#roommies

We watch The Swan Princess with Miss Z. Suddenly, my roommate says, “Obama’s healthcare act turned me into a swan. Thanks, Obama!”

O.o

Did your roommate not wash his dishes again? Whose turn is it to clean the bathroom? Conflicts with roommates can ruin your relationship with perfectly nice people if you don’t handle them correctly. When simple problems like those involving housework come up, you need to be able to handle them with maturity and a sense of calm. Here are some tips to help you maintain good relations with your roomies. ·         

1) Ask yourself whether the problem is really that big of a deal. If it is something that only bugs you, then maybe you’re overreacting. Do you really want to ruin a relationship with a roommate over whether they turn their music off at 9 or 9:10 p.m.?·         

2) Acknowledge the problem to yourself and then bring the situation to your roommate directly. Give yourself time to calm down about the issue before you approach your roomie. Avoid gossiping or talking behind your roommate’s back about the problem. This can only make things worse by creating an atmosphere of distrust and tension. ·         

3) Talk to your roommate when you are both calm and have time to deal with the issue. Ask your roommate for a good time to chat. Go into the conversation with a positive attitude, thinking that the conflict can be peacefully resolved. Having this vision in your mind will help you reach an amicable agreement.         

4) Give the discussion the time necessary to get it solved. Don’t try to rush the conversation. ·         

5) Avoid statements like, “You always (bring guys over to stay the night/forget to put the seat down…)” Try instead, “I feel (fill in the emotion) when you (whatever it is that bothers you).”·         

6) Use open body language during the conversation. Avoid crossing your arms. Sit facing your roommate. Look at your roommate in the eyes as he speaks.         

 7) Acknowledge your roommate’s feelings about the situation. Don’t jump in with your two cents, making sure to listen carefully. Nod your head, and affirm what she’s saying. Then recap what she said by saying something like, “What I hear you saying is that…Is that right?” This gives your roomie the opportunity to correct any errors in your understanding of her side of the story and helps her feel that you are truly listening. Really listening to someone can defuse a lot of anger from the beginning and keep the conversation focused on the problem at hand. 

8) Stay on track with the conversation. Don’t go down rabbit trails and talk about other problems until the original one is solved.

9) Be prepared to compromise. It’s the roommate’s home, too, so you’ll probably need to give a little to find a solution you can both agree to.

10) If necessary, write up a contract or a written agreement so that you both remember what you agreed to in the final solution to the problem. Post this where you both can see it, and refer to it regularly.

11) Look at your own actions as a roommate in the house. See what you do that you think might irritate your roommates. Start changing how you act before you go to your roommate with a problem you have with him. Your changing your behavior might make him aware of his own shortcomings, and he might start acting differently without you having to say anything to him.

12) Get a neutral third party to help you resolve the conflict if you cannot do so on your own. Having an objective eye on the situation and someone to perhaps offer some alternative solutions you hadn’t thought of can be very valuable.

13) Be patient with the situation. If your roommate doesn’t immediately change her behavior, gently remind her of it from time to time if necessary. Maybe she just forgot once or twice to act differently. Give her the benefit of the doubt.

14) When you can’t solve the conflict, acknowledge that it is okay to simply not get along with someone well. When the lease is up, find a new roommate, but try to part on good terms. You can also find a sub-letter to take over your part of the lease if you have to leave before the lease ends.

Having roommates isn’t easy, but you don’t have to live in a tension-filled home. Take proactive steps to solve any conflicts before they get too out of hand.

Shower thoughts - willne (mini imagine)

Prompt list nr. 13: “I’m naked and afraid.” And nr. 18: “Whatever; I’m not jealous.”

(j/f/s: your fave song)

You lifted your heavy bag of your shoulder, happy to be home. A big sign escaped once you saw the big mess in the appartement, Will was a sweatheart but He still wasn’t used to the concept: living on your own means you are the one putting the dirty clothes in the washer.

“Will?” You shouted hoping your roommate was home. “The boy never get’s out and when it’s cleaning time he disapeares.” You said to yourself.

A quick look through the apartment made you suspicions come true, Will was out.

“This my change.” You knew his pasword by heart and Made your way to his video edit program and clicked the latest video that was supposed to be out tonight and Added a little thing. For a few millisecond s “will loves y/n!” Was displayd over a clip where the two of you sang to y/f/s.

“First a shower.” You thought at loud. Soon enough the bath room was filled with steam and loud singing.

You seemed snapped out of your daily routine once you were under the shower. That light headache you had slowly faded away and all your muscles relaxed.

Wait, what? Was that a black shadow? You opend your eyes even wider. A black figur was coming closer towards you “I’m naked and afraid!” You shouted. A couple seconds went by when your heared that laugh, Will.

“Ffs, Will get out, I ment both parts of what I just Said!” You shouted tried covering your lady parts. “Y/n, relax my eyes are closed.” I grabbed a Towel and tapped his shoulder “you can look now.” I look confused at Will. “There is still soap in your hair, by the way.” I started angrerly at him “since you interupted me mid showering, yes.” I pushed him on the shoulder. “Checking me out, huh” you joked. “Totally, if I would be into you.” He joked back.

“Will, your in here?” Great, I reconized stephen’s voice. “WOAH.” He added. “This is not what it looks like or is it.” Will winked. “Will, we finish our talk later, huh?” You smiled waving the boys away playing along with Will. “Jealous, steph?” Will laughed. Stephen’s glare was priceless “however, I’m not jealous.” He staped back “maybe we should let, Y/n dress?” He looked down and grabbed Will by the wrist, Facing the door while Will proudly lifted his thumbs up.

“That’s Why you’re my roommie!” He whispered.