#tough love
New Beginnings, Bitch- 3/24/2016
Tough love. I wanted to start this comic a while ago and it killed me that I wasted time not doing it.
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Goodbye, Prince Conn.
She Reads:
“The Courage to be Disliked” by Fumitake Koga and Ichiro Kishimi
A short summary of the notes I took whilst reading this book.
The Courage to be Disliked
1. We live in a subjective world that we ourselves give meaning to.
2. If we focus on only the past and try to explain things by cause and effect, this means that we have already determined that our present and future is determined by our past and is not changeable.
3. Think about present goals, not past causes.
4. No experience in itself is the reason for our success or failure. We create reasons to act a certain way by excusing it as trauma.
5. Fixating on what you’re born with does not change reality.
6. Living in a realm of possibilities (“I wish I had more time” “I can do it if I try”) is more comfortable than actually doing anything about it.
7. All problems are caused by inter personal relationships.
8. To feel lonely, we need other people.
9. The feeling of inferiority can be a trigger for striving and growth. An inferiority complex is using those feelings as an excuse.
10. The moment you’re convinced “I am right” it creates a power struggle. If you are right, then close the matter. Else the discussion goes from “rightness of assertions” to “the state of the interpersonal relationships.”
11. We need a perspective of “whose task is this?” And not do other people’s tasks. This comes from answering “who will receive the result from the choice they make?”
12. Freedom is being disliked by other people. Proof that you are exercising your freedom, living in freedom and your living according to your principles.
