✨✨✨Very true✨✨✨

Sex fact: “Double Bagging” or wearing two condoms at once actually is less effective. The two condoms rub together causing friction and are more likely to tear. 

Sex Fact: As breasts begin to develop, they may develop at different rates. It is common for them to even out by the age of 20, but it is not always the case. It is normal to have two different sized breasts or nipples. (Source)

Sex Fact: Oil based lubricants and condoms do not mix!!! It makes condoms POP!!!

Sex facts: STDs don’t always come with symptoms. Just because you don’t see or feel anything doesn’t mean you don’t have an STD. So make sure you and your partner get tested! (Source)

Sex Fact: You should still use protection when having oral sex because STDs can spread orally as well (Source)

Sex fact: It is possible to get pregnant while on your period as sperm can stay in your reproductive organs for six days! (Source)

Sexy Fun Fact #7

Arefractory period is the period of time it takes for one’s body to recover and reset after an orgasm. Generally during this time the muscles relax and arousal lessens, making it difficult or impossible to orgasm or get aroused during this time.

It is mostly biological males who experience a refractory period, but it is possible for biological females to experience this too. The refractory period can last anywhere from a few minutes to a few hours or even longer.

Disclaimer: I am not a medical professional, just a person who wants to help others by spreading education about sex and sexuality.

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Erotic fic and porn can be a lot of fun! But if you aren’t being provided with adequate sex ed through other channels (comprehensive sexual education, frank and open discussions with trusted adults, etc.), turning to fanfic and porn for your understanding of sex is gonna leave some major blindspots and may leave you with some unrealistic expectations. While there’s nothing wrong with these kinds of erotica, they are fictional and tend to leave out a lot of the more realistic, human parts of sex - they serve a great purpose, but that purpose isn’t primarily educational. The following is an incomplete list of some things you should probably know about sex that a lot of fic and porn tends to leave out:

• It isn’t always super hot or super sweet. Sometimes it’s super silly. Or sometimes it’s sort of mundane and you’re both simply scratching an itch. That’s fine too. (Hell, sometimes you’re talking about comic books while boning and your partner is laughing that you’re getting REALLY ANGRY about spider-man while they’re going to town on you.)
  
  
• You will probably not climax at the same moment. It’s a sweet idea, but extremely hard to coordinate, and if all your concentration is going into coming at the exact same moment, you’re probably not enjoying yourselves as much as you might. 
  
  
• Sometimes bodies make weird, goofy noises. Squelching, slapping, air-escaping, un-sexy noises. It’s okay to laugh at this. 
  
  
• Hell, it’s okay to laugh during sex in general.
  
  
• Sometimes you fart. Sometimes you fart while someone is going down on you and it is embarrassing as hell. This isn’t the end of the world. Embarrassing body things happen. Heck, sometimes, with anal, there’s a little poo. You get over it.
  
  
• Sometimes sex is… kinda bad? This doesn’t mean it’s assault, or something traumatic – sometimes it’s consensual but just kinda bleh and not what you hoped for. The best thing to do (if you’re talking about sex with a partner and not just a hook up who you can not call back) is talk to them about it. Figure out what went wrong, what you enjoy and what you don’t, and communicate what techniques you do and don’t like. Also don’t be afraid to stop someone in the middle of the sex act you’re not enjoying and offer guidance on how to help make it good for you too. (Side tip: masturbation makes great research into what you personally do and don’t enjoy sexually)
  
  
• You won’t enjoy every sex act. Not every body is wired to find every thing pleasurable. You might find anal does nothing for you. You may find g-spot stimulation just makes you really anxious that you’re about to pee. You may not enjoy giving or receiving oral. You’re not broken if you don’t like something that every pornstar or smutty fanfic protagonist seems to have earth-shattering orgasms from. Everyone’s got nerve endings in a range of places – it’s quite literally, different strokes for different folks.
  
  
• On that note, not all orgasms are earth-shattering. Sometimes it just feels warm and nice. That’s fine too. 
  
  
• Sometimes, if you’re neutral on a sex act and your partner loves it, you can suck it up for them, and they’ll suck up something they’re not crazy about for your pleasure in return. But communicate preferences with each other! Know that when a partner does that thing you love that they don’t get much from, that it’s an act of care, and vice versa. 
  
  
• Falling asleep in each other’s arms right after wild passionate sex seems really romantic, but dried and crusty fluids are gonna be a bitch in the morning. Also, after sex, you should both (regardless of your equipment) go pee to clear out the urethra of any gunk or bacteria to reduce risk of a UTI. 
  
