#aspec positivity

I’d rather be me

I’d rather be me

I’d rather be me than be with aro ace and aspec exclusionists

Here’s a story: I grew up wanting to get pregnant. Didn’t know how. Didn’t know it usually involved another person. Just knew, as young as 5, that I loved how pregnant people looked and the result was a baby. I love babies.

Problem 1: I learned as a teenager what sex actually was (and I’m talking LATE teens. I missed some classes in Sex Ed, and my mom didn’t tell me a damn thing about why I had my period every month). I didn’t start feeling arousal until maybe 19? “Late bloomer.”

Problem 2: I don’t like 95% of the kids roaming the earth. Even as a kid, I didn’t like many other kids, especially the ones on TV. Precocious twits.

Anyway, fast forward. My older sister has a baby, and after an endless night of her crying while babysitting, that was the first time I said, “I’M NEVER HAVING KIDS!”

I meant it, but I still wanted a baby. In fact, my cousin and I had a pact that in the future I would raise her baby and she could raise my toddler (that’s how much I don’t like children).

Fast forward again, and I go through high school and college with a few casual boyfriends, only one of which I even kissed, and that was enough for me ☂️(Pretend this is the ace version of a red flag).

Fast forward one more time to me hitting my 30s having missed my childhood goal to get married and have 3 kids before 30. It was in my 30s I discovered demisexuality and about 37 (the age I am now) when I resigned myself to never even finding anyone I want to have a child with. After chemotherapy, I don’t even know what my eggs are looking like.

But last week, I spoke with a doctor about getting fibroids removed, and though one of the options was getting a hysterectomy, I realized…I want my uterus. I never know who I can meet in the next few years.

So to wrap this up, I surprised myself that a part of me still wants to try to have a child I might like.

shinyasahalo:

sodabutch:

sodabutch:

sodabutch:

we need 2 normalize characters who dgaf about romance

sorry im literally so tired of everyone being shipped with someone can a guy not just chill

i want 2 say this isnt just about aro characters. im aro i love aro characters i love ace characters but this also is about allo characters. its normal and healthy and fine for alloromantic people to not be in romantic relationships and i wish media reflected that

Stop treating a disinterest in marriage, romance, or relationships like a character flaw that needs to be fixed.

That’s the one!

My cousin walked up to me at our other cousin’s party and said, “Do something for me.”

We’re a week apart, and I also have zero issues with inhibition, so I said, okay.

She held out her arms and asked me to put my hands through her bell sleeves. I did, and then she said, “Now, I have an ace up my sleeve .”

Absolutely love her.

HappyInternational Asexuality Day to all my established, newfound, umbrella, and questioning aces out there. You are loved, and you are VALID!

But anyway, weed and sex.

Listen, I was already obsessed with the color purple before I knew my sexuality, but now that I know I’m asexual I’ve become more powerful. My obsession with purple has trancended what I thought was possible.

Does asexuality cause people to perceive their gender differently? Like, I’m not sure if I’m nonbinary or anything, but I definitely feel disconnected from my gender, and have noticed a trend that other asexual people are more likely to be nonbinary than other sexualities.

Does the lack of sexual attraction lead to that disconnection to your gender? As in, not being able to relate to the others of your assigned gender in the same way due to not being in touch with sexuality in the same way as them? It may also be similar with aromantics, I’m not sure.

If anyone has any further input or ideas on this I’d love to know because I’m really interested in this concept.

I’m eating a tall bowl of purple mac and cheese past midnight because I am astronomically asexual and exist to spite god

I might be dead inside but at least I’m not horny

im-asexual-as-fuck-help-me:

So I heard that asexual awareness week is happening over Halloween!!!!! This feels like a historical landmark bc spooky season and asexuality just seems like the ultimate power couple to me idk

Bring back the true halloween spirit by throwing away the sexy werewolf costumes and just, dress up as asexual clowns and scare the shit out of people just like the good old days

This’ll be easy because I don’t even need to wear a costume to be an asexual clown

So I heard that asexual awareness week is happening over Halloween!!!!! This feels like a historical landmark bc spooky season and asexuality just seems like the ultimate power couple to me idk

Since I’m asexual and all two of my braincells go towards plotting world domination, this physics worksheet is making me want to yeet myself into the nearest void. Adieu

Currently being asexual and singing songs about sex because i love irony

Everyone irl is talking about how many kids they want but all I want in life are those car stickers that represent family members but instead of it being me, my spouse, and my kids, I want it to be me and just a ton of dogs. Dream big, kids

it’s okay if the phrase “born this way” doesn’t resonate with you. it doesn’t have to. if you’re trans and you were your assigned gender at some point, if your orientation is related to trauma, if you just don’t care if you were born this way or not… etc. etc. that’s all fine and good. we all have different stories and different ways of identifying ourselves. your queerness is just as meaningful and important and true as those who were born this way.

idiealotdontworry:

shoutout to intersex aros and aces we really do deal with too fucking much. from being told our bodies invalidate our orientation, to being told our orientations exist only because our bodies are “wrong”, to being alienated from and isolated in intersex spaces, etc etc it’s a lot and im rooting for all of us.

hoarder-of-stories-27:

Aspec people who use the label “queer”, you’re so important. I’m glad you exist.

Aspec people who would use the label but feel they can’t because of aphobia, I’m so sorry. I wish you safety and peace.

Aspec people in general, I hope you’re having a good day. You deserve a community that accepts you.

aspecpplarebeautiful:

Some people are naturally wired to be ace or aro, some people find their asexuality or aromanticism is related to or caused by outside factors.

It doesn’t matter why you relate to asexual or aromantic as labels, only that you do.

nothingshortofshocking:

Friends, Romans, Countrymen;

I love all my ace, aro, agender, and other aspec brethren