[“If we want to know why many queer people prefer their own company to the company of straights, certainly one answer to this question is about protection and mutual care—we hold each other up in a world that pushes us down. But there is also another, far less discussed facet to this story about queer people keeping their distance from straight people—an element that has less to do with queer vulnerability or oppression in the face of straight privilege and more to do with queer power, freedom, abundance or relief in the face of heterosexual misery and myopia. It is a story about queer people sometimes finding straight culture and relationships too sad or enraging to witness, too boring or traumatic to endure. It is about queers often wishing to look away from the train wreck, by which I mean the seemingly inextricable place of sexual coercion and gender injustice within straight culture, or what the feminist writer JoAnn Wypijewski described in 2013—as she reflected on the ubiquity of sexual assault among teenagers—as heterosexuality’s relentlessly “primitive” attachment to lies, manipulation, and violence as the formative route to sex. It is about queer recoil, or something like the nausea that the French scholar Paul Preciado has felt in response to both the aesthetics and the misery (the miserable aesthetics?) of heterosexuality, described in an essay titled “Letter from a Transman to the Old Sexual Regime”: “I am as far removed from your aesthetics of heterosexuality as a Buddhist monk levitating in Lhassa is from a Carrefour supermarket… . It doesn’t excite me to ‘harass’ anyone. It doesn’t interest me to get out of my sexual misery by touching a woman’s ass on public transport… . The grotesque and murderous aesthetics of necro-political heterosexuality turns my stomach.” Sometimes straight culture is quite literally repulsive; we feel it in the gut.
We have insufficient language to describe queer people’s experience of finding straight culture repellent and pitiable, given that heterosexuality has been presented to us as love’s gold standard. But even without a suitable name for this contradiction—the fact that the world’s most glorified relationship is often a miserable one—many queers have still spoken this truth. In 1984, a few years before his death, James Baldwin explained to an interviewer from the Village Voice that queers could see the precarity of heterosexuality, even as straights kept it hidden from themselves: “The so-called straight person is no safer than I am really… . The terrors homosexuals go through in this society would not be so great if society itself did not go through so many terrors it doesn’t want to admit.” As Baldwin saw it, it is not simply that straight people are suffering and in denial about it but that heterosexual misery expresses itself through the projection of terror onto the homosexual.”]
I was raised by a generally accepting family, but that never dispelled my fears of not being accepted. The elementary school I went to, on the other hand, was not. Though I didn’t go to a Catholic school, I was in a school where most “differences” were looked down upon. From a young age, I always knew that there was something different about me. However, I was taught that there was nothing besides cis and heterosexuality. Hell, I didn’t even know anything else even existed. So, I brushed it off and tried to fit in as best as I could.
I wasn’t exposed to the lgbtq community until 6th grade, when I became friends with several queer people. In doing so, I began to feel a sense of belonging. However, I didn’t acknowledge the fact that I was like them. So, I continued to brush it off and instead became the “straight friend”.
In late 7th grade, I learned about a newer sexuality: pansexuality. Everything about it felt right. I had been internally identifying as bisexual, but that didn’t feel right to me. I didn’t come out until halfway through 8th grade, though. Even then, it was only to one close, queer friend, who immediately responded with “That’s amazing! I’m so proud of you!”
One of the biggest challenges was coming out to my main group of friends at the time, mostly because two of them were known homophobes. Instead of being confronted, I dropped hints here and there, and didn’t officially come out until the beginning of my freshman year. Coincidentally, I began my separation from that group, moving to a group that consists entirely of queers (and one hetero). I felt that it was now or never, and decided to come out officially. I was immediately met with “But how do you know you’re pansexual if you’ve never had a crush on a girl?” to which I’d reply with “How do you know you’re straight if you’ve never had a crush on a guy?”
My new group of friends was very accepting, of course. However, there was still one thing that I had been searching for since 8th grade: a gender identity that fit. For a while, I was out as bigender, but it didn’t feel right. So, I began the search for one that fit me. Finally, after months of searching, I discovered agender. Like when I discovered my sexuality, it just felt right. When I identified as bigender, I opted to find a more gender neutral name, settling with Cas. When I began identifying as agender, I kept it, feeling that it suits me.
