“… Where I said “lesbian” the word lesbian was changed to “queer.” I was rebranded. I became the mythological “if the situation was right” lesbian. The appropriated slur “queer,” has become the popular descriptor of choice for a “yes” girl or a “maybe” girl— An “I’m not going to rule anything out because I’m open-minded” girl. It doesn’t carry the sting of lesbian. The stigma of lesbian. The boundaries of lesbian. Lesbian is a solid “No.” ”Not even if…” And that unwillingness to bend is the very reason lesbians are targeted with insidious psychological warfare.”
The creator fucking left us out solely bc the creator said some “aphobic” things and decided ppl who don’t fuck r more a part of the community THAN THE GOD DAMN L
Ace and Aro people are just as much a part of the community as “the god damn L”. We are much more than people who don’t fuck.
Honestly.
Shitting on and excluding a part of the Lgbtqia+ spectrum while you yell about being excluded is more than a little tone deaf. Tap dancing baby jesus on a fucking unicycle, it isn’t that hard.
Really? What have you contributed?
what oppression do the Ace community face exactly?? You don’t feel valid?? Fuck off.
Remember when an ace person got “homosexuality” removed from the American Psychiatric Association’s list of mental illnesses? Oh wait, that was Barbara Gittings, a lesbian. Did an ace person punch a cop at Stonewall and incite the riots? No, that was Storme DeLarverie, a lesbian. Were there any asexuals helping to organize the first Pride? Again, those were lesbians (Ellen Brody and Linda Rhodes) and gay men (Craig Rodwell and Fred Sargeant), as well as a bisexual woman (Brenda Howard). Were asexuals known to help gay men during the AIDS crisis? No, that was lesbians. Did an ace person overturn the discriminatory “defense of marriage” act? No, that was also a lesbian, Edith Windsor. Even outside of the US, you will find that activists for the gay rights movement (now referred to “LGBT”) were, well, gay people.
Our fight was always one of sexual freedom. And, while asexual people have their own struggles, I’m sure, the idea that they belong in the “LGBT” community is very new and misguided. To assert that asexuals are “just as much of a part of the community” as lesbians is absolutely absurd. Lesbians are the ones who, throughout history and still today, were oppressed because of their same sex attraction. They (along with gay men) built this community from the ground up, struggling for centuries to get where we are today.
You all didn’t even force your way in until the 2000s. In fact, I’m old enough to remember when the “A” still stood for ally.
The Q used to stand for Questioningin order to offer solidarity to those who were struggling with internalized homophobia or who couldn’t come out bc their parents were homophobic. But straights just couldn’t fucking resist calling us a homophobic slur
I still can’t get over how genderqueer and nonbinary are the same made up thing and they put both of them.
^^ This. They won’t include lesbians, but they’ll include 2 completely meaningless terms??? That’s like kicking us when we’re down. The misogyny is RIFE.
it’s shocking to me how the apparent “homophobia” in trans communities is like. genuinely nonexistent. like i know a gay guy who’s a very very strong advocate for trans rights, and he also doesn’t generally date trans guys. which is like. fine? what matters is that he respects trans people and doesn’t treat us like trash. that’s what makes him an ally. he doesn’t have to be sexually attracted to somebody to care about and respect them. it’s literally not a big deal who he chooses to date or sleep with, as long as he respects other people. hell, one of his best friends is a cis gay guy dating a trans man. i also know cis lesbians who date trans women, cis lesbians that don’t, and trans women that are lesbians, and all of them are equally lesbians. it’s not that complicated
Nonexistent? From the community denying biological sex and by extension same-sex attraction even exists? From the community that coined the term “cotton ceiling” to describe the apparent problem of lesbians not being sexually interested in transwomen? From the community who encourage kids that show normal signs of being gay to transition, first chemically castrating and then literally castrating themselves? From the community calling LGB Alliance a hate group?
Lots and lots of offended American terfs who can’t bear that I compared my objectophilia to their precious “same sex attraction”.
Here in Russia homophobes react the same way when someone says queerness is not worse than heterosexuality.
As a Russian queer, I really don’t see a difference.
Okay, homophobe. Notice how you defaulted to the word “queerness”, which can mean damn near anything new wave queerios such as yourself want it to, rather than homosexuality/same sex attraction.
You call people homophobes for being against “queerness” but are derisive about the very existence of same sex attraction.
Then again Russia is pretty homophobic so it’d explain a lot about you.
Maybe terfs are so pissed off about kinks and fetishes because these are forms of attraction that are very much not genital-centered. Sometimes even not body-centered at all.
actually fetishes and kinks can be racist, misogynistic, homophobic, and extremely harmful.
also, please tell me you understand that kinks and fetishes aren’t really “forms of attraction,” they’re ways you express preexisting attraction to the sex(es) you are interested in
Please, tell me what sex my shoes are.
you know damn well what I mean. don’t intentionally misinterpret me
I fuck shoes. Just shoes, without a person in them. This is not “preexisting attraction to sex”, shoes are not sexually dimorphic. Kinks and fetishes are independent attractions.
oh yes thanks for bringing up something I forgot to mention! some kinks and fetishes are genuinely things you should discuss with a therapist
Why should I bring to a therapist something that doesn’t make my life worse? I’m not interested in having my sexuality made into something “normal”, thanks.
