#openness
The more open with one another a couple is, the better the experience for all. Recipe for success.
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Via Instagram user wanderlust.on.wheels click the link for their wonderfully honest post about what #DisabilityIsNormal means for them. https://instagram.com/p/BEC1grYQaoV/
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“I love being treated like a piece of worthless shit by you, I cannot imagine what else my cunt was created for if not to help him go deep into my ass… When you tell me that I’m beautiful it means that you don’t need anything from me despite female submissive nature, when you tell that you like my outfit, it means just that you would fuck me now in every fucking hole as rough as I can jiust imagine, till screaming and moaning… And the more dominant and dehumanizing you are, the more beautiful I wanna be next time to let you open yourself even more than before. My perfect love to you is giving you full freedom in expressing your feelings. Total submissiveness, highest level of being attractive for you, that you could think about nothing else, but just fucking everything out of your prideless whore… And to feel your perfect love is my only goal, and my only happiness =*”
— His beloved piece of shit to her beloved Lord in January 2012
Openness is what allows me to communicate with you, to listen, to respond and to love. Judgement is what we use to create barriers between one another. It is the pointing of the finger that disconnects the “me” from the “you”. We must reunite to build strength together.
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There’s a lot of misunderstandings and assumptions about me I’m sure. I only hear some of them every once in while. This blog is for mostly spilling my thoughts though, it’s not meant to please everyone nor show who I am entirely. Only those who get to know me will ever see who I am.
Yes, I want someone, but I don’t want just anyone. It’s not that I think I’m terrible or undeserving of love, it’s just that I can’t find the right person. I’d be perfectly happy with someone who was like me also, because I do like who I am. Not in a conceited way, but in a general way. It also doesn’t mean I’m not fine being alone. If I just wanted anyone at all, then I’d be with someone. But I respect myself enough to look for someone who’s right for me.
Part of why I write what I do on here is for getting my frustration out in writing. Sometimes it probably doesn’t come across the best way, but that’s how raw feelings and emotions are. Not many people do it publicly, or at all maybe, but I do it also for people to see my raw thoughts/feelings. To make them not feel alone if they feel the same. Maybe they’ll relate to the same feelings and maybe make it easier to connect. I mainly do it for myself though, and I don’t expect anyone to fully understand.
I’m also a very giving person, so I hope that I don’t come across as someone who always takes just because I ‘want’ love and a relationship. That’s not who I am. I’m there for people when I’m close to them, I give a lot and I love a lot. Everyone always wants something though (whether they say it or not), which is perfectly fine. It still needs to be a balance.
One post is just one little piece of who I am. It’s not always going to be the best parts of me. Nor do I expect that with others either. I like seeing/hearing raw thoughts, feelings, and emotions from others too though. It’s what makes us all human. We’re allowed to feel, to want things, and to show who we are.
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Hello all European Adults!
I need participants for my study on sexual and romantic orientation, outness and physical and mental health. It’s for my masters thesis so it will be available through the university of Vienna if you are interested in the results!
https://www.soscisurvey.de/healthoutness/
It will only take about 10-20 minutes and the only requirements are being 18 or older and currently residing in Europe (NOT just the EU, all of Europe!). People of all orientations including straight people, are needed and encouraged to participate! This is the first study I know of that explicitly includes on people on the aromantic spectrum, so if you are on it or know someone, please take part!
It is completely anonymous, no conclusions to your person can be drawn!
Please take part if you can and share it!
Thank you!
Just tagging some aro-themed blogs here to get more aro participants! Dont feel pressured to reblog tho, just shooting my shot here
@aromantic-official@arospecawarenessweek@aro-neir-o@aro-culture-is@just-aro
Life is openness. We go through life with our eyes open; aside from sleep, we close our eyes only to cleanse them, and keep them safe from intense light or physical harm. Walking around with our eyes closed would be ridiculous.
We go through life with our airways open; we seal those only to protect ourselves from inhaling what we shouldn’t. Walking around with our airways closed would, equally, be ridiculous.
We go through life with our palms open too; we ball our hands up only to hold onto things, or to defend ourselves. To move through the world with permanent fists would be — you guessed it — ridiculous.
And while we may not go through life with our mouths open, what would happen if we kept them always clenched completely shut? How would we ever sustain ourselves? Opening our mouths lets us LIVE.
So what about our hearts? Some people think that a heart’s default state should be “closed.“ That we should only open our hearts under special circumstances, or only after we know with reasonable “certainty” what awaits us down the road, or only after others in our lives have “proven” themselves to us. But no. The heart, too, needs to be open if we truly want to live. Hell, “open-heart surgery” is the name of a LITERALLY life-saving procedure. Do you think this is an accident?
Leave the heart open, and the other details will fall into place. Leave the heart closed, and how can they ever? This might sound silly, but return to the hands. How do THOSE work? Leave the hands open, and you can receive gifts into them. Leave the hands closed, and it just isn’t possible. The heart works that way too. Go through life with your heart open. That’s how it’s meant to be. Treat anyone in your world with the same respect as you would treat someone you love, and the same willingness to care as you might show to people you’ve known your whole life. People don’t need to “earn” that you open your heart. YOU deserve your open heart. So relax and just let it BE that way. You can shield it later, at any time, if somebody shows you that you should. Like closing the eyes, or the airways, or the hands, you can close the heart too when it needs to be protected.
But the heart, like any of those other organs, was created for openness. Leave it closed by default, and you lose so much. You impoverish your experience. You create MORE of the pain you might have been hoping to avoid. You rob it of the chance to do what it was made for, what fortifies and nourishes it:
Love.
And you deprive yourself of the same.
