If you’re new to dating/having sex with trans people, it’s incredibly important to be respectful when referring to trans people’s bodies as, for a lot of trans people, their bodies will be a huge area of dysphoria. Here are some tips.
Not everyone gets dysphoria about everything, all the time: in particular, if someone tells you they’re trans it doesn’t necessarily mean they are striving to have bottom surgery (genital surgery) and to assume so can be very upsetting because there are a number of complex reasons why someone might not get/might not want to get bottom surgery. Genitals aren’t the base reason we are trans.
When talking about a trans person’s body, don’t use “female” and “male” to refer to their sexual organs. It works when labelling plants, but for people it’s best to steer clear of these.
Terms like “afab”/“amab”/“ftm”/“mtf” can be upsetting to a lot of trans people. So always find out what someone prefer to use for themselves and if you’re unsure - consider if you even need to mention it??
Let your partner take the lead at conversation when it comes to body parts. As trans people we are all too used to being made to feel like freak shows or research projects. If you let your partner know they can trust you and be open with you, if they want to have sex with you they will let you know what you can/can’t touch and the preferred terms they use for body parts.
Don’t be surprised if a trans person finds it a turn-on for you to use gender-affirming language in regards to sex. We are not fetishing being trans. This is especially relevant to trans people who do not pass as often people think this is the case. In reality, often the comfort of knowing someone respects us is the turn on. And consider that even cis guys will get turned on by someone talking about their hard cock, that if you use that language for a trans person it’s reasonable to expect the same response if that’s how they identify their genitalia.
If you’re new to dating/having sex with trans people, it’s incredibly important to be respectful when referring to trans people’s bodies as, for a lot of trans people, their bodies will be a huge area of dysphoria. Here are some tips.
Not everyone gets dysphoria about everything, all the time: in particular, if someone tells you they’re trans it doesn’t necessarily mean they are striving to have bottom surgery (genital surgery) and to assume so can be very upsetting because there are a number of complex reasons why someone might not get/might not want to get bottom surgery. Genitals aren’t the base reason we are trans.
When talking about a trans person’s body, don’t use “female” and “male” to refer to their sexual organs. It works when labelling plants, but for people it’s best to steer clear of these.
Terms like “afab”/“amab”/“ftm”/“mtf” can be upsetting to a lot of trans people. So always find out what someone prefer to use for themselves and if you’re unsure - consider if you even need to mention it??
Let your partner take the lead at conversation when it comes to body parts. As trans people we are all too used to being made to feel like freak shows or research projects. If you let your partner know they can trust you and be open with you, if they want to have sex with you they will let you know what you can/can’t touch and the preferred terms they use for body parts.
Don’t be surprised if a trans person finds it a turn-on for you to use gender-affirming language in regards to sex. We are not fetishing being trans. This is especially relevant to trans people who do not pass as often people think this is the case. In reality, often the comfort of knowing someone respects us is the turn on. And consider that even cis guys will get turned on by someone talking about their hard cock, that if you use that language for a trans person it’s reasonable to expect the same response if that’s how they identify their genitalia.
If you’re new to dating/having sex with trans people, it’s incredibly important to be respectful when referring to trans people’s bodies as, for a lot of trans people, their bodies will be a huge area of dysphoria. Here are some tips.
Not everyone gets dysphoria about everything, all the time: in particular, if someone tells you they’re trans it doesn’t necessarily mean they are striving to have bottom surgery (genital surgery) and to assume so can be very upsetting because there are a number of complex reasons why someone might not get/might not want to get bottom surgery. Genitals aren’t the base reason we are trans.
When talking about a trans person’s body, don’t use “female” and “male” to refer to their sexual organs. It works when labelling plants, but for people it’s best to steer clear of these.
Terms like “afab”/“amab”/“ftm”/“mtf” can be upsetting to a lot of trans people. So always find out what someone prefer to use for themselves and if you’re unsure - consider if you even need to mention it??
Let your partner take the lead at conversation when it comes to body parts. As trans people we are all too used to being made to feel like freak shows or research projects. If you let your partner know they can trust you and be open with you, if they want to have sex with you they will let you know what you can/can’t touch and the preferred terms they use for body parts.
Don’t be surprised if a trans person finds it a turn-on for you to use gender-affirming language in regards to sex. We are not fetishing being trans. This is especially relevant to trans people who do not pass as often people think this is the case. In reality, often the comfort of knowing someone respects us is the turn on. And consider that even cis guys will get turned on by someone talking about their hard cock, that if you use that language for a trans person it’s reasonable to expect the same response if that’s how they identify their genitalia.