While my group of friends supported me, I met a wonderful guy who, while he was new to the scene, was willing to learn, and accepted me for who I am. And he’s still getting the hang of things, but it adds to how much I love him. (Corny I know)
During this, I, along with my group of friends (lovingly referred to as “the gays”), joined my school’s lgbtq club. In doing so, I became friends with more queer people, and in turn, am learning more myself.
The hardest part, however, was coming out to my family. My parents and uncle were born during the AIDS scare in the 80s, and my grandmother was a baby boomer, so I was a bit frightened, to say the least. When I finally did come out, my uncle and mother immediately responded, telling me that they loved me no matter what and “as long as you keep your grades up and don’t sleep around, you’re fine”. However, I still haven’t gotten a response from my grandmother. Hopefully, it’ll be good.
Send me your queer stories! This is just one story in a much bigger project where I collect lgbtqia+ peoples stories to spread the word and awareness on the many different queer identities. Check my blog for more information!
Please allow me to introduce myself. My name is Alison; I’m a 15 year old cisgender female. I live in Yorkshire, England, and I’ve found a label to suit me. That is a Bisexual Aromantic.
I’d like to say that I’m comfortable accepting myself with these labels. Yes, they fit, but I don’t want them to.
Aromanticism is a big part of my life; I’ve only recently made the discovery that it genuinely exists.
When I was younger (and I mean 8 or 9 ish) I’d think that there was something wrong with me. I’d imagine that if I would only develop romantic feelings for a person then I’d know I’m okay. I would think that maybe I’m waiting for that “one special person” and then I would fall in love and so on.
I didn’t know this was happening until I was about 11 years old. I knew then that this wouldn’t happen. So, I jumped to the conclusion that there was something wrong. That it would be a mental illness or something. It was hard to accept that this was the only way for me and my future. This lead to self harm and self esteem issues that I’m slowly taming but are still apparent. I’ve been having issues with self harm for 4 years now. I know that it’s probably selfish of me and there are real problems in the world, but it hit close to home. All I’ve been fed my entire life, along with most people, is that even if things are bad right now, you’ll meet that one special person and everything will be okay.
I discovered the existence of aromanticism from tumblr, actually. There was an awareness post that had sneaked its way between the crevices of crap and hordes of fandoms. It boasted its diversity for including other terms. I read into the topic of being aromantic more and realised that, while feeling sexual attraction is a thing for me, romantic wasn’t. It was such an amazing experience, discovering that not only people can feel the same as I do, that there is a term for what I am feeling. It was elating to know that, I’m still valid, despite not feeling romantically attracted to anyone. All I’ve seen is the importance of romantic love and the effects it can have on your life, but never an appreciation of how much platonic love or friendships actually help you grow and /be/ as a person.
As for the bisexuality, that wasn’t as hard. It’s almost laughable how easy it was for me to accept this about myself. I have a group of very supportive friends who accept me for me.
I’m not out to my parents, because I don’t feel I should be. It’s an aspect about me that has always been there, along with aromanticism, so I shouldn’t have to justify my emotions. My dad is vaguely homophobic but, to be honest, he can cram it up his ass.
I’ve come to terms with who I am. Some might say that I’m too young but oh well. If I know who I am, then it shouldn’t matter to anyone else.
Thanks for listening (reading?)to my rant and I hope this can help anyone else going through what I am.
Send me your queer stories! This is just one story in a much bigger project where I collect lgbtqia+ peoples stories to spread the word and awareness on the many different queer identities. Check my blog for more information!
christ i’m actually seeing people insist that dyke is not a slur now as if that’s a necessary justification for wlw to be able to say it? why are people so fucking terrified of what reclamation actually means? the point isn’t to make a weapon used against you so meaningless that target feels safe to sell it back to you on a shirt, it is transgressive and shocking to say “so what if i am that? i am the words that have been the last thing people have fucking heard before being bashed”. don’t insert yourself into a words history and then deny its weaponization, WIELD IT against your oppressors!!
people who get super fucking mad about queer or dyke being acknowledged as slurs because god forbid their identity be acknowledged as transgressive or shocking to cishet sensibilities, or their history be connected to those who have had those words spat with greater venom, are seeking assimilation. if you want the words you describe yourself with to be so enfolded into capitalism that cops feel safe calling themselves queer then what are you actually fighting for?
