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THE FORMULA: Activate numerous brain regions (energy/frequency being emitted) + form more neural connections (new reality forming) + rewire previous neural connections (old reality) = MANIFEST! ✨
I’m so happy that many of you are interested in how to use Neuroscience to manifest! I am eager to share with you how to take your manifestations to the next level Few people know this information, which is a huge problem because as an individual, you possess so much power and no one knows how to effectively use it. I have written this step by step guide to manifesting a life of luxury. If you are doubtful, I encourage you all to try this for 30 days, and see the difference in your life. I am 100% confident this will work for you.
Give it a try. After all,what do you have to lose?
The first thing I want to ensure you all understand is that depending on what you are manifesting, the approach will be different. The nervous system is extremelycomplex. With that being said, I made this guide to focus more on living a luxurious life because manifesting luxury is one of the easiest things to manifest. So is money, but that’s a topic for another day.
Begin by writing out what luxury means to you! Is it lots of wealth? Shopping trips each weekend? Being spoiled? Self care? Lots of fun and new adventures? Write. It. Out. Be sure to write this in present tense. Example: “I love my luxurious life! I shop every single weekend, and eat at the most exquisite restaurants everyday!”.
Script EVERY single day during these 30 days. Do not skip! Your mind has thousands of thoughts a day, some that still contain limiting beliefs (that you may not be aware of!). If you are not actively rewiring your brain each day for luxury, you are putting yourself at a disadvantage. If you do this now, in the future, your brain will automatically project luxury because it has been wired to.
Neuroscience behind it: Scripting is more effective than just speaking affirmations because you are not only writing them, you are simultaneously reading. Writing = giving. Reading = receiving. By scripting you have unknowingly created a neural feedback loop! This is the beginning of the formation of your new reality. Avoid writing the same phrases every single day, otherwise habituation may occur (very common with verbal affirmations). Habituation will lead to less neural firing. This is why reciting the same 10 affirmations each day, everyday eventually stops working. Switch it up!
2. Emotional Visualization. [visual association cortex/VAC, limbic system, hippocampus]
Now, associate emotions with luxury. What emotions do you feel when you thinkof luxury? What emotions do you feel when you experienceluxury?Comfort? Bliss? Relaxation? Security? Pride? Choose at least 3 emotions if possible.
Next, visualize a scene with these emotions. This scene should be short, less than 10 seconds. It can be something as simple as you purchasing a designer bag! Just be sure to be feelingthe emotions fully. There is no point in absentmindedly visualizing with no emotion. The goal is to trick your brain into believe it is really occurring.
Neuroscience behind it: If you manage to evoke a strong enough emotion, it has the potential to become a memory in the hippocampus. Create a memory of luxury in your brain, so it can be retrieved and projected by your subconscious at any time.
Visualize every night as you are falling asleep. This is the best time to visualize! Most coaches will tell you to enter Theta state to manifest– which is true. However, I want you to aim to enter DELTA. This will take some practice, but will really help your manifestations.
If you struggle with experiencing emotions while visualizing, a trick I like to do is think of something that makes me happy, then when I feel that happiness, I switch to the scene I am visualizing and carry the emotion over
3. Self Care [afferent neurons, limbic system, frontal lobe]
Aim to always live in a wish fulfilled state. The easiest way to do this when manifesting luxury is devoting yourself to self care. Some examples include:
- Waking up 15 minutes early to meditate/do yoga in the morning - Enjoying hot tea and journaling - Getting a facial - Taking a bubble bath - Getting a massage - Protecting your energy/setting up boundaries (less negative interactions = more positive emotions) Neuroscience behind it: By activating your afferent neurons (“sensory” neurons), the signal will automatically travel throughout your nervous system, and activate the limbic system (emotional network). The positive sensations you are experiencing will lead to positive emotions in the limbic system. This system is also related to the manifestation of behavior. This is why when those are experiencing altered realities (through use of psychedelic drugs, schizophrenia) the limbic system is heavily involved. Therefore, if you give yourself these luxurious experiences, your brain will have no choice but to spit out luxurious EMOTIONS, luxurious BEHAVIOR, luxurious REALITIES. Is it all starting to come together now?
If this is a confusing concept, let me share a real-life, medical example with you all: I encountered a patient last month who had Pica due to anemia. She was craving soil/clay and had started eating it. So what happened here? Her body was anemic —> her brain picked up the imbalance/signals of the anemia —> her brain created the desire (emotions) for her to consume dirt —> the behavior manifested into reality because her brain kept getting the signals that she was anemic. The constant thoughts/desire REWIRED her brain until it manifested into her reality.
