#contrasts

Contrasts

notinlove:

orallyfixated:

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When the guys came to check on Songhwa

She stopped working for only one of them ;)

Songhwa’s reactions to others entering her personal space

One of these is not like the others.

(following@midoring’s idea )

“Small things” that are kind of a big deal to Songhwa #3

• Camping

An altruistic person tends to cut her/his personal desire down to the minimum so as to avoid potential conflicts between self interests and serving others. For Songhwa, the one thing she does for herself is camping. When asked if she has any selfish or materialistic wish, her reply is a good camping spot.

More than a hobby, camping ties to the core of Songhwa’s identity: being an independent individual. Camping allows her to build a small world of her own, in the midst of the great nature. A small world over which she has total control, where she can temporarily escape into, unwind and be healed.

Building this small world of her own piece by piece brings Songhwa so much joy

and she’s unapologetically proud of it.

If you truly understand her, then the necessity of a wood stove or log racks should be self-explanatory. She shouldn’t need to explain it to you — it’s her own world after all.

So it’s never just about picking up a package. Songhwa can certainly live a fulfilling life on her own. However, if she finally decides to walk this long journey called “life” with another person, I cannot envision a better scenario than the one below.

Here, she’s setting the pace, both hands in her pockets. She’s comfortable, confident. That little world of her own, represented by a wood stove too heavy for her to carry, is being held carefully in the arms of someone who knows her so well and she trusts so much.

How to love a strong independent woman?

Especially a strong independent woman who can set up a tent all by herself, in heavy rain;

who, after discovering a breast lump through self-examination, went to get a biopsy test on her own;

who is well respected in her professional life.

Do make sure her opinion is heard in group talks.

Do ask for her explicit consent.

Do take her no as a no.

Don’t patronize her.

Don’t disregard her will of dealing with things alone.

Don’t question her way of living her own life.

At the end of the day, there really are very few things that such a strong independent woman cannot handle on her own. Hence, loving her is not about what you want to do for her.

It’s about what she let you do for her.

“Small things” that are kind of a big deal to Songhwa #1

• Punctuality

In fact, she values punctuality so much that she always arrives early for her appointments.

Someone doesn’t really care about such a “small thing” for her. Someone does.

“Small things” that are kind of a big deal to Songhwa #2

• Herniated disc

Her pain has gotten worse to the point where she needed to increase medication.

Again, someone doesn’t really care about such a “small thing” for her. Someone does.

Songhwa’s day-to-day mugs:

Everyone gets to use Songhwa’s day-to-day mugs.

Songhwa’s beautiful gold foil couplemugs:

Reserved for brewing hand drip coffee

For treating herself

Or treating someone special

Sorry, Junwan.

Read more of Songhwa’s coffee rules@ourpsychicfg

Songhwawillingly shared the details of her diagnosis with one of her visitors so that he would know as much as someone who attended her result meeting uninvited.

Bonus: Songhwa’s reactions when her visitors left

Highway of Light.

Snowy Isle of Arran.

World of contrasts.