[Image Description: The inside and outside of a pamphlet with a pink and purple color scheme entitled “The ‘Queer’ Question” laid out side-by-side. There is a summary, disclaimer, and helpful resources on the first half and sections titled “What is Queer,” “History of the Word,” and “Using it Respectfully” on the second. The text is small and blurry as it is only meant as a preview image to the resource described in this post]
The “Queer” Question - Pamphlet #8
In this pamphlet, you’ll find examples of what “queer” means, a brief rundown of the term’s history, and a suggestion on how to use it respectfully. As can be seen, the word is not censored and only the post is tagged as “q-slur” to hopefully avoid triggering individuals who have the word blocked on Tumblr.
This is probably the most subjective item on Queer Condensed and should be treated as such.
As always, this resource is free to use for noncommerical ventures as long as credit is given. The original Publisher files can be requested for modification through the ask box. If you download, a reblog or link to this post would be appreciated!
Also, links to Tumblr posts that talk about queer identity and the history of the term:
The text can be read below the readmore, formatted in the intended reading order.
Front Panel
The “Queer” Question, a Condensed Guide
Produced by Queer Condensed, queercondensed.tumblr.com
Version 1.0
Inside Flap
Summary
The word “queer” has a lot of debates surrounding it. What does it mean? Who can use it? When and where can it be said? When there’s this many questions, sometimes people forget to slow down and explain the controversy and the history of the word. This pamphlet is an introduction to some of the arguments surrounding this controversial word, a brief historical overview, and a suggestion for rules of its use.
This topic, more than most, is incredibly subjective and should be taken as such. The ideas expressed are the opinions of Queer Condensed, not the opinions of all queer people.
Disclaimer
Queer Condensed is meant to be a guide, but in no way is anything in our materials definitive. Queerness and our community is far too subjective and we just don’t have the space. Take what you read as an introduction and maybe check out the provided resources or ask people open to taking questions if you want to know more.
Published on July 27th, 2017
Leftmost Interior: What is Queer?
In LGBTQ+ circles and communities, the proper use of the word “queer” often comes up. There are hundreds of opinion pieces and personal anecdotes on the Internet, all with different takes. But what does the word mean? Why are people so up in arms about it? Well, there’s no simple answer here.
One of the problems in defining “queer” is the fact that it means so many different things to different people. Queer can be:
· A noun, verb, or adjective
· A slur, or offensive word, used against LGBTQ+ people
· An identity, with it’s own different definitions
· An umbrella term that replaces LGBTQ+
· Radical activism relating to LGBTQ+ people and issues
· The act of subverting any societal norm, especially with gender and sexuality
· A term of empowerment and pride
From this non-exhaustive list, it’s clear that discussions of when, where, and how “queer” should be used can be very difficult and there is no consensus regarding it.
To simplify things, this pamphlet focuses on queer as a slur vs an identity or umbrella term for the LGBTQ+ community. This, obviously, doesn’t cover all interpretations of the term and all voices on the matter, but it does help us understand the argument that is most often seen in the LGBTQ+ community surrounding the word.
Middle Interior: History of the Word
“Queer” existed before being connected to the LGBTQ+ community and originally just meant strange or peculiar. The first known use of the word as an insult was 1894 towards the famously gay Oscar Wilde, and later it became a widespread insult towards anyone perceived to be gay, even if they weren’t.
The reclaiming of queer has a long history too. Accounts say that individuals started “taking back” the word and using it for themselves in the 1980’s. An early adopter of the word was the organization Queer Nation in early 1990.
The topics that queer theory and studies concerns itself have been around for much longer than the name. The term “queer theory” was coined in the 1990s as well and was adopted by many theorists. Many universities use this term, though others use “LGBT” or “gender and sexuality” as substitutes due to the sensitive nature of the word in certain regions.
Reclaiming isn’t universal, though. Plenty of people still have “queer” used as a slur against them and dislike its use to refer to them.
Why Do We Use It?
The project is called Queer Condensed because A) it’s catchy and B) it’s been reclaimed heavily in the area the creators are from. Most people use queer as an empowering term. Additionally, it’s a useful umbrella term and feels more broad than saying ‘the LGBTQ+ community.
Rightmost Interior: Using it Respectfully
The use of “queer” is as complex as its definitions. Some use the term broadly and insist that those who disagree aren’t proper parts of the community. Others say that any use of it is hateful. Queer Condensed hopes to show a middle ground.
If someone uses queer as an identity, it’s no one’s right to refuse to use it. Queer identity has a long history and it’s endlessly useful. Personal discomfort with the word never outweighs respecting others’ identities.