4. Relax. Don’t. React. Don’t. Doubt. [All reactions = firing of neurons. Neurons that FIRE together, WIRE together!]
The biggest mistake people make while manifesting is when they have a less preferable emotion or thought, they REACT. You might quickly rush to change the thought to a positive one, thinking if you quickly change the thought, the “universe” won’t hear the doubt you experienced.
This is amusing to me, because all you are doing is making your neurons react more. Because that second of panic you felt as you quickly tried to change the thought was millions of neurons firing to correct that one moment of doubt. You created a cascade over one little thing.
Relax If you ever doubt yourself, or think something that does not match the frequency of what you are manifesting, simply observe the thought. Allow those neurons involved with the thought to finishtheir cascade. Your neurons are like children: they repeat whatever they hear. And if they’ve been hearing one thought for so long (a less preferable one), they will naturally fire that thought even if you haven’t been thinking about it for a while. Why? Because that was what they were wiredto do. Silly neurons. Whenever you have a less preferable thought or doubt creeps your mind: allow it. Welcome it. Do not scramble to change the thought. Scrambling will only cause chaos and resistance. Instead, mentally tell yourself, “Thank you for showing me what I have ascended from.” And begin experiencing one of your short visualizations regarding luxury. Be gentle with your brain. You are one. You are the operant power.
The easiest way to make your manifestations occur faster is to introduce essential catalysts to disrupt your old frequencies and neural circuitry. If you have been stuck in a certain mindset for a long time (depression, poverty, low self esteem) you cannot expect these neural connections to just “disappear” because you avoid thinking about them. You must do one of two things:
- Rewire the neurons (because your brain is “plastic” and can change always!) or - Synaptic pruning (elimination of synapses/connections that we no longer use). Eventually neurons will naturally die (apoptosis). Avoid doing anything that will cause cell death prematurely because you probably will end harming neurons you needin the process.
At least 3 times during the week, do something you would not normally do. Although this can be anything, I recommend the following:
- Eat at a restaurant you have never tried before - Make a new friend each week - Sign up for a class (such as dance, painting, or yoga) - Explore the upscale areas near where you live - Take a bubble bath
I wish you all luck on your journey to luxury. Please update me on how your progress is going. I hope I explained it thoroughly and simplistically. If there are any further questions, you are all welcomed to submit them Lots of love.
I’m so happy manifestation has become a widespread concept because it has changed so many people’s lives for the better. One of my goals for 2021 is to share my knowledge with others. Many of you lovely Goddesses who follow me desire a blissful life full of ethereal energy and luxury This is very simple to achieve! However, I do know some still struggle with their manifestations. I wish to share a few of my manifestation secrets today so you may manifest a life of luxury forever and always. ✨
1.Manifestation/Law of Assumption/Law of Attraction is all rootedinNeuroscience. To obtain a basic grasps of Neuroscience would take ~6-9 months (if you have a scientific background). I have a pretty solid background in Neuroscience, and even I must say it’s not a subject that can be skimmed or taken lightly.
Most people do not have this background, which is why Manifestation Coaches fail to convey the proper way to manifest, and how manifestation actually works. Without this element, you may find that sometimes your manifestations occur very quickly, while other times it may seem like it does not occur at all (it does!). When you know and master this concept, you will laugh at how easy manifestation can be! :) Would you Goddesses be interested in me explaining this more? Please let me know
2. What exactly is luxury? It is easy to describe it as an object or entity, but perhaps a little more difficult to express as an emotion. Take a moment to describe luxury emotionally. The next time you visualize, root your visualization with those emotions.
I describe luxury as a state of absolute bliss and comfort. Are you able to feel these two emotions right now? Or are they difficult to convey?
3. Be gentle to the flower = your vessel. Your being. Attracting luxury cannot blossom fully if you are not gentle to your body. Are you nourishing yourself? Or do you push yourself to the brink of exhaustion? I think we have all been guilty of this at one point! My uncle told me last week that I am so fragile, I must be handled as if I am an “egg”. I found that very funny! But he was 100% right. I have treated my vessel delicately for so long, others have taken notice, and do the same. After all, you would not treat a luxury item roughly, correct? Why do you not treat yourself with a soft approach as well?
4. Scripting and visualization > verbal affirmations. This concept stems from Neuroscience (Hebbian Learning). To keep it basic: cells that fire together, wire together. Wire those neurons for luxury by doing something that will cause them to fire! Scripting and visualizing creates a more dramatic cascade than just verbalizing affirmations in your head. Activate more brain regions —> wire more neurons —–> rewire your brain (i.e. your reality) —–> manifest luxury! Isn’t it so simple?