@opabiniawillreturn, m'am, you may like existing in one-dimensional space, but don’t make it everyone else’s problem. “Everything I don’t understand should be cured” is a very meh way to live.
masturbating with shoes is something your therapist should know about.
So what? So we can be converted into good heterosexual productive members of society?
you really took “masturbating in shoes is not mentally normal” to mean “i hate gay people”
Not that we needed even more proof that people with kinks think they are on a par with homosexuals because they see homosexuality as a perversion and “not normal”…
Maybe terfs are so pissed off about kinks and fetishes because these are forms of attraction that are very much not genital-centered. Sometimes even not body-centered at all.
actually fetishes and kinks can be racist, misogynistic, homophobic, and extremely harmful.
also, please tell me you understand that kinks and fetishes aren’t really “forms of attraction,” they’re ways you express preexisting attraction to the sex(es) you are interested in
Please, tell me what sex my shoes are.
you know damn well what I mean. don’t intentionally misinterpret me
I fuck shoes. Just shoes, without a person in them. This is not “preexisting attraction to sex”, shoes are not sexually dimorphic. Kinks and fetishes are independent attractions.
Imagine admitting this publicly on the internet and believing you’ve come out looking better than your opponents.
YOU FUCK WHAT?
Bet dollars to donuts that @couropath only likes shoes designed for women. I have never in my life heard about anyone fetishizing men’s loafers or something.
First of all, shoes have no gender. Second, my current fave looks like this
Third, the sexiest ever shoes (that I unfortunately do not own) look like this
Third, if you have literally never met people with some attraction, perhaps you’re not the expert on this attraction?
I’m not sure what you think you’re accomplishing other than giving my followers more material to gawk at but okay.
If sure you’re very happy and well adjusted being a boot fucker, but that doesn’t really say anything about normal sexual orientation. Or about the kinks/fetishes so-called “terfs” actually are concerned with that tend to involve hurting women, torturing women, degrading women or having women roleplay as children.
“Normal sexual orientation” is overrated. I did enough of larping as a hetero in my life.
Also, I’ve never been in a non kink relationship ever, and my sex life started involving a girl only recently. If you only have a problem with women having non normative sex, your problem isn’t with kinks or fetishes, your problem is with women. Which is a weird hill to die on, but whatever. No kink or fetish inherently must include women.
The fact you read “normal sexual orientation” and think that only means heterosexuality is prettytelling.
I know you probably think you’re so subversive and shocking right now but I’ve definitely encountered far weirder things than you on the internet. This is just getting sad.
“your problem isn’t with kinks or fetishes, your problem is with women.“
You started out saying “terfs hate kink because it doesn’t involve genitals”. I’m telling you why you’re completely off base.
The only normal (seen as wanted and desirable and worthy of representation in society) sexual orientation is heterosexual attraction to adults on the younger end. The rest of us are deviants and freaks. I choose to be proud of it. If someone chooses to beg to be accepted as normal… I’m sorry.
Okay, homophobe.
I mean yeah you’re a deviant freak because you’re a shoe fucker. But what, you want us regular old gays to be deviant freaks too? To make you feel better about yourself? Don’t drag us into it.
Meanwhile us feminists will be over here continuing to discuss how it’s a problem of epidemic proportions that men train themselves from their formative years to find the degradation, pain and misery of women sexually gratifying.
Fandom TRAs can keep looking if they want for that magic loophole that will make trans headcanons acceptable, but when it comes to them imposing that shit on gay characters, it’s lose/lose regardless of what direction they’re transitioning the character in
Turning a gay man into a TIF or a lesbian into a TIM is homophobic in a very obvious material way to anyone who recognizes sex over gender (aka any gay person) — it completely screws over that character’s same-sex partner, if they have one, by turning a same-sex relationship into an opposite-sex one. TRAs of course won’t see it this way and will be adamant that this is a valid gay relationship, but any actual gay person knows better.
The alternative, making a gay man a TIM or a lesbian a TIF, while more grounded in reality at least, isn’t much better. Because now, regardless of how much the character’s relationship still technically counts as gay, it’s once again the TRAs putting themselves in charge of the terminology and rendering the relationship as heterosexual-adjacent as possible within the confines of still being same-sex. Objecting to this is not the same thing as conceding that the character is literally the opposite sex (“gender”) and thus literally in a heterosexual relationship, but what we’re picking up on is the TRAs’ desire for heteronormativity imposed on the characters, and that’s almost just as off-putting.
