Hi everyone! So I want to make a quick psa, that is directed at no one in particular and no rp in particular. It’s something I’ve thought about for a while. I’ve had questions before that try to skirt around what Native muns have been asking, which is to not treat our nations and tribes and ethnicities interchangeable, by asking about how to write family members/figure out fcs of family members if you don’t use Native tribes/nations/ethnicities interchangeable, because there’s limited fcs of each tribe/nation/ethnicitiy. I’ve also seen rps who don’t even ask about it, but just go ahead and do it. Or I’ve seen skeleton rps that function solely around “families” just … exclude Natives because of this reason.
None of this is acceptable. Adoption exists! The Indian Child Welfare Act in the US, which prohibits non-Native families from adopting Native children (though white people do find ways around that), exists! So it’d be great to see a family where Native parents decided to adopt Native children, even if they’re not of the same nation/tribe/ethnicity, because that would be the way to keep them out of the foster care system! While this act does not exist in Canada, Australia, or other countries, Natives do still adopt in those countries!
So this is just your friendly reminder that adoption exists, and not having a multitude of fcs of the same ethnicity/tribe/nation doesn’t make it acceptable to use our ethnicities interchangeable, or to just exclude us.
also if you’re sending your feedback to the staff, please consider including screenshots of the alt button covering text ( it usually happens with post dividers ) so they’ll see it’s not just people being angry about change and actually do something about it
It’s so easy to get lost in anxiety brain, or otherwise harmful thoughts. A great way to put life into perspective is this: people are not NPCs.
Everyone is playing their own game, with their own supporting characters. They are the main character in their life, just as you are in yours. They help when they can, but have their own quests and achievements to complete. It’s not personal if they can’t be there every time you need or want them to be!
Try to remember this if someone hasn’t responded in awhile, isn’t capable of doing what you want them to do, goes offline, or has their own motive outside of your needs. Everyone’s doing their best, and while we travel together a lot on this site, it’s totally valid for people to have their own limits, time, and life and not be present 24/7. Not this quest, adventurer! Till we meet again!
Consider: RP is a hobby that is supposed to exist to bring its creator joy.
You are not entitled to another person’s time. You are not entitled to timely responses in-character or out of character. You are not entitled to an explanation to why someone is slow in response, or why they curate their content in a specific way. No one owes you their time or joy, either in character or out of character. No one owes anyone more than they are willing and able to give. The RPC should be a place of mutual consent and joy for creators to explore together. Causing someone undue harm or stress crosses boundaries, and is an utter lack of respect. Respect the people who provide you joy for free (despite whatever might be going on in their own lives), be patient and understanding, and respect boundaries, always.
what does it mean? basically, reblog the meme from the original poster. like me. or the meme blog that created it. basically, the very first person to write the meme out.
“ but soulmemes! surely it isn’t a terrible thing to reblog from the person i saw on my dash who reblogged it! ”
excellent remark, and terrible is a strong word, but it’s kinda rude to reblog a meme from someone who reblogged it, not only from the source, but quite clearly hoping someone might send one in. even if you do send one in, you’re flooding the notifs. and reblogging from the source is a far easier alternative.
“ well, what if the source blog is deactivated? ”
most memes are reblogged by other meme resource blogs. most memes are then reblogged FROM those meme resource blogs BY roleplay blogs. please do that. it’s aggravating as hell to receive a notif just to find someone reblogged the meme from you, and didn’t send you one in return. it’s fine once or twice. and if you have a good friendship with someone and they don’t mind, that’s fine too. but being used solely as a meme resource is pretty hurtful. and rude. and mean. don’t be that way. maybe you didn’t know. but now you do! i believe in everyone and in your kind hearts. but this is your little warning about reblogging from the source. okay? okay. ily. drink some water. have a snack. reblog from the source.
The joys of having a muse that doesn’t speak your language, amiright? Just like writing anything that you don’t know about, it’s fine if you put in effort to research and understanding the subject. However, languages usually take longer than a quick Google search to master.
That is why I’d like to remind those who use Google Translate for the language’s actual symbols and lettering that it is not reliable. In fact, it is painfully obvious and anyone on your dashboard who is well versed in that language might be wriggling in agony over the inaccuracies. As someone who is familiar with multiple languages, I can tell you from experience Google Translate can help with one or two word translations, but anything beyond that is usually a little or totally off.