Using it as a broad term is trickier. In general, it’s best to learn about your local community’s feelings and definitions. Some areas have a lot of people using the word, others have a majority that feel hurt by it. Respectfully asking never hurts. Something to keep in mind is that even in places where the word is reclaimed, it’s usually not something for non-LGBTQ+ people to say because the word is rooted in LGBTQ+ oppression and violence.
Finally, always keep the feelings of others in mind when using the word outside of an identity. There are often people uncomfortable with the term even when many others have reclaimed it. Respect people who ask you to not use it on them and censor it as “q-slur” if asked. It’s impossible to know everyone’s experience, so communication is always key.
In case you want to see the words of people IDing as queer and talking about the term’s history, check out the post for this guide! Links there will take you to Tumblr posts that discuss the subject
[Image Description: The inside and outside of a pamphlet with a pink and purple color scheme entitled “The ‘Queer’ Question” laid out side-by-side. There is a summary, disclaimer, and helpful resources on the first half and sections titled “What is Queer,” “History of the Word,” and “Using it Respectfully” on the second. The text is small and blurry as it is only meant as a preview image to the resource described in this post]
The “Queer” Question - Pamphlet #8
In this pamphlet, you’ll find examples of what “queer” means, a brief rundown of the term’s history, and a suggestion on how to use it respectfully. As can be seen, the word is not censored and only the post is tagged as “q-slur” to hopefully avoid triggering individuals who have the word blocked on Tumblr.
This is probably the most subjective item on Queer Condensed and should be treated as such.
As always, this resource is free to use for noncommerical ventures as long as credit is given. The original Publisher files can be requested for modification through the ask box. If you download, a reblog or link to this post would be appreciated!
Also, links to Tumblr posts that talk about queer identity and the history of the term:
The text can be read below the readmore, formatted in the intended reading order.
Front Panel
The “Queer” Question, a Condensed Guide
Produced by Queer Condensed, queercondensed.tumblr.com
Version 1.0
Inside Flap
Summary
The word “queer” has a lot of debates surrounding it. What does it mean? Who can use it? When and where can it be said? When there’s this many questions, sometimes people forget to slow down and explain the controversy and the history of the word. This pamphlet is an introduction to some of the arguments surrounding this controversial word, a brief historical overview, and a suggestion for rules of its use.
This topic, more than most, is incredibly subjective and should be taken as such. The ideas expressed are the opinions of Queer Condensed, not the opinions of all queer people.
Disclaimer
Queer Condensed is meant to be a guide, but in no way is anything in our materials definitive. Queerness and our community is far too subjective and we just don’t have the space. Take what you read as an introduction and maybe check out the provided resources or ask people open to taking questions if you want to know more.
Published on July 27th, 2017
Leftmost Interior: What is Queer?
In LGBTQ+ circles and communities, the proper use of the word “queer” often comes up. There are hundreds of opinion pieces and personal anecdotes on the Internet, all with different takes. But what does the word mean? Why are people so up in arms about it? Well, there’s no simple answer here.
One of the problems in defining “queer” is the fact that it means so many different things to different people. Queer can be:
· A noun, verb, or adjective
· A slur, or offensive word, used against LGBTQ+ people
· An identity, with it’s own different definitions
· An umbrella term that replaces LGBTQ+
· Radical activism relating to LGBTQ+ people and issues
· The act of subverting any societal norm, especially with gender and sexuality
· A term of empowerment and pride
From this non-exhaustive list, it’s clear that discussions of when, where, and how “queer” should be used can be very difficult and there is no consensus regarding it.
To simplify things, this pamphlet focuses on queer as a slur vs an identity or umbrella term for the LGBTQ+ community. This, obviously, doesn’t cover all interpretations of the term and all voices on the matter, but it does help us understand the argument that is most often seen in the LGBTQ+ community surrounding the word.
Middle Interior: History of the Word
“Queer” existed before being connected to the LGBTQ+ community and originally just meant strange or peculiar. The first known use of the word as an insult was 1894 towards the famously gay Oscar Wilde, and later it became a widespread insult towards anyone perceived to be gay, even if they weren’t.
The reclaiming of queer has a long history too. Accounts say that individuals started “taking back” the word and using it for themselves in the 1980’s. An early adopter of the word was the organization Queer Nation in early 1990.
