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“Grayson Hawthorne was arrogant enough to consider himself bulletproof— and honorable enough to see a promise through to its end.”
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Your own personal romantic timeline:
(Follow these steps to go from a healthy dating life to a healthy romantic relationship)
• Step 2: Analyze your list. See if you’re actually ready to begin your dating-relationship journey.
If followed correctly, you’ve looked inward when creating your list. So the important questions to ask yourself now is:
-Do you normally attract a person of this caliber?
-Are you the type of dream partner this “person” is asking for on their list?
-What similarities do you and your dream partner share?
-Does your lifestyle match with theirs?
-What do you offer in love for this person, are you giving as much as you’d like to receive?
After asking yourself these questions, if you’ve answered yes to them all, congratulations, you are ready to begin your dating-healthy relationship journey.
If you answered no, to one or more, you are not ready to begin yet. But DON’T dim or change your list. Take a good look at it and realize, this is exactly what you want.
You wrote it, so this is what your inner woman desires.
Day to day, you dim and change your list; settling for less because you’re desperate for companionship but come out disappointed in every failed relationship.
Now you take back your energy.
Now you focus on what you truly want.
Stick with your list.
Just take it and give yourself time to achieve and level up. You want this person, prepare to receive them. Create the life you know you need to live to attract them.
Then when ready, ask yourself these questions again.
Healthy Romantic Relationship Tip 4:
- Connection≠Spirituality.Here’s a pivotal aspect.
- In a healthy romantic relationship you want to make sure that you are keeping your most high within it. Despite what ever it is you may believe in.
- What ever it is you may identify as, (i.e Christian, Buddhist, Science) practice those beliefs within your relationship.
- Homework:Pray with/for them. Meditate with them. Try telepathy practice, where the two of you hold hands, close your eyes and try to communicate with each other mentally.
- These are important aspects because your most high will never steer you wrong. In disagreements, in love, etc.
- It will also deepen your connection with your partner, spiritually.We don’t have forever here, connect with their soul, not just the humanly fleshthey’rein.
- This is simply grounds for a long-lastinghealthyromanticrelationship.
- (Do’s:meditate, pray, go to church, spirituality, astrology, astro-charts, synastry.)
Femininity Tip 5:
- Panty drawer. You knew it was coming. Clean out your panty drawer, sis. Right now. Go ahead, get up and do it. Yes, you.
- Throw away those old panties that you’ve had for multiple years now. There isn’t any reason why there should be holes, strings, stains or runs in your luxurious panties. The home and cloths for your lady friend.
- A lady should change out all underwear every six months, if financially able. Though if not, hand in hand with hygiene, you want to make sure your panties are always fresh, clean and looking brand new.
- Invest in your panty drawer, your will thank you.
- Best fabrics for a healthy lady friend:100% Cotton.
- (Do’s: buy new panties, step out of your comfort zone and buy sexy panties, pink thongs, red panties.)
- (Don’ts:old panties, stains, tears, runs, granny panties.)
Your own personal romantic timeline:
(Follow these steps to go from a healthy dating life to a healthy romantic relationship.)
• Step 1:Write out your list for your dream partner.
This is the most important part. This sets all your frogs away from your king/queen/them.Here you will set your boundaries as far as looks, occupation, religion, height, mindset, mentality, beliefs, family life, etc.
This is where you get selfish, this is where you write down exactly what you want from your dream partner and from your dream romantic relationship.
Be realistic here.
It’s most important to look inward in this moment.
Things to do when hanging out with your girl friends:
- Have a spa day. (mani-pedi, massages, facials)
- Have a picnic.
- Go shopping.
- Go to coffee shop + grab coffee.
- Go out to dinner at your favorite restaurant.
- Grab wine + snacks then watch girlfriendsreruns.
- Do your makeup together and take cute pictures.
- Order food and laugh about your memories together.
- Make a playlist of your favorite song and dance.
- Do each other’s nails.
- Watch the full twilight series together and laugh at Bella’s behavior.
- Bake a cake.
- Talk and laugh about your celebrity crushes.
- Plan a vacation together.
- Listen to throwback songs from your childhood that give you all nostalgia.
- Talk about your dream life, dream car and house.
Glasses up, ladies.
Cheers to being black girls in luxury.
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Healthy Romantic Relationship Tip 5:
- Anger/Rudeness/Disrespect.This is something that’s rarely talked about because it’s completely overlooked within most relationships. But, NEVER disrespect your partner. Not out of anger, not out of pettiness, not in a joking manner, never.
- Now, everyone has emotions and feelings and sometimes you’re just not having a good day. We’ve all been there before but the key to any healthy romantic relationship is learning how to control those emotions and feelings.
- If you feel yourself becoming too upset or angry at the moment, step away, go for a drive, listen to music, explain/communicate to your partner, “Baby, it’s not the time. I’m having a day.”
- There’s many alternative routes to take before becoming rude/disrespectful to your partner. And the moment you decide to disrespect your partner for any reason, is the moment your relationship becomes unhealthy and you lose respect for one another.
- When angry or upset, as humans, we sometimes tend to say things that we do not mean, causing disrespect or rudeness. For some, this may seem minimal and not too big of a deal but it is because you can nevertake those words back once you say them. This will hinder not only your relationship but the way your partner feels about you.
- Your partner will never forget your words whether they took them well or not. That’s why it’s important to take alternative routes to continue a healthy relationship.
- (Do’s:step away if you become too angry, communicate to your partner what’s going on.)
- (Dont’s:swear/curse at your partner, call your partner names, disrespect your partner because you’re angry, feel the need to hit below the belt.)
Generally, if disrespect comes easy to you toward your partner, the relationship has already become unhealthy and it’s best to step away. You should never feel comfortable disrespecting anyone you love dearly.
Femininity Tip 8:
- Submission.Listen babe, stop blaming your lack of submission on other people. It’s all us and we know it.
- We were taught to be independent and do everything for ourselves but this is because we come from women who “did everything themselves.” We were taught tobe a strongwoman, just like thembut baby, I’m here to tell you that those days are through.
- As long as your submission isn’t fumbling your finances or messing with your bank account, exude that submissive energy.
- Let him do it.
- Submission has been objectified and we’ve seemed to have lost the true meaning.
- Submission has never been inferior, submission makes you superior. And this does not apply to just relationships, you can use your submissive energy daily. Even as a single woman. Especially as a single woman.
- Homework: Allow that random man to open your door, allow that guy to carry your groceries, allow that dude to pay your tab at the register. You’re a woman for god’s sake, a feminine woman, a queen. If you wanted to do it yourself, you could, we all know that but you’re not. You’re way too pretty for that.
- As a feminine woman, the only thing you should be worried about is what nail color you’re going to get next week. Let the men, do a man’s job and trust me babe, they’ll enjoy every moment of it. Men love to feel needed.
- (Do’s:saying “yes”, “it’s so heavy”, allow a man to do it for you.)
- (Don’ts:saying “no”, do everything for yourself.)
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