Don’t get me wrong here, if that’s how you’d like to do things, float your boat like that. Roleplaying is meant to be fun! Just toss out a disclaimer in your rules perhaps.
However, if you’re reconsidering how to incorporate multilingualism into your threads, here are some tips ( besides all that amazing research you’ve done ):
1. Use different word styles. By highlighting using bold/italics/brackets/etc you can indicate they are speaking in another language. For example:
Character A: <I love showing my crotch for gorillas.> Character B: Was that French? What’d you say?
“*I love frogs that ride unicycles!” She exclaimed in Chinese. He had no idea what she just said.
2. Ask an expert if they’re around. Acknowledge you are not an overnight expert at this, and I’m sure if you know someone they’re more than willing to help with a few phrases worth of translating.
3. Avoid it. If your partner’s muse does not know this language, they do not need any more information. Often times writing out the translation causes the other to somehow act with an inkling of what’s going on. So, omitting it can provide a much more realistic tone. For example:
He yelled something unintelligible, though the few who understood looked up in shock.
Another thing I’ve seen is adding snippets of a language into their speech. For example, many French muses I encounter say things as “mon ami”, “excusez-moi” or give quite literal nicknames.
I highly encourage you to reconsider if they’d do these things. Are they the type to blurt out confusing bits of foreign languages? Most multilingual people I know of refrain from doing this, unless they are stuck or trying to explain just what they are trying to translate. it adds much more realism than pulling out words you don’t know for your character to seem coolordifferent. As for literal nicknames; the French can call someone a cabbage out of endearment, and I think that just goes to show all the fascinating traditions that have collected into a single language.
Of course, if there are more helpful tips feel free to add on. If you disagree with me, please go ahead and tell me in my inbox. I’d actually be very curious to know why ( if you aren’t too rude ). With that said, I’d like to reiterate that having fun is the most important. Toss out a disclaimer and continue on using Google if you feel comfortable that way. Thanks for considering this, have a great day!
HEY RPC! sometimes people get bored. sometimes bored people do stupid shit, like spread hate, gossip, make stupid lists, burn blogs, other numerous things that do not, uh, spark joy. but no worries, because i have made a list here of things that you can do INSTEAD of spreading hate, drama, and causing people pain.
have you heard of plogging? plogging is like jogging ( or walking. ) except while you do it you pick up some trash off the side of the road! good for you, good for the trees, good for the air, good all around.
go for a walk! it’s great! air!
pet your dog / cat / chinchilla / guinea pig / hamster / bunny / etc. pet your fish too if you must, though they might not like it.
read a book! there are so, so many. literally so many books.
ifyou’re struggling yourself, go to psychologytoday and find a therapist that works for you
send some people nice messages to make their day happier, reach out to some friends, check up on people you haven’t talked to in awhile
have you tried pinterest? it’s freaking awesome. you can spend hours there.
write your list, your negative thought, your hate, let it exit your body onto paper and then when you’re done, read it, have a moment where you debate “is this me? is this what i want to put into the world?” if it’s not, burn it! fire is fun. fire is great. ( small fires, not big fires, one is fun and one is illegal and dangerous, anyway. )
if it is something you decide you want to be known for, i would recommend talking to a loved one, professional, or furry friend.
take a shower / bath WITH CANDLES, aromatherapy! fire! relaxation!
if you believe that someone is genuinely, truly a threat to this community and this world — report them to tumblr staff. it is not your job to play the town crier, it is not your job to “warn” people. you will only do further damage. if you feel trapped, if you feel alone, if you feel victimized — your feelings are still valid, and you should talk to someone. get to the root of it. do something that makes you feel better and get the help you need, it’s important.
you probably have a park or forest preserve near you, you should check it out. nature is really pretty.
clean things! it’s oddly therapeutic.
watch the great british bake off.
make random as fuck positivity posts about random as fuck things and put some GOOD things on the dash!
go reblog promos / talk about / spread the word about people / blogs that YOU love and YOU think are doing A GREAT JOB and you want people to know about, that’s the list i wanna read.
literally 800 other things that involve taking care of you, your people, your world, and those around you and won’t bring unnecessary pain, anxiety, sadness, etc to others.
a heads up to think twice about donating money on online platforms. there are many posts going around asking for donations for various reasons, all reasons that sound very valid and does appeal to our emotions. this, however, doesn’t automatically mean that it’s the truth. behind the screen, there may be someone profiting off people’s kindness, simply because they aim to do so. we all want to be kind and helpful, but remember that there are people who will use that to their advantage simply to earn ‘easy money’.