The topics that queer theory and studies concerns itself have been around for much longer than the name. The term “queer theory” was coined in the 1990s as well and was adopted by many theorists. Many universities use this term, though others use “LGBT” or “gender and sexuality” as substitutes due to the sensitive nature of the word in certain regions.
Reclaiming isn’t universal, though. Plenty of people still have “queer” used as a slur against them and dislike its use to refer to them.
Why Do We Use It?
The project is called Queer Condensed because A) it’s catchy and B) it’s been reclaimed heavily in the area the creators are from. Most people use queer as an empowering term. Additionally, it’s a useful umbrella term and feels more broad than saying ‘the LGBTQ+ community.
Rightmost Interior: Using it Respectfully
The use of “queer” is as complex as its definitions. Some use the term broadly and insist that those who disagree aren’t proper parts of the community. Others say that any use of it is hateful. Queer Condensed hopes to show a middle ground.
If someone uses queer as an identity, it’s no one’s right to refuse to use it. Queer identity has a long history and it’s endlessly useful. Personal discomfort with the word never outweighs respecting others’ identities.
Using it as a broad term is trickier. In general, it’s best to learn about your local community’s feelings and definitions. Some areas have a lot of people using the word, others have a majority that feel hurt by it. Respectfully asking never hurts. Something to keep in mind is that even in places where the word is reclaimed, it’s usually not something for non-LGBTQ+ people to say because the word is rooted in LGBTQ+ oppression and violence.
Finally, always keep the feelings of others in mind when using the word outside of an identity. There are often people uncomfortable with the term even when many others have reclaimed it. Respect people who ask you to not use it on them and censor it as “q-slur” if asked. It’s impossible to know everyone’s experience, so communication is always key.
In case you want to see the words of people IDing as queer and talking about the term’s history, check out the post for this guide! Links there will take you to Tumblr posts that discuss the subject
[Image Description: The inside and outside of a pamphlet with a pink and purple color scheme entitled “The ‘Queer’ Question” laid out side-by-side. There is a summary, disclaimer, and helpful resources on the first half and sections titled “What is Queer,” “History of the Word,” and “Using it Respectfully” on the second. The text is small and blurry as it is only meant as a preview image to the resource described in this post]
The “Queer” Question - Pamphlet #8
In this pamphlet, you’ll find examples of what “queer” means, a brief rundown of the term’s history, and a suggestion on how to use it respectfully. As can be seen, the word is not censored and only the post is tagged as “q-slur” to hopefully avoid triggering individuals who have the word blocked on Tumblr.
This is probably the most subjective item on Queer Condensed and should be treated as such.
As always, this resource is free to use for noncommerical ventures as long as credit is given. The original Publisher files can be requested for modification through the ask box. If you download, a reblog or link to this post would be appreciated!
Also, links to Tumblr posts that talk about queer identity and the history of the term:
Update to the newest addition to this blog. It already had an image description so I added the full text and made the links a bit bigger and easier to click on. One more day of these and then I’m on to writing the next material! Whatever that will be.
[Image Description: The inside and outside of a pamphlet with a pink and purple color scheme entitled “The ‘Queer’ Question” laid out side-by-side. There is a summary, disclaimer, and helpful resources on the first half and sections titled “What is Queer,” “History of the Word,” and “Using it Respectfully” on the second. The text is small and blurry as it is only meant as a preview image to the resource described in this post]
The “Queer” Question - Pamphlet #8
In this pamphlet, you’ll find examples of what “queer” means, a brief rundown of the term’s history, and a suggestion on how to use it respectfully. As can be seen, the word is not censored and only the post is tagged as “q-slur” to hopefully avoid triggering individuals who have the word blocked on Tumblr.
This is probably the most subjective item on Queer Condensed and should be treated as such.
As always, this resource is free to use for noncommerical ventures as long as credit is given. The original Publisher files can be requested for modification through the ask box. If you download, a reblog or link to this post would be appreciated!