It’s so funny when people think I’ve been a radfem my whole life, that I was born and molded to believe and follow radical feminism.
like I wish I was, but I gave away the majority of my life to libfem pro trans activist ideology — and get this, I also wasn’t born into that! But I spent so much of my life online, that I was manipulated and groomed to believe it right. I never got a chance to think otherwise, because I was never shown otherwise existed or that otherwise was okay.
and listen, I genuinely fought and believed in trans rights for so long. It wasn’t till I figured out my sexuality and started seeing the loop-holes these men take to force themselves into women only spaces. I wouldn’t have this blog if it wasn’t for the tiktok account I created to express my lesbianism, which you can see my posts start to take a shift as my views change.
do you know how gross it is for a male to talk about his “girl"dick, to tell you how much you’d love it? Or when you make a joke about only liking pussy, you’re called a transphobe bc god forbid you don’t like dick.
i’m gonna need everyone to just. stop being so weird about dicks. just calm the fuck down about dicks. they are literally just a normal body part. they are completely neutral. and also enjoying having one or wanting one is okay. transfems & enben who enjoy having one are fine. transmascs & enben who want one or get one are fine. the presence of a penis is not some insane thing it’s literally normal. calm the fuck down
The only people being weird about dicks are the ones demanding straight men and lesbian women be into them.
I’m not homophobic and I hope you die painful and alone
Lesbians are homosexual females. Males can’t be lesbians, go jump off a bridge with your woke conversions therapy rhetoric fuckface
“I’m not homophobic” cries the homophobe absolutely enraged at lesbian sexual boundaries being asserted. @freakshows199 hit all the classics in my DMs before blocking me again.
The Stonewall lie. Thinking “nonbinary” actually means anything. Seahorses are horses. Not understanding what intersex is. And of course the q-slur. Happy Pride, everyone!
P.S. don’t tell genderists kys, don’t stoop to their level.
pride month is when i feel the least prideful in my sexuality. all the mogai demiflux lithromantic genderhoarder whatever the fucks make me want to retract back into the closet.
This trend of binary trans people turning on nonbinary people is so funny to me. Like, binary trans people are sick of nonbinary people coming into their movement, taking it over, and making it all about them. I wish I could relate, but unfortunately as a lesbian feminist, I’ve never had the experience of a group of people who don’t represent me at all taking over a community I’m apart of and co-opting it by speaking over me and others like me.
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Yeah, because attraction based on pronouns and self-identification makes way more sense. Like I have to wait to make sure that someone uses he/him or she/her pronouns before deciding I’m attracted to them
I never said pronouns are attractive that doesn’t make sense lol
what are people attracted to then? gender identity??? I’m certainly not
There’s this really cool thing called personality
I understand how you fucks wouldn’t undertsand what that’s like. Since none of you have one.
I was already here. OP somehow denies this post began with a declarative statement on how sexual orientation in general operates.
Hint: X and Y chromosomes contain the genes that determine physical sex in humans. So OP is in fact mocking the idea that sex based attraction and by extension homosexuality exist. All while bragging about LARPing as a gay man in a sexless opposite sex marriage.
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Yeah, because attraction based on pronouns and self-identification makes way more sense. Like I have to wait to make sure that someone uses he/him or she/her pronouns before deciding I’m attracted to them
I never said pronouns are attractive that doesn’t make sense lol
what are people attracted to then? gender identity??? I’m certainly not
There’s this really cool thing called personality
I understand how you fucks wouldn’t undertsand what that’s like. Since none of you have one.
You sound exactly like the homophobes of the past who would say “Can’t you love people for their personality? Do you just care about genitals? Is everything just about sex to you? Isn’t that so gross and unfulfilling?” as a way to try and talk us out of our natural sexual orientation of being only same-sex attracted.
YOURE putting words in my mouth. I dont care if you’re attracted to genitals, I dont care if you’re exclusively attracted to genitals. That’s okay.
I’m telling you how MY sexuality works. It’s all of you who are invalidating it.
No you aren’t, you started of calling anyone whose attraction is to a single sex “transphobes and terfs”. Of course I’m attracted to the genitals of the sex I’m oriented to, because genitals are sexual organs. But that doesn’t somehow preclude that I’d be attracted to another member of the female sex on the basis of her personality.
People like you are just the new wave of homophobes.
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Yeah, because attraction based on pronouns and self-identification makes way more sense. Like I have to wait to make sure that someone uses he/him or she/her pronouns before deciding I’m attracted to them
I never said pronouns are attractive that doesn’t make sense lol
what are people attracted to then? gender identity??? I’m certainly not
There’s this really cool thing called personality
I understand how you fucks wouldn’t undertsand what that’s like. Since none of you have one.
You sound exactly like the homophobes of the past who would say “Can’t you love people for their personality? Do you just care about genitals? Is everything just about sex to you? Isn’t that so gross and unfulfilling?” as a way to try and talk us out of our natural sexual orientation of being only same-sex attracted.