Saying “all multi muse blogs are so undeveloped” is rather judgemental and downright insulting to authors of those blogs.
For someone to believe that quality equal quantity is mockery towards the authors who do write more than 20 muses and put honest work, time and passion into their characters and their settings.
True, there may be blogs writing many characters without any available background, but so what? There are single muse blogs who do the same, and they see still valid? Are authors not allowed to play around with blogs For Fun? Maybe it’s only a part time hobby where the author writes for the sake of writing, developing their character through writing?
Before you judge multi muse blogs solely based on the fact that they have many muses, try checking out their blog. Try reading up on some of their characters. Maybe you’ll find a new writing partner and a new friend?
While a pairing in a Fandom might be hot, or even Canon in the eyes of many, I do not autoship. As a role player I reserve the right to explore my character the way I see fit.
While you may have Your interpretations of a character, these may not be the same for others, and it does not mean that You get to force Your headcanons onto other role players or fiction writers. Everyone is entitled to their own headcanons, even if they are – in your opinion – so far out of character as it gets, to you.
Respect role players’ boundaries. If they state that they don’t have the time for plotting right now, respect that and come back later, or leave the door open for them to come to you when they have the time. If they state that they are overwhelmed at the moment, step back and let them breathe.Role playing is a hobby, not a job.
Normalize deleting asks role players no longer feel.
Normalize authors needing to clear their space.
Normalize a role player’s fluctuating interest in topics.
If you send me an ask, and I don’t respond to it/delete it, please don’t take it personal. Sometimes I reblog ask memes, feeling them right in that very moment, and I lose track of time and lose interest. It’s not me saying that I’m losing interest in you, but the topicI wanted in thatexact moment. Some asks I might hoard for months, others might get deleted. And this needs to be normalized.
Fun addition for Sunday; stop calling sexual Sunday for “Sinday”. Sex is not a sin. Stop enabling the usage of that description.
Sex is valid. Sex is okay. Sex is natural.
Too many authors find shame in writing erotica. Too many people find shame in having sexual interest. Too many people find shame in having sexual relations.
Listen.
Stop using “Sinday” instead of calling it sexual Sunday.
Ground rule; always ask another author for their permission and input before you start twisting and turning their original canon. What you might see as canon foryour character might not be canon for the other character. Talk it out with the person before jumping in and taking over their canon with yours.
According to this tumblr help article, tumblr is tightening security on blogs to prevent bad actors (such as spammers) from using malicious JavaScript.
Unfortunately, this does affect much of the roleplayer and writing communities on tumblr, as many of us rely on custom coded pages for various information for everything from muse directories and verses to work-in-progress listings and fic recommendations.
At this time, the only solution is to contact support for them to potentially reenable JavaScript on your blog(s). Since this is such a new issue, there is no word at the time of writing this psa regarding how long that might take for them to do so, if they do so or, hypothetically, they see fit to rollback part of this security update if they find it affects more people than they originally believed it would.
attn roleplayers : after july 1st, the old tumblr dashboard ( available via xkit ) will no longer be available. please be advised that you may have to have multiple work arounds for this.
in the year 2020, we should all be tagging triggers for our mutuals. a way to show we care about them. and yes, this includes ‘ so-called silly ’ triggers.
Reblog your mutuals’ promos; like or comment on their posts and edits! It really just takes a second. This is just a hobby, yes, but people still put a lot of work and energy into creating their blog, writing their replies, creating HCs and edits. And showing your support and appreciation to your mutuals is important.
Rp is a two way street, it’s a shared hobby. Taking the time to like a post or reblog a promo can make someone’s day! When mutuals feel supported, they’re more enthusiastic too!
if someone or something has you upset and you feel like sending harsh/rude/hateful anons to someone over things they like that is perfectly innocent, then it’s time to step away from the computer, put down the phone and or tablet, unclench your jaw, and take time to walk around your room or even go outside for some fresh air.
sending harmful messages can do way more damage than you know with some people. and it’s not something that “they need thicker skin” for, it is look in the mirror and ask yourself “would i want messages like that sent to me?” if you answer no to that then stop sending such harmful things! if yes to that… well, there’s a group for that where it’s not truly harmful.
tldr: step back, touch grass, use the block/unfollow button
Daily reminder to be kind and considerate to those you follow or see on your dash!
