You know, as a millennial who rebelled against their parents’ strict black-and-white fundamentalist worldview by finding and fully embracing the grayness of everyday morality, it’s really jarring to watch Gen Z rebel against their parents’ strict black-and-white worldviews by adopting an equally rigid black-and-white worldview that just clings to the polar opposite opinions of their parents’. It’s like watching someone who’s complained about being forced to wear dresses their whole life decide to rebel by wearing only blue dresses instead of pink ones. You’re not getting rid of what your parents forced you into; you’re just changing the look of it.
I don’t know who needs to hear this, but please, please,pleasedo not use the term “gaslighting” in political debates or discussion. It doesn’t belong there, and using it in that context is doing real harm to abuse survivors.
Gaslighting is when an abuser attempts to make their victim question their own sense of reality through denial or fabrication. A parent telling their child, “No, I never sat you down and yelled at you for an hour because you didn’t take out the trash. Why would you even accuse me of something like that?” That’s gaslighting. One partner using emotional manipulation and vague claims to convince another that having a single beer after dinner is evidence of a drinking problem? That’s gaslighting. Someone countering your political opinions? A politician saying something you disagree with? Not gaslighting.
I get that things are contentious right now. I understand a lot of people are angry about a lot of things. But the word “gaslighting” is important to abuse survivors. It’s a powerful term, and the only one that adequately describes the mental agony of having someone try and rewrite your reality, of having them attack your own sense of self to try and make you depend on them to define what you remember and what you don’t, of wondering if the horrible things you remember even happened. When you take the word “gaslighting” and fling it around your political arguments, you cheapen it. You water it down. You turn it into just another buzzword used to shut people down on Twitter, to win a debate that is utterly meaningless by any estimation. (Hate to break it to you, but it’s true. Social media debates don’t change anyone’s mind and, according to most counts, have only ever succeeded in making everyone angry.)
When survivors, still in that fragile questioning phase where they don’t know if they deserve to use the word abusejust yet, see gaslighting used so casually, they’ll assume that what happened to them was no more horrific than one person disagreeing with another on social media. What’s worse, their abusers can now accuse them of gaslighting for something as simple as challenging their false version of events.
I won’t be hearing arguments on this. No “but it IS gaslighting because….” No “but when my parents argue with me, it feels like gaslighting.” Your feelings do not define a word. That word does not belong to you. Leave it alone.
I will never not be grateful to whoever decided we needed a Disney Princess movie set in 1920s New Orleans, even if I’m still not sure we deserved all the drop-dead gorgeous imagery in this film.
Rereadng PJO for the first time in years and cracked myself up late last night imagining Tantalus on Chopped.
Choppedkitchen. Dramatic music swells as Ted Allen lifts a cloche to show a plate. It is completely bare except for a handful of cornflakes scattered haphazardly across it.
Ted: Chef Tantalus, you have been chopped. Judges?
Chris Santos: Chef Tantalus. [His annoyance grows with each syllable of the name.] You didn’tcook anything. You went to the pantry, and you grabbed an armful of ingredients, and then you just ran around throwing them at your competitors. It was the most bizarre thing I have everseen in this kitchen. Never, in the history of this show, has a contestant just walked up behind someone and tossed an entire raw sheep’s heart into their gazpacho. That wasn’t just unprofessional—it was disturbing.
Tantalus: It wasn’t—
Chris: And honestly, I wouldn’t be so annoyed if you’d just left the plates empty. But this? [He gestures to his plate, which contains three pieces of Lucky Charms and a single, moon-shaped marshmallow.] This is an insult. It’s for these reasons we had to chop you.
Tantalus: I didn’t throw that stuff around—the Mist—I’m just hungry!
Chris: Well, if you were hungry for a win, you should’ve given us more than a handful of cereal, which wasn’t even a basket ingredient.
Tantalus: No, I’m literally—
Chris: You can go, thank you.
Cut to hallway. There is no voice over with Tantalus detailing his thoughts and hopes for the future. Two uniformed security guards drag him away from the kitchen as he screams.
Tantalus: [bleep] YOU, DEMETER! I KNOW YOU DID THIS! [bleep] YOU!
What people who don’t listen to country think is wrong with country music: “This song is about my dog, my truck, Jesus, my ex-wife, and the rash on my inner thigh.”
