#healthy relationship tips

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Your own personal romantic timeline:

(Follow these steps to go from a healthy dating life to a healthy romantic relationship)

• Step 2: Analyze your list. See if you’re actually ready to begin your dating-relationship journey.

If followed correctly, you’ve looked inward when creating your list. So the important questions to ask yourself now is:

-Do you normally attract a person of this caliber?

-Are you the type of dream partner this “person” is asking for on their list?

-What similarities do you and your dream partner share?

-Does your lifestyle match with theirs?

-What do you offer in love for this person, are you giving as much as you’d like to receive?

After asking yourself these questions, if you’ve answered yes to them all, congratulations, you are ready to begin your dating-healthy relationship journey.

If you answered no, to one or more, you are not ready to begin yet. But DON’T dim or change your list. Take a good look at it and realize, this is exactly what you want.

You wrote it, so this is what your inner woman desires.

Day to day, you dim and change your list; settling for less because you’re desperate for companionship but come out disappointed in every failed relationship.

Now you take back your energy.

Now you focus on what you truly want.

Stick with your list.

Just take it and give yourself time to achieve and level up. You want this person, prepare to receive them. Create the life you know you need to live to attract them.

Then when ready, ask yourself these questions again.

Your own personal romantic timeline:

(Follow these steps to go from a healthy dating life to a healthy romantic relationship.)

• Step 1:Write out your list for your dream partner.

This is the most important part. This sets all your frogs away from your king/queen/them.Here you will set your boundaries as far as looks, occupation, religion, height, mindset, mentality, beliefs, family life, etc.

This is where you get selfish, this is where you write down exactly what you want from your dream partner and from your dream romantic relationship.

Be realistic here.

It’s most important to look inward in this moment.

Healthy Romantic Relationship Tip 3:

• Communication-Listening. Communicationis the most generic tip there is for healthy relationships but never fully explained for both parties involved.
• Communication is extremely important for both partners to get their point across and feel as if they are being heard in a relationship. With that said, when it is time to communicate, you must actively engage and listen when you partner is speaking to you. Giving them the same luxury and ear that you’d want, when you are the one speaking.
• Ego plays a huge part here. Put your ego to the side, shush and listen to them.
• Communication can only work if you are listening to understand rather than listening to speak afterwards. You want to make sure you understand your partner’s perspective as well as your own. Empathy plays a huge part here.
• Always feel free to express yourself in a relationship. Talk it out. Say what you need to say but always remain respectful to each other.
• (Dos:listen to your partner when they’re speaking, understand their perspective even if you don’t agree with it, give them time to express themselves, stay quiet and fully take in what’s being said, think before you speak.)
• (Don’ts:speak over them, wait for them to be quiet so you can finally speak, tell them what they feel is wrong, only express yourself without hearing your partner out, speak before you think it through, hit below the belt in disagreements, be disrespectful to your partner, speak illy to your partner.)

Your own personal romantic timeline:

(Follow these steps to go from a healthy dating life to a healthy romantic relationship.)

Step 4:Ask important questions.

If you’ve gotten this far in your romantic timeline, you are now beginning to date and you are actively looking for your dream partner.

This is the key step in your timeline to go from healthy dating to a healthy romantic relationship.

You must ask questions. No, not just anyquestions.

Yes, their favorite color or favorite place to vacation might be cool and interesting for small talk but you want real information. This deciphers between frogs and your dream partner.

If a person you’re dating answers anything different from what’s been placed on your list of personal wants, you know exactly what to do.

Best questions to ask as during a date:

• What’s your relationship like with your mother or any leading lady figures in your life?
• How often do you speak with your family?
• Do you want a family of your own one day?
• What are your views on homosexuality/lgbtq+?
• What kind of hobbies do you take part in?
• Are you religious?
• What are your long-term goals?
• What are your views on gender roles?
• Are you an introvert or extrovert?
• How well are you in social settings?
• Are you skilled at communication and comprehension during disagreements?
• Are you okay with being wrong sometimes? And admitting when you are?
• What comes first in your life; ego or empathy?
• What’s your zodiac sign? (Very important. LMAO!)

Your own personal romantic timeline:

(Follow these steps to go from a healthy dating life to a healthy romantic relationship.)

Step 3: After analyzing your list and coming to your conclusion, if your list and answers say you ARE ready to date, begin to actively look for this person.

This isn’t a Disney movie, a healthy romantic relationship will not just fall into your lap. For some, maybe, but we’re being realistic here. Actively look for this person.

- Date multiple people.

- Get phone numbers.

- Ask questions. (Most important, ask about family life, ask about beliefs.)

- Go for your type. (It’s okay to decline if someone doesn’t meet your preferences- physically and mentally.)

- Stop feeling obligated. (If a person doesn’t fit your list, stop texting/talking with them.)

- Stop being afraid to be rejected. (Everyone has been rejected before, even the person you’ve been rejected by.)

- Stop becoming too attached so quickly. (If they aren’t checking all boxes on your list, you shouldn’t be falling for them. That’s just setting yourself up for failure.)

You have the blueprint/map for your ideal partner so there’s no way you can fall for a frogwhile dating. The only way to fail, is to lower your standards and go against the list you’ve created for yourself. Stop going against your list and get the person you truly want.

Healthy Romantic Relationship Tip 5:

• Anger/Rudeness/Disrespect.This is something that’s rarely talked about because it’s completely overlooked within most relationships. But, NEVER disrespect your partner. Not out of anger, not out of pettiness, not in a joking manner, never.
• Now, everyone has emotions and feelings and sometimes you’re just not having a good day. We’ve all been there before but the key to any healthy romantic relationship is learning how to control those emotions and feelings.
• If you feel yourself becoming too upset or angry at the moment, step away, go for a drive, listen to music, explain/communicate to your partner, “Baby, it’s not the time. I’m having a day.”
• There’s many alternative routes to take before becoming rude/disrespectful to your partner. And the moment you decide to disrespect your partner for any reason, is the moment your relationship becomes unhealthy and you lose respect for one another.
• When angry or upset, as humans, we sometimes tend to say things that we do not mean, causing disrespect or rudeness. For some, this may seem minimal and not too big of a deal but it is because you can nevertake those words back once you say them. This will hinder not only your relationship but the way your partner feels about you.
• Your partner will never forget your words whether they took them well or not. That’s why it’s important to take alternative routes to continue a healthy relationship.
• (Do’s:step away if you become too angry, communicate to your partner what’s going on.)
• (Dont’s:swear/curse at your partner, call your partner names, disrespect your partner because you’re angry, feel the need to hit below the belt.)

Generally, if disrespect comes easy to you toward your partner, the relationship has already become unhealthy and it’s best to step away. You should never feel comfortable disrespecting anyone you love dearly.