I was just re-reading this lovely picture book by Jon Scieszka and Lane Smith (of Stinky Cheese Man fame), called Cowboy and Octopus. As the title implies, it’s about a cowboy and an octopus. The octopus is well-spoken, polite, and tactful to a fault. The cowboy is dumb. So very dumb.
The dynamic is as old as time. It began with Adam & Eve.
Do not mistake Dominance & Submission for some sexual kink act. You will be sorely disappointed. I am sure many will appease your temptress ways, if you think your kinky desires will sustain you are mistaken. Without understanding and accepting of your true calling as a woman, your relationship will not withstand the storm of life. True submission is to accept who you are, what you were created for, your purpose and where you are going. The when and why and how are the mystery.
I am a woman, created to submit to my God in the universe and my Master, a man on earth. We are equals. I know my role in my life and in his. He gave me his rib upon creation and I let him feed upon my apple. Together we can create life, love and true happiness. As a spiritual divine union.
We have one need. LOVE. That is the only need in life, for to truly Love yourself, you are healthy mind, body, soul and spirit. And if you love yourself, only then can you love another, trusting that he will be there by your side as long as it is Gods will. And once you surrender to God’s will, the unknown of universe, the lack of control, the mystery of the unknown won’t be scary. To live in fear is to dance with the Devil. To give your devoted faith to two, is the most beautiful thing a woman can do and through that beauty, life will be balanced, calm and she will find peace.
a shirt that says i ❤️ mutually assured destruction & codependency & hand in unlovable hand & infidelity & love, for you […] is like a religion & it’s terrifying no one will ever want to sleep with you & two people making each other worse & wallowing and complicity & stubborn refusal to let go & let’s admit without apology what we do to each other & we know who our enemies are & i stitch them back together to make a creature that will do what i say or love me back & vindictive jealousy & miscommunication & the idea you had of me who was she & when you hit me hit me hard & love as a smothering force & love as violence & what’s love without tragedy & id like to be my old self again & but i’m still trying to find it & it wasn’t always like this & you always said how you love dogs & it’s harder and realer than anything i’ve ever felt & just between us did the love affair maim you too & this is how it starts & we’ve got one thing in common it’s this tongue of mine & many of horror & you and me backyard to backyard trampoline to trampoline & does he take care of you or could i easily fill his shoes & but you say no you say no & exhibit a we are friends in a sleeping bag & are we the wrong damn people in the wrong damn room & what will i do when i don’t have you & when i finally get what i deserve & i held onto you with a desperate strength & love is a disease & love is not kind & love is cruel and unforgiving & love is vicious and love is spiteful & i’ve looked in all of the obvious places and still haven’t found it anywhere & when i find it i will kill it & love will break you apart & hate is accessible & jealousy is free & if you love me you don’t love me in a way i understand & so i didn’t think you’d try to stop me & touch as violence & gentleness and violence as interchangeable & love as enablement & love as frightening & love as an all consuming force & love as control & love without meaning & the motions of love & make me love myself so that i might love you & i want to kiss you inside a car that’s crashing & i am dead already and i am bleeding onto you & i am so hopelessly for you