What’s actually wrong with country music: every single guy in the songs copes with breakups through casual alcoholism?? and nobody talks about it??? seriously these poor men are going to get themselves hurt, none of them are talking about a rash, stop laughing about their trucks they need help
@pineipina love you boo,you’re perfect in every way, shape, and form @ur-a-lizard-hairy you’re an angel sent from the heavens to judge our puny mortal souls @re-in-al-ex you’re my bff and I love you so much @thefaesayfuckyou you’re amazing and I care for you so much, now please stop robbing peoples names
❊ I want to roleplay with you ✸ I want to plot with you ✤ I want to ship with you ✥ I have roleplayed with you and it was great ❦ I sort of secretly ship a thing with your muse(s) ✷ I wish our characters were friends ✢ I like your characters ✱ I don’t like your characters ✣ I like the way you express your muse(s) ✫ I don’t like the way you express your muse(s) ☬ I feel like your characters are underdeveloped ❂ I don’t agree on all your headcanons ✡ I agree on all your headcanons ❋ Your blog is one of my favs ✦ I like seeing you on my dash ✵ I don’t follow you for roleplay ✧ I wish you would notice me ✩ You intimidate me ✪ You seem like a cool person ✺ You’re hard to approach ✻ I wish you weren’t so shy ❄ I look up to you ❆ I love your art ❇ I love the way you write * I want to learn to know you = I’m too shy to approach to you ☓ We should talk! ♥ Your choice what to write"
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i’ve been swamped with personal things but hmu if you wanna rp i’m still always down responses just might be a bit slower this time around
so my boyfriend’s a total idiot but on the bright side have a new game. tag which person in your OTP would do this. this is a big Matt Murdock move fkajsdfh.
Oh, mood
((Forgive me for my inactivity, I low-key just. Completely forgot about this blog lmfao))
\ooc\ yo that’s valid af i’m just glad you’re okay lol
hey yall can you try and do this, even if you only can list one thing, and you can list as many as you want to, just try for one, please and reblog this too, you may have a follower who needs to consider what they love a little, and if youve already done this feel free to go again, ill add
-i absolutely love my thighs
-i am pretty damn good at comforting people, especially ones i care about
hey babies can we get some self love here for a bit? just love yoself, self neutrality is acceptable if self love seems impossible but just reblog this and/or add a few things you love about yourself. it can be physical or mental and if you think you dont love anything about yourself then give me a “___ isnt that bad”
ill start
-im a curvy girl in headspace, i am big, i am chubby, i am fat and i love my body
-i got attitude and i dont let no one put me down
-i aint a push over, if i got a problem then that problem gonna be solved
-i love my tummy. it’s very soft and good for cuddling
-i love that i have a very flat chest (if that counts lol)
-i love running this blog because i feel like i can be a more confident version of myself here
If you want to be friends with me you don’t have to be “Hi, um, can, ya know, we be friends?”
It is 1000000000000000000000% percent ok if you just go into my inbox can go. “Man, I am so fucking pissed off at fucking Michael.” And I’ll most likely respond with, “Ohshit! What did Michael do now?“
this is such a good post because asking ppl if you can be friends can make them feel so uncomfortable but if you approach them like this its SO EASY to start a conversation and let a friendship develop naturally
Don’t ask to be friends. Assume we’re friends and hit me up with anything ya got
there’s a dude who I KINDA like and I just want to talk to him but like idk how can someone pls give me relationship advice I highkey really need it lmao
Hello, I just discovered that Gofundme does not work in the country I live in! More coherent post now that I’ve calmed down.
Hello! My name is Caleb and I am a trans guy of color who loves folklore, storytelling and drawing! I am raising money for my dad’s surgery + us getting back on our feet. He is 56 years old and his surgery is to remove kidney stones that are causing him significant pain + is life threatening . My dad is a funny and incredible guy, He loves cats and singing and he had sacrificed everything for my mom, my sister and I. Both him and my mom are diabetic and disabled, as when I was 9 years old, my mom had suffered a sudden sepsis attack, which had caused her to go brain dead for a few minutes, before being revived and fall in a coma for 3 months. When my mother woke up from her coma, she was paralyzed, even her vocal cords were paralyzed!! Ever since then it was just me and my dad who took care of our family, and then, when I graduated college, it was just me as dad got sick as well. I am only in my very early twenties and the sole caretaker of my family, my two disabled parents, my sister who is a minor, and our cats and dog. My dad’s surgery was estimated to be 120 thousand pesos- 200 thousand pesos, which is 2,345.88 US dollars at least, and 3,909.80 US dollars at most.
I have a job, I just need a little bit of help.
1 US dollar = 50 Ph Pesos We live in the Philippines, and my dad is taking an ultrasound tomorrow to see just what they can do about it. I will try to update as much as I can. Anything extra will go to my mom’s diapers, toiletries, etc, my dad’s maintenance medicine, and my sister’s lunch money for school. Thank you and sorry for my english;
(I used to have a youcaring for this, but as youcaring merged with gofundme, I believe that all the existing pages have been deleted. I have gathered about 30 thousand pesos on youcaring, and about 25 thousand pesos + today. I cannot thank you all enough)
Thank you so so much for taking the time to read this, and I hope you are all well.
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