things about issues I care about or about me personally that the speaker knows I would feel the need to respond to. I wouldn’t be able to respond, of course, since objects can’t talk or argue. Being touched (either kindly or cruelly) and having to fight my natural reactions and hold position would also up the unpleasantness factor.
So long as there are little reminders that no I’m not being completely ignored because of course everyone is aware that the adorable, sexy, naked girl is right there and they’re all amused/aroused/entertained by treating her like an object, I could stand this sort of thing. I still think it would be punishment, especially with people trying to goad me into responding while I seethe and struggle not to talk back or move in response to their taunts and touches, but it would be the kind of punishment I would be able to abide by and handle.
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When I last Skyped with The Super Sadist (That was an intense session that involved him and Marxman and lasted about ten hours. There’s plenty to be said about it, but I wanted to share this bit first), he told me, “I think you should write dumber.” I balked a little, since I don’t want to make this blog unreadable for you folks, and we decided that I wouldn’t do it for lengthy pieces of writing, or, of course, for work. Primarily, I’m doing it when I text friends and partners. I’ll also try to write some more short things on here, so y’all can see how dumb I am.
It’s just little things, for now. He gave a couple examples: “u” instead of “you,” to/too mixups, things like that. I added a few more, such as your/you’re mixups, using the wrong its/it’s, their/there/they’re confusion, and using as many abreves as possible. These aren’t major changes, but they’re things my friends would notice, and things that bother me a lot when I fuck up by accident.
He was understanding and is letting me not do it with people I can’t or shouldn’t explain the instructions to, but really, I can’t think of many people I talk to regularly who I couldn’t tell about it. Actually, I may not explain it to everyone. I sent a text to Legolas prior to explaining it where I used “u” instead of “you” and used the incorrect “too.” It was intensely uncomfortable, even physically so. And it turned me on. A lot. (Oh fuck. I should probably start using “alot” instead. That’s going to be painful.)
So, I was already sounding stupid when I was texting people yesterday. Then, when I was talking with my owner (Who, by the way, when I asked if the dumb texting would bother him and offered not to do it with him if it would, replied “lol. Yeah, no, you’re not doing that with me.”), I confessed that I hadn’t followed a direct order he’d given me to finish an assignment. The consequence for that is another language rule. For the next week, in the same places where I’m writing dumber, I am not allowed to use the letter “f.” In addition, any time I have to stop and think about how to rephrase a sentence to avoid it, I have to insert the word “like.”
I was texting under those rules for a few hours yesterday and I sound fucking…well, I’d say “dumb” or “silly” or “ridiculous” or “stupid,” but I know the word The Super Sadist would use is “retarded.” I sound fucking retarded*.
*It causes me great distress to throw around this word like that. I haven’t used it casually, especially as an insult, in years. It even bothers me when The Super Sadist does it, just in general conversation. So, of course, he’s taken to using it frequently in reference to me. During our last conversation, he asked me about my dislike of it, listened to what I had to say, and then said, “Tell me you’re retarded.” I could tell what fun it was for him to see my refusal turn to reluctance turn to resignation turn to incredibly uncomfortable obedience as I sighed, whinced, and said, “I’m retarded.”
One of the nice things about putting a gag in your mouth is the way it makes you drool. I can tie you up, clamp your nipples, put a plug in your ass, basically anything I want and, you still have the ability to control your saliva. BUT, put a gag in your mouth and, in short order, the last vestige of control and manners is taken away and you’re drooling all over yourself, unable to control even the most basic bodily function.
Just helps reinforce that you are property. Completely owned and subject to my every whim.
Spit is my least favorite thing. This picture made me squirm, and not in a good way. This sort of thing would make an excellent punishment.
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To all of those subs, and doms, out there that think spanking for a sub is a good punishment, you need to think again. Unless the sub genuinely dislikes being spanked then it simply cannot be a punishment. A punishment is there to deter the submissive from doing that thing again, therefore it should be something that they dislike. Saying, “you’ve been a bad girl” and then spanking them is not only, cringe worthy, it’s not a punishment. Think of it this way, if someone kills another person, the government doesn’t say, “you’ve been bad, here’s a house and free food for a week”, they lock them up. It’s the same for a dominant and their sub.
After seeing countless subs and doms saying these sorts of things, (I’m not going to name them on my blog) it just really annoyed me that they are setting the wrong idea for those just starting in Dom/sub
Babygirl thinks this is how things work.. she couldn’t be more than wrong
I’ve stuffed dripping cunt and tight arse with a double ended dildo and applied anbesol to my throbbing clit, gotta go off to work soon but I’m feeling really horny. It’s been almost 14 months since my last orgasm, I am desperate! Everything I’m near I want to grind against, I’m edging every chance I get and I watch porn of women getting the orgasms I so desperately desire. I think maybe before I leave I’ll beat my pussy as hard as I can with my hard bristled brush for being such a filthy whore. Fuck I’m so wet! If anyone wants to comment on this post and add to the punishments feel free, I can’t use my inbox at the moment, it’s not letting me read my messages.
Being made to go to a family bbq today, and all I wanna do is stay home and play with my desperate, needy cunt and tight little arsehole, while I imagine I’m being suffocated by a domme’s pussy
Not sure how much longer I can stay in denial for, I haven’t cum since December 2017.
I’ve already spent the last 2 hours watching porn and edging, then I spanked my cunt hard with the hard bristle side of a hairbrush, 100 HARD strikes, until I was shaking from the pain.
But… My punishments seem to be turning into funishments, as soon as they’re completed I wanna go straight back to rubbing my clit and filling my arsehole because I’m so turned on.
Does anyone have some punishments I could try out and see which ones are good for me?
I’m gonna be around a lot of people today and my minds gonna be tuned in on my clit, is it so bad that just the thought of them knowing what a denial slut I am turns me on?
So if anyone has any ideas, feel free to comment on this post, I’ll be checking throughout the day and I’m not apposed to the thought of being caught.