Also, links to Tumblr posts that talk about queer identity and the history of the term:
Update to the newest addition to this blog. It already had an image description so I added the full text and made the links a bit bigger and easier to click on. One more day of these and then I’m on to writing the next material! Whatever that will be.
psa to all cishets: when a queer person isnt out to you, but you keep noticing them doing and saying Queer Things, they probably arent just “thinking they’re being subtle.” like, they’re probably deliberately testing the waters to see how you react, and then if they start backpedaling and trying to explain it away, you uh. reacted badly.
like before you pat yourself on the back for being so perceptive, maybe ask yourself why the person feels uncomfortable talking about it with you and try to correct that instead of just cornering them and trying to force them to come out.
i guess what i’m saying is, respond in kind? if someone is dropping very small hints, like talking about how cute other girls hairstyles are or something, respond with an affirmation, that yes, they are very attractive. if they “jokingly” refer to themselves with gendered words that don’t match their assigned gender, maybe yes-and the joke and repeat it back to them or something. or even just casually laugh along.
dont respond to “that girl has cute hair” with “what the fuck are you gay” or even the nicer but equally daunting “you can tell me anything and i’ll always love you.” follow their lead.
it’s a whole-ass conversation, and you need to communicate to them that you’re supportive WITHOUT dragging them somewhere they might not be ready to go, AND without trying to swoop in to be the benevolent savior of the conversation
my guys. my guys. damian’s not threatening the cops here you guys know that right. you guys know that devin grayson wrote him intending to break up pride bc it was a riot right. we know that devin grayson made poor decisions w both of jon and damian here right.
god okay see. i know comic fans have that joke abt ignoring canon and all that but this is political. this is actively anti-riot and we need to understand the implications of that now (esp with that correlation of riots and the fight for black liberation). like this isn’t a fictional character thing can we please look at it as a piece of work instead of as a thing a character is in right now. we should be looking at devin grayson, the author and questioning her. please look at the bigger picture here and think abt what it means for a dc writer to actively write something that anti-riot and that sentiment that pride is no longer abt the fight for queer liberation but only about the celebration of queerness
The thing is nobody at pride is evaluating you to determine if you’re queer enough to be there because they’re too busy thinking “it’s so hot out” and “why is this lemonade 12 dollars?”
queer is such a good word. im queer as in fuck you. queer as in odd. queer as in fucked-in-the-head. queer as in i hope you choke on it. queer as in a slur i laugh at. queer as in not like you. queer as in none of your business. queer as in a line in the fucking dirt. queer as in we’re here. get used to it. queer as in this is who i am and what i am. queer as in im different and i dont fucking care. queer as in with or without you i exist and ill keep doing it. queer as in queer
queer as in lesbian. sorry u have internalized homophobia and think it’s a good thing to be fucked in the head, but some of us are normal.
the LGBT community fought to be seen as normal and beautiful for DECADES, and you’re here defacing it and disrespecting all those activists by calling all of us “odd” and “fucked in the head” and “different”. that’s fine and dandy for you, who is perfectly safe blogging on a website and saying slurs, but what about the kids who are beaten up because they’re seen as odd? the ones kicked out for being different? kids who kill themselves because they think that gay = weird? why tf would you want to push the idea that gay people are weird instead of trying to normalize it to protect helpless people?
babygirl. this post is about and me only. some people are relating to this and im glad for them, but i am queer as in odd. queer as in fucked in the head. queer as in not like you. im sorry that youre so insecure and miserable that you have nothing better to do than bitch at some random tumblr user for describing themselves with their own words
you called it “such a good word” and then equated it to being fucking insane. and then posted it to a public platform. if you’re crazy you can just say that without equating it to being a sexual minority.
god, imagine if i was like “i’m asian as in fucked in the head. asian as in crazy and not normal” lmao
babygirl im queer as in i hope you choke on it and queer as unpalatable. im a sexual and gender minority and i dont need to be nice or conforming or easy to handle.
no one said you needed to be conforming. just know that you actively make young gay lives worse by making people see us as evil and crazy :) you perpetuate homophobic hate crimes and persecution. i’m from a country that still does not have gay marriage or legal protections bc of sentiments like yours.
oh babygirl im queer as in Odd, Fucked In The Head, Unpalatable. aka NonConforming. i know reading is hard being youre used to being spoonfed bullshit, but try to think what im saying through.
babygirl im odd and deviant and im sorry youre too repressed and conformist to realize you’ll never be accepted no matter how much you piss on other queers<3
I’m not even gay you idiot, I just hate homophobes. Leave gay people alone
The first recorded use of the word “queer” to mean “homosexual” was in a letter by John Sholto Douglass, the ninth Marquess of Queensbury. He wrote in a letter to his son that “snob queers like Rosebery” had caused the death of his son Francis (Rosebury being the Lord that Francis had an affair with).
