Reblog your mutuals’ promos; like or comment on their posts and edits! It really just takes a second. This is just a hobby, yes, but people still put a lot of work and energy into creating their blog, writing their replies, creating HCs and edits. And showing your support and appreciation to your mutuals is important.
Rp is a two way street, it’s a shared hobby. Taking the time to like a post or reblog a promo can make someone’s day! When mutuals feel supported, they’re more enthusiastic too!
if someone or something has you upset and you feel like sending harsh/rude/hateful anons to someone over things they like that is perfectly innocent, then it’s time to step away from the computer, put down the phone and or tablet, unclench your jaw, and take time to walk around your room or even go outside for some fresh air.
sending harmful messages can do way more damage than you know with some people. and it’s not something that “they need thicker skin” for, it is look in the mirror and ask yourself “would i want messages like that sent to me?” if you answer no to that then stop sending such harmful things! if yes to that… well, there’s a group for that where it’s not truly harmful.
tldr: step back, touch grass, use the block/unfollow button
Daily reminder to be kind and considerate to those you follow or see on your dash!
I’d like to say once more to be kind and considerate to those you interact with on the dash! You never know what sorts of things they are going through right now. So keep in mind to tag things they ask to be tagged for their sake and do more than just be a passing by reader! Spread kindness to those that need it! If someone is having a bad day or is wanting asks or things tossed their way to help them feel better do it! Ask them about their muses and ocs! Tell them how much you love seeing them on the dash!
SPREAD THAT LOVE AND POSITIVTY!
Some may only have tumblr as their only means to escape from what’s bothering them so do what you can to make their time here better!
Be kind and courteous to those on here like you would with people in real life! After all we are all people too!
Communication, is the key that can make or break a friendship, a relationship, and an overall bond. So, let’s talk on the many things with communication.
Venting to friends
Some might have their bad days and need to vent it out to someone instead of putting it down on paper or notepad. Talking with a friend on the issue can help improve or resolve what is bothering you. But sometimes the person you may be reaching out might not be in the best mindset to help you out. Neither are mind readers when it comes to knowing how the other is doing, and with that, if one suddenly vents to the other with no warning, they may add onto the stress. One the other hand the one that may be listening to the other vent might not be prepared to deal with such things and would want to say that now is not the right time for them to hear things such as that. But when one drops it all with no warning, it leaves little room for the other to say they can’t help them for the time being as it might make the other more sad or upset.
This can and has ruined friendships. I’ve dealt with this and others have to. But the worst of it all is when the one venting to the other is older than the one listening to them. Teens have been vented to by adults on here which shouldn’t be happening a tall. A teen should not be the one to help resolve your problem. And while the other way around on this would make more sense, it still doesn’t mean the other has to listen to the other.
And while it may be easy for some to tell the other they can’t help or listen to them right now, there are those that struggle to say no to their friends.
The best way to resolve such issues is to communicate better in which the one that wants to vent should ask if the other is ok with letting them vent. This gives the other the chance to tell them if they are in a good mental condition or not for such things. Both parties need to make it clear if they can talk on what might be bothering the other before listening to them if they are well enough to. As how the world has been lately, it wouldn’t be hard to believe if everyone is in a down mood.
Issues in what a friend posted or said
A friend might have posted or said something that bothers you or upsets you. but you don’t want to confront them on it. But ultimately you have to reach out to them before it eats away at you and ultimately tears the friendship apart.
The best thing with this would be to reach out to them to ask about it. Do not see it as confronting them as it could be a mistake. Not everything that is said first is worded how they mean it to be. No one is perfect. There is no such thing as someone who is mistake-free. One mistake should not be the point tears everything apart. They might not realise what they said or did was harmful or upsetting, and once pointed out they can amend the mistake. If it becomes and ongoing issue or they never go about to change it then you let them know it’s time for the two of you to go your separate ways.
Dealing with one’s excitement
There can be a mutual that might be overexcited for a plot or thread which you aren’t too crazy over or isn’t going how you like. With this some have chosen to end the communication without warning which can upset the other as well as confuse them as they have no clue what they could have done wrong, which can ultimately discourage them or turn them away from wanting to talk on their plots or excitement with others. It’s something that can be harmful for a writer, more so is one goes along with what the other says but ultimately isn’t interested in how the other wants things to go.
Talk with them on it. Do not just cut communication out of the blue. If you don’t want things to go in that direction, tell them. It might hurt the other a bit but at least that way they can be open for changing things up that works in both your favours.
If there’s more that you feel that needs to be added feel free to add onto it!
[ID: A screenshot of a retweet by @bbwi_ that says, “quick translation - the creator of these picrews that had been circulating is known for posting underage nsfw content of pripara (prism paradise) characters. please don’t support them or use their picrews anymore :(“. Beneath the retweet is a screenshot of the various picrews, all of which are written in Japanese. One of the picrews is named “GORILLA_ART. End ID]
I’ve seen people using the picrew on the very left so I’d like to issue a warning!
direct communication is your best friend! don’t ‘send hints’.
set clear boundaries in your rules pages and explain your muse simply on your about page
have a wanted plots tag or memes tag readily available
ask them about common interests to get to know them
avoid the use of confusing and inaccessible formatting such as multiple spaces between words or hard-to-navigate blog themes
Feel free to add your own tips in reblogs!
don’t get annoyed at them over their favorite things or what they are hyper-focusing on! instead talk with them on it and ask on other things they like just as much. don’t suddenly change the topic as it can really hurt us as it is something that means a lot to us and makes us happy.
don’t just ask on the spoon theory! look it up to know it’s just a measurement on our energy.
encourage their autistic headcanons if they have some for their muse! there’s hardly any rep in the rpc for those with autism. don’t bash on the hcs as it really hurts us.
Ground rule; always ask another author for their permission and input before you start twisting and turning their original canon. What you might see as canon foryour character might not be canon for the other character. Talk it out with the person before jumping in and taking over their canon with yours.
