#bi issues

asexualmew:

As a 26 year old multi-romantic asexual, I’m so thankful to the older biro-bisexuals who’ve been seeing the parallels between the treatment of ace and aro individuals with the treatment of bi individuals, even when they’re not on the aro or ace spectrum themselves, and actually saying something about it.

There’s a lot of biphobic and panphobic arguments concerning the exclusion of aces and aros, but you’re not even stopping there but talking about how arguments against aces and aros are almost word-for-word with your own lived in experiences with biphobia, and I really, really appreciate your allyship.

Thank you so much….

bisexual-community:

stardustflake:

i need to make a post about this because it’s really bothering me.

bisexuality = the attraction to more than one gender, or the attraction to two or more genders, or the attraction to genders same as and other than your own

pansexuality = the attraction to all genders or the attraction to people regardless of their sex and gender identity

bisexuality is not defined as the attraction to men and women. bisexuality does not exclude other genders. bisexuals aren’t any less open-minded and accepting than pansexuals or anyone else in the lgbtq+ community. bisexuality is a sexuality, not a way to reinforce the gender binary.

many people seem to think that bisexuals aren’t aware of non-binary people or that they think there are only two genders.

this is because

1. the term bisexual is older than the term pansexual, and at the time the word bisexual was first introduced, it was defined as the attraction to males and females, because the term non-binary wasn’t something people were aware of. fortunately, many people today understand what gender binary and non-binary mean and because of this, the definition and meaning of bisexuality have evolved. saying bisexuals are only attracted to men and women is the old way of thinking.

2.biinbisexualmeanstwo, and people always like to rely on this and say that it literally means two, as in men and women. if you really have to use this as an argument, the two you’re referring to means same as your own genderandother than your own gender. that makes two groups without excluding any genders.

3. pansexuality is always thought of as the gender-blind label that includes everyone whereas bisexuality is seen as only including men and women, boys and girls, males and females. which, like i said, is not true, so please destroy this way of thinking. it’s not helping anyone.

you can identify as both bisexual and pansexual. you can identify as bisexual but feel like the word pansexual could also describe your sexuality accurately. you can identify only as pansexual. 

the difference between these two is slight but it’s there. so maybe instead of trying to tell others what their own sexualities are supposed to mean to them or what they should identify as, give everyone the freedom to identify themselves however way they feel is right for them. especially people who are neither bisexual nor pansexual can stfu and stop defining our sexualities for us thank you.

Bisexual+ is a Community Identity Label (like Lesbian, Gay, SGL, even Straight). Many bisexual+ & biromantic+ people also use Personal Identity Labels that serve a vital function in describing differences while giving each individual non-monosexual person a space to be unique.  These can include (but are never be limited to): ambi, flexi, fluid, heteroflexible/homoflexible, multi, no labels, omni, pan, poly, pomo, queer, sapio, and so many more.

“Bisexual or Pansexual?” must be understood as the Bisexual+ Community’s equivalent to internal community conversations many Gay and Lesbian people have regarding their own personal approaches to identification (e.g. masc, butch, twink, femme, scene, AG, bear, queen, etc.). 

Gay, Lesbian and Straight Allies stop using the internal conversation between members of the Bi+ Community about how each community member individually choses to personally identify to try and reclassify non-mono people into separate, groups.  Your cynical practice of creating, encouraging and using these so-called “label wars” as a rationale for not funding, including, hiring and serving the needs of the Bisexual+ Community has to end immediately.  Stop trampling Bi+ People into the ground in your headlong scramble for respectability and the almighty dollar. You are costing the lives of your fellow LGBT+ people. 

Bi+ People listen to yourselves. Stop being drawn into cliques, snobbishness and“town vs gown” bickering. Do you really think that somehow those with less monetary and educational advantages are automatically less intelligent or socially aware?  Consider the source when you accept or worse pass on embarrassingly false gossip that some bi-queer academic of Jewish extraction “invented” this or that wording/idea to “make money”. Stop and think of what you are really saying if you find yourselves snickering over someone using a different bi+ label as being “ghetto”or “project”.  

Ask yourself, why do you so unquestioningly accept what some frequently straight, usually white and western, mostly cis, largely heteronormative self-proclaimed expert says over what your own well-respected trans, genderqueer, enby, ace, intersex and cis Bi+ Community thought leaders have been saying for decades now?

caringbibear:

bisexual-community:

bialogue-group:

passingprivilege:

bi people: *more likely to be victims of rape than gay or straight people* 

bi people: *more likely to live in poverty than gay or straight people*

also bi people: *more likely to be victims of intimate partner violence than gay or straight people*

also bi people: *more likely to face discrimination in the health care system than gay or straight people*

still bi people: *get paid less, on average, than gay or straight people*

and still, bi people: *more likely to suffer mental illness than gay or straight people*

some fucker on the internet: no but really bi people aren’t oppressed because they’re bi it’s because people think you’re gay. biphobia is a lie. only homophobia is real. hate me please bi people but you cannot deny my ultimate logic™

Shockingly there are it seems a number of people who continue to be so discomforted by even the idea of Bisexuality that instead of researching the above by now very well know/well verified statistics, they commenced to whine, carp, complain, deny and fuss instead.

So for all those whose “google finger” seems to have broken, let us assist you: 

Here is an Easy to Understand Set of MemeswithLinkstoAll Pertinent Studies created by Shiri Eisner, a well known bisexual academic and author

Yipes! At this time tremendous amounts of sold and reliable research showsthatBisexual+ People have the WORST Health + Quality of Life outcomes of ALL demographic groups: Gay, Straight or Lesbian!  But when confronted by this instead of say … clicking the link to find out why, assorted biphobes and other species of malcontents reacted by winging on that bisexuals must be lying and making this up! *head desk*

Yikes Me thought this lunacy restricted to repubs oiy