Douglass’ other son, Alfred, was an affair with Oscar Wilde, and grew so angry that he started the trials that led to Wilde’s imprisonment and two years’ hard labor for criminal indecency.
The word “homosexual” (and heterosexual) was first coined in a pamphlet by Karl-Maria Kentbeny, a Hungarian civil rights campaigner who decided follow his “instinctive drive to take issue with every injustice” after his close friend, a gay man, died by suicide after he was blackmailed by an extortionist.
“queer was established as the accepted academic term in the 90s!!!!!!!!” well it was a mistake back then and it’s still a mistake lmao it’s not my fault you bought into it
okay well the one thing i didnt expect from this fucking video was this guy saying “lgtbq” and then saying “well it could be shortened to q because queer is an umbrella term. lgtb = queer"i fucking hate it heee
Well, there’s no way around it: This has got to be one of the queerest places on the internet.
Howqueer, you ask? Apparently, folks on Tumblr are 193% more likely to identify as part of the LGBTQIA+ community than on any other social media platform. That’s you! Well, it’s most of you. It’s a helluva lot of you.
Let’s talk about you—the LGBTQIA+ community on Tumblr. You, who uplift each other, back each other up, uphold each other’s truths. Youmake Tumblr the supportive space it is.
This is who you are. Not just in June, but every day of every year. We wouldn’t have it any other way.
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Tumblr
You made Tumblr queer as hell. We wanted to thank you for that with some gently silly, aesthetic things. Why wait for Pride month? Tumblr celebrates year-round.
If you’re on a computer, check out the latest Color Palette for a fun dashboard makeover. Just mosey your little cursor over to the account button in the upper right-hand corner, click it, and then click “Change Palette.” The hues were inspired by the all-inclusive Prideflag.
While you’re there on your computer, you can brighten up your posts by tagging them with certain genders and sexuality-related words, like #lesbian, #trans, or #asexual. There’s a bunch of them! And we want to include more in the next tag update. If there’s a specific identity you need to see in our next release, let us know in the reblogs. For now, we hope everyone feels seen and celebrated in the rainbow #LGBTQIA+ tag.
Android and iOS folks, we didn’t forget about you. You’ll start to see all of this stuff around May 10.
@staff using a slur to describe their entire platform, and not giving a fuck about the lgbt folks legitimately upset by it.
I wanna say “OH just another day on Tumblr”, but this actually has me livid. As a childhood victim of ACTUAL HOMOPHOBIA, fuck you all and fuck anyone who tries to justify this insensitive bullshit.
Can we stop calling the lgbt community the “queer community” or calling gay and lesbian studies “queer studies” because a large chunk of the lgbt community doesn’t reclaim this slur. It’s like if you called women’s studies “bitch studies” or called any poc community or studies “[insert slur here] community/studies”
so i know there was this kinda kuweer anal-uh-sis floating around this obnoxious platform back in 2012 bout paranorman being an egregiously gay kids film, but like yeah that’s still just a major element that the film’s storytelling hinges on lol, and i don’t think it’s even a subtextual thing
chris butler, the guy who created and wrote the movie’s story (and proudly based norman off of himself as a child) is an openly gay man whos art is painfully well observed and also unabashedly based off of his lived experiences. yeah the Misfit Kid trope isn’t even a little unique, but the grimy suburb blocks and self-assured assholes who fill norman’s neighborhood are unique in how blatant, well-observed, and tangible they feel
i feel like it’d be intentionally obtuse to pretend that the inclusion of an unambiguously gay character, the theme of social ostracism for a harmless but “strange” characteristic you cannot change, and that whole owchie-owie-ow-it-hurts-scene where norman says he didn’t ask to be born the way he was and his shitty dad who hates “limp wristed” hippies says That Line (you know the one) weren’t on-the-nose to the point of it almost certainly being intentional. like, you don’t write something that fuckin gay, that seated in the gay experience, unless you’re a little aware of what that experience is
paranorman is laika’s best movie, is what i’m saying, and frankly it wouldn’t have nearly as depthy storytelling if it weren’t for the Homosexual Experience that tinges every. single. line. and every. single. plot point. btw teehee protag’ last name has Cock in it ex dee el oh el!!!!!!!!!!!!