I’d like to say once more to be kind and considerate to those you interact with on the dash! You never know what sorts of things they are going through right now. So keep in mind to tag things they ask to be tagged for their sake and do more than just be a passing by reader! Spread kindness to those that need it! If someone is having a bad day or is wanting asks or things tossed their way to help them feel better do it! Ask them about their muses and ocs! Tell them how much you love seeing them on the dash!
SPREAD THAT LOVE AND POSITIVTY!
Some may only have tumblr as their only means to escape from what’s bothering them so do what you can to make their time here better!
Be kind and courteous to those on here like you would with people in real life! After all we are all people too!
Communication, is the key that can make or break a friendship, a relationship, and an overall bond. So, let’s talk on the many things with communication.
Venting to friends
Some might have their bad days and need to vent it out to someone instead of putting it down on paper or notepad. Talking with a friend on the issue can help improve or resolve what is bothering you. But sometimes the person you may be reaching out might not be in the best mindset to help you out. Neither are mind readers when it comes to knowing how the other is doing, and with that, if one suddenly vents to the other with no warning, they may add onto the stress. One the other hand the one that may be listening to the other vent might not be prepared to deal with such things and would want to say that now is not the right time for them to hear things such as that. But when one drops it all with no warning, it leaves little room for the other to say they can’t help them for the time being as it might make the other more sad or upset.
This can and has ruined friendships. I’ve dealt with this and others have to. But the worst of it all is when the one venting to the other is older than the one listening to them. Teens have been vented to by adults on here which shouldn’t be happening a tall. A teen should not be the one to help resolve your problem. And while the other way around on this would make more sense, it still doesn’t mean the other has to listen to the other.
And while it may be easy for some to tell the other they can’t help or listen to them right now, there are those that struggle to say no to their friends.
The best way to resolve such issues is to communicate better in which the one that wants to vent should ask if the other is ok with letting them vent. This gives the other the chance to tell them if they are in a good mental condition or not for such things. Both parties need to make it clear if they can talk on what might be bothering the other before listening to them if they are well enough to. As how the world has been lately, it wouldn’t be hard to believe if everyone is in a down mood.
Issues in what a friend posted or said
A friend might have posted or said something that bothers you or upsets you. but you don’t want to confront them on it. But ultimately you have to reach out to them before it eats away at you and ultimately tears the friendship apart.
The best thing with this would be to reach out to them to ask about it. Do not see it as confronting them as it could be a mistake. Not everything that is said first is worded how they mean it to be. No one is perfect. There is no such thing as someone who is mistake-free. One mistake should not be the point tears everything apart. They might not realise what they said or did was harmful or upsetting, and once pointed out they can amend the mistake. If it becomes and ongoing issue or they never go about to change it then you let them know it’s time for the two of you to go your separate ways.
Dealing with one’s excitement
There can be a mutual that might be overexcited for a plot or thread which you aren’t too crazy over or isn’t going how you like. With this some have chosen to end the communication without warning which can upset the other as well as confuse them as they have no clue what they could have done wrong, which can ultimately discourage them or turn them away from wanting to talk on their plots or excitement with others. It’s something that can be harmful for a writer, more so is one goes along with what the other says but ultimately isn’t interested in how the other wants things to go.
Talk with them on it. Do not just cut communication out of the blue. If you don’t want things to go in that direction, tell them. It might hurt the other a bit but at least that way they can be open for changing things up that works in both your favours.
If there’s more that you feel that needs to be added feel free to add onto it!
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I’ve seen people using the picrew on the very left so I’d like to issue a warning!
direct communication is your best friend! don’t ‘send hints’.
set clear boundaries in your rules pages and explain your muse simply on your about page
have a wanted plots tag or memes tag readily available
ask them about common interests to get to know them
avoid the use of confusing and inaccessible formatting such as multiple spaces between words or hard-to-navigate blog themes
Feel free to add your own tips in reblogs!
don’t get annoyed at them over their favorite things or what they are hyper-focusing on! instead talk with them on it and ask on other things they like just as much. don’t suddenly change the topic as it can really hurt us as it is something that means a lot to us and makes us happy.
don’t just ask on the spoon theory! look it up to know it’s just a measurement on our energy.
encourage their autistic headcanons if they have some for their muse! there’s hardly any rep in the rpc for those with autism. don’t bash on the hcs as it really hurts us.