  
• Putting a towel down on the bed before sex means you don’t have to sleep on wet funky sheets. (it’s also verrrrrry useful for period sex if you or your partner menstruate.)
  
  
• A lot of people don’t like dirty talk, or rough sex. Always ask first. (Fanfic on the whole does a better job than porn at showing communication, but a lot of it is still highly fictive on this point)
  
  
• PROTECTION PROTECTION PROTECTION. Use condoms, dental dams, etc. not just to prevent pregnancy, but to reduce risk of STIs. (Yes, even couples with the same genitals who don’t need to worry about pregnancy).
  
  
• Lube is great and very important, but random goopy things around you are not good lube. Random oils especially, since oil doesn’t flush out well and can trap bacteria inside the body – oil-based lubricant also degrades condoms. Use lube specifically designed for intimate purposes. Water-based and silicone-based lubes help sex feel really good!
  
  
• Bigger isn’t necessarily better. A lot of people with vaginas don’t enjoy the feeling of being repeatedly punched in the cervix by a monster cock. Some people enjoy a larger size when being penetrated by an appendage or toy and some don’t.
  
  
• Bodies are hairy. Genitals are hairy. You may get a pube stuck in your teeth at some point. If your partner is WAY fuzzier than porn ever led you to believe they’d be, well, that’s normal. 
  
  
• Not everyone loves the taste of ejaculate. Sometimes it’s nasty (flavor tends to vary from person to person depending on their diet, but sometimes you just really don’t like it no matter what. Some of us hate the taste of peanut butter. People don’t always like things). It’s okay not to swallow, or to request a penis-having partner warn you so they don’t ejaculate in your mouth (in fact, it’s polite for them to do the latter). 
  
  
• If you’re gonna have shower sex, get one of those rubbery mats for the shower floor that gives you traction, because otherwise it’s super embarrassing to call for an ambulance while dripping wet and naked because you slipped and accidentally broke something and your partner got a concussion while you were trying to bang in the shower. 
  
  
• Moaning and screaming wildly during sex is fun but it will make the neighbors in the apartments adjacent to you hate you. Make choices accordingly. 
  

This is all excellent advice. I could throw in a couple more:

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Good advice. Also:

Muscle cramps happen. If you’re in a weird position, your body may decide to object. Pillows for support can be wonderful things. 

Anyone who finds towels aren’t enough, they make waterproof pillowcases you can get for like $10. Fold a bath sheet in half, slide the pillowcase in between the layers. 

Related,there is no such thing as too much lube. (I wish fanfic writers would depict using lube more often, and I am looking at myself in the mirror on this one.)

An absolute must read, ladies and gents!

On a related note for vagina-owning squirters: there are some super absorbent towels and pads you can get from a variety of different places and they are the best! Just make sure to rinse them if you’re not going to be doing laundry the next day to keep bacteria from growing.

The best thing about fanfic: if you’re not seeing something you’d like to read, lots of authors (myself included) are happy to try and accommodate requests or can refer you to authors who can.

For me, fanfic has been a really nice way to explore my own sexuality and sexual preferences through imagined circumstances (I have a very vivid and sense-based imagination, so this is possible for me). However, just because you like reading about or watching other people doing something doesn’t necessarily mean you would enjoy it with your partner. That’s okay! Some things live in fantasy and it’s a really special beautiful place, but it’s important to question what those things are for you.

If you’re looking for a style of fan fiction to suit your needs or curiositities, don’t be shy about reaching out! Someone’s bound to point you in the right direction. I focus on demisexual-friendly relationships in my work. Not everyone wants that, not everyone writes it. But not everyone on my feed has the same style, either.

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This is all great!

Real life sex is so much more complicated (but fun). It takes communication. It’s messy. It can be funny and awkward and beautiful. It can be heated and mundane and comforting. It’s when you can let go of anxiety (which can take a lot!) and relax into it - it’s amazing!

Give yourself the gift of getting to know what works for you and let your partner know. Some may like deep eye contact, others soft butterfly kisses, while others desire a solid spanking. For some it depends on their mood!

Find out what your partner’s turns on are. It’s okay to have hard “no’s” - but I might suggest offering consideration to things that may initially may you cringe. Ask for a slow build up, and always have the options to say stop. There are many thing I love now, that my 20 year old self balked at. Thanks to good partners, and an open mind, my tastes have expanded immensely. But I always have the right to say “no”.

It’s individual. It’s unique for everyone. It’s not fanfic or porn. Although, those are fun too!

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