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Thinking about selling my used underwear to some loyal people<3

Cant get these off could you help me?

Psa:

YOUR COMPETITION IS NOT OTHER SUGAR BABIES.

I cannot stress this enough.

If you find yourself comparing your sugar journey to others, you can fall into the trap of frustration and anger.

I’ve received some private messages expressing feelings of inadequacy, asking how I as well as others who post about their SDs have been able to get where we are, when on their own side they haven’t had such luck…

PLEASE remember every single one of us have a different story, and a different starting point, so you simply cannot base your progress off of someone else’s experiences.

I personally have been in the bowl for 5 years now, so trust me when I say nothing happens over night. For every success story I share, trust and believe there’s just as many flops as well. For every SD trip I talk about, there’s just as many failed dates and awkward meetings I’ve sat through as well.

When I share pictures and updates about my time spent with my SDs, it’s never meant to put anyone else down, and certainly not to brag or make anyone feel bad about their own journey in the bowl. I share my experiences to remind other sugar babies that there is a light at the end of the tunnel, and that staying focused will eventually pay off if you let it.

Your only competition as a sugar baby is the person you were yesterday.

Many of us when we started out in the bowl had to overcome feelings of anxiety, fear, and just general discomfort as we tackled a whole new way of life. If you have dealt with these feelings, you should be proud of yourself for just that! Many people cannot get past this step, so you’re already ahead of the game here!

If you took the time to make a profile on Seeking Arrangement, or any other sugar baby platform, and if you take the time to check your inbox regularly- you should be proud of yourself.

If you take the time to go free lance in hopes of connecting with a sugar daddy, you should be proud of yourself.

If you take the time to make an effort to get all dressed up, and to make yourself look fabulous for a SD date, you should be proud of yourself.

If a man hands you any amount of money just for being you, you should be proud of yourself.

All these things put you on a path to success, whether the results are immediate or not, you should be pretty damn proud of yourself- and I’m proud of you as well.

5 years ago I was 17 and living in my third foster home, separated from my only brother, recovering from the sexual abuse of my previous foster “father”.

I was happy to even receive a message on SA offering a free meal and a mere hundred dollars.

Today, I have several long terms SDs who are putting me through college, have supported me to where I actually have a savings account, and take me on trips around the world.

Looking back on where I have started, I have come a long way- and none of this would have been possible if I would have given up and gotten discouraged after all the failed meetings, and SD encounters that made me want to stop being in the bowl all together.

I am living proof that if you stick to it, and persevere through all the experiences, you will allow yourself to have the life you’ve always wanted.

If you look back on the person you were when you started your sugar baby experience, and if you’re doing even only slightly better then your previous self, hell even if you have $20 more dollars to your name- you’re living proof too.

And that’s pretty awesome if you ask me.

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Update: October 24, 2019

Exciting news! I officially now have a residence in New York. One of my SDs who lives full time up there leased an apartment for me in Manhattan, so I can come and go as I please without having to stay in a hotel every time.

The view is absolutely beautiful, and located right next to Central Park. (where I looove going on runs.)

While I won’t be living here full time, (since my college is in my home state), I will definitely be making more trips up there as my schedule allows. Do any of you SBs live or frequent NY as well? Would love to meet up if so for drinks and to just hang out if so! Shoot me a message babydolls. (I don’t know a lot of people up here, and my NY sugar daddy stays pretty busy. It gets lonely!)

I hope all of you have been enjoying this spooky season of October, and that your bank accounts are extra full this month!

xo

lex

Update: June 3rd, 2019

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Hey Babydolls!

Tonight is my last night at the beach with my S/D Cal. It’s been an amazing trip, did a lot of shopping today, and spent quite a bit of time at the beach! The new bags, relaxation and daiquiris were much needed!

After my first initial postings about traveling to see two of my out of state SDs, I received a lot of messages asking for tips/advice on meeting with POT/SDs that require long distance travel arrangements. So while I’m sitting here on the beach, I’ve decided to compile a list of things I hope offer some answers and insight on the frequent questions I’ve been getting!

BEFORE meeting

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1.) Make sure you REALLY know who you’re traveling to meet.

• Know his real name, a photo form of government issued I.D is a great way to confirm this.

• FaceTime/ Skype/ Snapchat Vid Call him, or oovoo him. (He can fake his pictures, but not likely a video chat.)

• Look him up! Run his name on google, and

a background check platform.

