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There are a lot of things they don’t tell you about going to college when your boyfriend is almost two hours away. And by they, I mean all the advisers, teachers, parents, friends, relatives, and administrators that are there to prepare you for university life.
They don’t tell you that it can be a really big struggle to figure out the bus schedule and how to visit your boyfriend when he lives 85.5 miles away, in a major, overpopulated city. They don’t help you pack to spend the night with him, or give you bus fare when you need a transfer two counties away from your university.
They don’t tell you how lonely you will get when you’re walking up 6 flights of stairs to your dorm room with nothing but a bag full of anthropology homework, even though we’ve only had class for 3 days.
They don’t tell you how awkward and uncomfortable it is when guys introduce themselves to you, and suddenly act as though you have the black plague when you mention you have a boyfriend studying at a different university, when all you ever wanted to do is get to know someone.
They don’t tell you how you will cry when your roommate isn’t around and how much you’ll miss them. They don’t even give you someone to tell how sad you are.
What they DO tell you, is how you’re “going to make so many friends” and “getting involved is the best way to meet people.” I want to meet people, but I also want to see my boyfriend.
Fin.
So my date with Nicholas Sparks got pushed back to this week but I’m surprisingly optimistic. He has deleted his profile since arranging to meet with me and has already begun financial negotiations with me. I’m aiming for 3x a month with a 10-12k allowance. So far, he seems pretty game.
In other life news that is somewhat related to sugaring but not really, I got a ridiculous promotion at work. While I’m getting quite a good chunk of change, I will be making more than 6 figures by the end of this year. I’m so ridiculously excited and happy, seeing as I’m only 22 and things seem to be going so well for me. I absolutely adore my work, the people, and the companies I work for. Plus, this work has me travel a lot to do what I do best: schmoozing older men. My boss initially saw this at the conference we were working at together and he noticed all of the men that came through our studio gravitated towards me. I could make them feel comfortable and at ease before their interviews so he decided to capitalize on the opportunity.
And, I noticed a lot of this professional development made me extremely attractive in the sugaring and regular dating world. When men ask me what I do, they’re thoroughly impressed. I certainly didn’t think I was dumb before, but now I feel like I can go on a whole other level with the men I meet. I can demand more from the company I keep plus my network keeps expanding. I have all of these great opportunities to meet CEOs and millionaires. I’m better at talking to them and creating what they need.
So if there’s any SB advice to be pulled from my personal experience: Girls, get your education and professional life together. It is amazing how much the world opens up to you when men no longer see you as a helpless girl. They begin to see you as an equal or at the very least, a woman who’s racing her way to the top. When you’ve got your shit together, trust me, it shows. And the right people will gravitate towards that.
