“Why do girls go for all the assholes?”

The secret is, some girls are asexual and/or aromantic, and since we’re attracted to the letter ‘a’ and ‘asshole’ starts with ‘a’… hoo mama how could we NOT

For me, being aromantic is a relief more than anything else. I never knew why I always felt uncomfortable when people, who hardly knew me more than a little reciprocated banter (which was ALWAYS mistakenly thought of as flirting… not my intention,) would want to date me. I felt pressured in high school to find someone and was frustrated that I couldn’t because I was “picky” about my dating standards. Everyone else seemed to have no problem doing it, so why did I? I always told myself it was because I was so focused on school and extracurriculars and never thought any different. When I first started identifying with the term aromantic though, it was like a weight lifted off my shoulders. Now, I don’t have to make excuses, worry about finding someone, or participate in romance if I don’t want to. It’s a relief, comfort, explanation and sense of acceptance all in one.

Hey alloaros, this is for you:

• No matter what anyone says, you are an essential part of the aromantic and aspec communities.
• You are not a bad person because today’s societal standards demonize sex without romance. There is NOTHING WRONG with experiencing sexual attraction but not romantic. It is real and your experiences deserve to be recognized.

So much activism that I see in the aspec community revolves around aroaces and occasionally, alloaces. This is a reminder to include alloaros in aspec acitivism!! THEY ARE SO VALID, and they deserve to feel seen!!!

bowl-of-shortness:

Heard an argument once that “having sexual attraction or romantic attraction is the only way to feel love”

Is that so?

Boy do I sure hope you don’t have kids or pets then