2.) Make sure you guys are on the same page, about EVERYTHING.

• The compensation you are receiving

should be clearly stated, EXACT numbers.

• Form of compensation should be clear as well. (cash, direct deposit, etc.)

• Compensation should always be given up front, make sure he is aware and prepared.

• Has sex been discussed in a respectful and mutual manner? Whether you are comfortable, OR NOT, with intimacy should be clear. (Condoms are a standard ladies and gentlemen, for your own health do no risk it. Bringing your own supply ensures an untampered with option at the ready.)

3.) Making Travel/Lodging Arrangements.

• Always first request an airline voucher/gift card so you can manage your own travel arrangements.

• If the POT insists on taking care of your tickets themself, always call the airport and confirm the legitimacy of the information you are provided.

• If the POT offers their private jet, always request to fly commercial first for the initial meeting. Explain you are not comfortable boarding a private aircraft until after becoming acquainted with them. Private planes are much more comfortable and tend to take off quicker however, definitely utilize this option after you are comfortable you’ve had a successful meeting.

•First meeting trips should only be between 2-3 days.

• Request private appropriate lodging. There is no reason to stay in the POT’s personal home/condo/flat. This is a must for your safety, as well as privacy.

• Research the hotel your POT suggests. Confirm it is up to your standards, and that its location is in a safe neighborhood.

• The hotel room should be in YOUR name. Confirm this by calling the hotel itself, and have them confirm your reservation.

4.) Safety First

• ALWAYS tell someone where you are going, when you are going, and with whom you are meeting.

• If possible, tell a trusted individual you know in real life all of the above information.

• If for privacy and discretion reasons you are unable to alert someone in your real life, ALWAYS alert a sugar sister. We are a loving community of support, and I for one have been blessed with many friendships through the bowl, and I’m sure many of you have as well. There are so many of us who are more then happy to be a friend and confidant to any sugar babes out there looking for a support team. (Most of my layovers and plane transfers I spend talking/facetiming my sugar babe friends, seriously so amazing to be able to talk to someone who is likeminded and knows what experiences you encounter! This can also really help shake any nerves you may have; by talking it out with someone who understands! ) My inbox is always open to you babydolls! ((Sometimes messages get burried due to an overload of spam ))

• Upon arrival after your plane lands, request private transportation arrangements that do not include your POT present. Getting into the car alone with him before checking into the hotel and settling in is not ideal or safe. Your first meeting should be public, not in his vehicle. Suggest he sends you an Uber/lyft gift card, or some taxi fare that will cover the full amount of the trip from the airport to your lodging space. This way you can arrange your own arrival to the hotel, allowing yourself time to freshen up, as well as time to get comfortable- And it’s safer!

• ALWAYS travel with emergency money on your debit/credit card. Should something go wrong, or change last minute, you need to be able to adapt! Whether that be getting yourself a new hotel room or plane ticket, you should be prepared to take care of yourself if necessary.

5.) Packing Guidance

• Discuss what the plans will be for the time you spend down there. Will you be going to the Yacht club? Music theater? Louvre de france? Knowing your plans will help you pack appropriately and efficiently!

• Check out the weather forecast for where you are traveling to, plan accordingly.

• Pack a few back-up outfits! A zipper can break, a dress can snag, but you can be one step ahead of these fashion disasters.

•Review TSA guidelines as to what amounts of liquid and powder can be brought through security. (3.4 ounces) Double check all the cosmetics you are bringing! There’s nothing worse then having an agent rummage through your belongings and confiscating a precious product all because it’s size is an issue!

•Pack travel size cosmetics you are comfortable with! Traveling to meet a POT is not the time to discover you have an allergy, or just overall unsatisfied in a product you purchased just because it was in the travel size section. Buy travel canisters/containers you can transfer the products you’re already using into instead.

• Pepper spray in the the purse is always a nice touch!

• Always leave a little space in your luggage for any shopping scores. However, if your shopping was EXTRA successful, don’t be afraid to let your POT know you need additional luggage space to be purchased. Also note, often times airlines will charge extra for more baggage to be included, remind him of that fee he needs to take care of as well.

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If your POT has any objections to any of the above, trust your gut and tell him goodbye, sugar daddies are replaceable- you are not. Your safety is key, never compromise yourself during this process for any reason, there is no payout worth your life.

But don’t forget to have fun! Breathe! This trip is about meeting a potential man who is going to take care of you the way you deserve to be! Enjoy the journey

xo

lex