#assumptions
Stop assuming people are cis.
Stop assuming people are straight.
But also…
Stop assuming all gay men are feminine.
Stop assuming all lesbians are masculine.
Stop assuming bi or pansexuals will date anyone and everyone.
STOP MAKING ASSUMPTIONS.
instead of assuming, ask.
instead of assuming, ask. instead of judging, try to understand. &then maybe just maybe this world &the people in it won’t be as big&bad as they seem.
I recently was described as “unfriendly unless I was really trying to not be” //harsh//. but the real bitch in this story is actually not me. //hang with me on this//.
the girl saying these less than nice things about me not once tried to get to know me. not once did this girl ever ask me who I am. instead of taking the time to get to know me, she took that time &wasted it. she took that time to create a narrative of who she ~wanted~ me to be.
maybe this “unfriendly me” was shy. maybe “unfriendly me” was in thought, stuck inside my own head. or maybe “unfriendly me” was tired, hurting, in way too deep with an eating disorder. //cause I was//. but she wouldn’t know that. because she didn’t care. so now neither do I. she can have what she wanted, the story she created about me. she gets unfriendly me because well she’s a story writer. &I’m tired of those. I am tired of giving chances out to people who give me none.
Assumptions?
Send an assumption about me and I’ll say if it’s true or not ☺️
There’s a lot of misunderstandings and assumptions about me I’m sure. I only hear some of them every once in while. This blog is for mostly spilling my thoughts though, it’s not meant to please everyone nor show who I am entirely. Only those who get to know me will ever see who I am.
Yes, I want someone, but I don’t want just anyone. It’s not that I think I’m terrible or undeserving of love, it’s just that I can’t find the right person. I’d be perfectly happy with someone who was like me also, because I do like who I am. Not in a conceited way, but in a general way. It also doesn’t mean I’m not fine being alone. If I just wanted anyone at all, then I’d be with someone. But I respect myself enough to look for someone who’s right for me.
Part of why I write what I do on here is for getting my frustration out in writing. Sometimes it probably doesn’t come across the best way, but that’s how raw feelings and emotions are. Not many people do it publicly, or at all maybe, but I do it also for people to see my raw thoughts/feelings. To make them not feel alone if they feel the same. Maybe they’ll relate to the same feelings and maybe make it easier to connect. I mainly do it for myself though, and I don’t expect anyone to fully understand.
I’m also a very giving person, so I hope that I don’t come across as someone who always takes just because I ‘want’ love and a relationship. That’s not who I am. I’m there for people when I’m close to them, I give a lot and I love a lot. Everyone always wants something though (whether they say it or not), which is perfectly fine. It still needs to be a balance.
One post is just one little piece of who I am. It’s not always going to be the best parts of me. Nor do I expect that with others either. I like seeing/hearing raw thoughts, feelings, and emotions from others too though. It’s what makes us all human. We’re allowed to feel, to want things, and to show who we are.
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Please stop making assumptions when writing fanfictions
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Hi. Yes, Hello. Nice to meet you, the name’s Nixon. Normally this wouldn’t be something I’d do, but damn does this one thing irritate me. Now, I’m not stupid. I am very aware of the concept of minorities and majorities. But even so, it still mildly irritates me when I have to actively ignore certain parts of a fanfiction when they:
Assume my height
Assume the length of my hair
Assume my breast size
Assume my skin color
Assume my weight
Basically, assume anything about me.
When writing fanfiction, you’re not writing about yourself(unless you are, then it’s a self insert fanfiction and should be stated as such). It just baffles me how many times I’ve had to actively tune out the parts of fanfictions where they say “he/her/they bent down to kiss you” or “you leaned up to kiss him/her/them”. Like, maybe I’m 6 feet tall.
And it especially confuses me when they do this with characters like Shoyo Hinata and Yuu Nishinoya, who are very short (Shoyo being about 5'3, and Nishinoya being about 5'2). Who knows, maybe I likeshorter guys. Maybe I want to be taller than them
About the minority and majority. I understand that in the majority of relationships the boy is taller than the girl. I understand that most times, the girl wants to be protected by the boy. I am aware that alot of the times, girls might have longer hair. But that’s what makes fanfiction so great in my opinion. Societal norms have no effect! You can write about anything! So it frustrates me when nothing I’d like to read is available.
I LOVE Deku, but in basically every fanfiction I see of him, he’s “becoming a man” or “showing a more dominant side” or “fucking you senseless because you called him cute and he wants to put you in your place” and my dominant ass is over here like: ♀️♀️♀️♀️
I just wish there was more of something me and my dom friends could enjoy.
I just wish fanfiction was more neutral, and less assumptions were made about who the reader is, what they like to do, what they look like, you know?
Sorry for the rant. I just felt like releasing some thoughts I’d had on my brain for a little bit. That’s all I wanted to say. Thanks for listening :)
- Nixon
Put an assumption in my ask. I’ll confirmordispute it. I’m not gonna be mean or anything, I’m just very interested.