5. Disrupt your current timeline. If you live a mundane life, one that has become fairly routine– change it. Do things that you would not normally do, whether it’s something big like starting your own business, or something small like trying a new restaurant. These minor disruptions are essentialcatalysts.Some may disagree and say that you “don’t need to do anything” in order to manifest. This is false. Especially if you have been stuck in the same timeline for awhile! Disrupt, disrupt, disrupt. If the road you have always taken is blocked, you will be forced to take another.
I am wishing you all a wonderful New Year. Please let me know if you would like more of these posts! I do love sharing about Neuroscience and manifestation
Sensuality≠Sex Appeal. Babe, stop being afraid to see how sexy you are. You are a woman for god’s sake, the most powerful being on the planet. Embrace your sex appeal.
Maybe you think you’re a woman who lacks this because you’ve never turned her on or you’ve never tried but here’s a tip to bring out your sexy side.
Go into your room, lock the door, turn on your favorite sensual song, find a mirror;any mirror (floor length mirror recommended), get completely naked and take a look at yourself.
Embrace your body, sway your hips to the music, make yourself feel as if you’re the woman singing the song, feel your inner femininity that has been waiting to escape your body. Exude your sex appeal, sis.
Take as long as you need, tell yourself that you’re beautiful as many times as you can, eye yourself and pretend that you’re standing naked in front of your dreamman/woman.
Panty drawer. You knew it was coming. Clean out your panty drawer, sis. Right now. Go ahead, get up and do it. Yes, you.
Throw away those old panties that you’ve had for multiple years now. There isn’t any reason why there should be holes, strings, stains or runs in your luxurious panties. The home and cloths for your lady friend.
A lady should change out all underwear every six months, if financially able. Though if not, hand in hand with hygiene, you want to make sure your panties are always fresh, clean and looking brand new.
Invest in your panty drawer, your will thank you.
Best fabrics for a healthy lady friend:100% Cotton.
(Do’s: buy new panties, step out of your comfort zone and buy sexy panties, pink thongs, red panties.)
Confidence≠Ego.Nothing exudes femininity more than a confident woman. Now, don’t misconstrue confidence with arroganceorego.
Confidence is walking into a full room of people knowing your worth and knowing you are an astonishing woman but also being polite to everyone there.
Giving a small smile and a warm hello to everyone who approaches you. Smiling at others who are seemingly just as nervous as you might be on the inside.
This is what sets you apart.
A lot of people think that being a confident, feminine woman requires you to be mean and unapproachable but being able to balance between being confident and empathic is being a true femininewoman.
Mean girls aren’t confident, they’re arrogant and close-minded. Both factors which are simply a mask for insecurity.
Examples of “visually” confident≠empathic women: Beyonce, Jhené Aiko, etc.
Pay attention to how these women provide warm smiles and soft hellos when in crowded places, red carpets, etc.
(Do’s:stand tall, raise your neck and look straight ahead, straighten your back, smiles, warm hello’s, acknowledge others, mirrors.)
(Don’ts: ignore, roll your eyes, shoo people away, think your better than anyone, slouch, look down, nervous/insecure gestures, talk about being better than others, gossiping.)
Communication-Listening. Communicationis the most generic tip there is for healthy relationships but never fully explained for both parties involved.
Communication is extremely important for both partners to get their point across and feel as if they are being heard in a relationship. With that said, when it is time to communicate, you must actively engage and listen when you partner is speaking to you. Giving them the same luxury and ear that you’d want, when you are the one speaking.
Ego plays a huge part here. Put your ego to the side, shush and listen to them.
Communication can only work if you are listening to understand rather than listening to speak afterwards. You want to make sure you understand your partner’s perspective as well as your own. Empathy plays a huge part here.
Always feel free to express yourself in a relationship. Talk it out. Say what you need to say but always remain respectful to each other.
(Dos:listen to your partner when they’re speaking, understand their perspective even if you don’t agree with it, give them time to express themselves, stay quiet and fully take in what’s being said, think before you speak.)
(Don’ts:speak over them, wait for them to be quiet so you can finally speak, tell them what they feel is wrong, only express yourself without hearing your partner out, speak before you think it through, hit below the belt in disagreements, be disrespectful to your partner, speak illy to your partner.)
Shout out to tall and big Black Women with deeper voices who constantly get toned policed or perceived as hyper masculine/aggressive by white/nonBlack people.
Yall the best and will always deserved better. Your femininity and womanhood is present and valid and you dont have to hyper preform it.
YES! I hate the idea that you have to straighten your hair for a celebratory or professional event, as if straight hair is inherently prettier! Screw that! I am never straightening my hair for any reason at all.
In the same way, not all colours suit our skin tone. Not all perfumes will marry our natural body smell.I used to buy perfumes based on what was trending at the moment.
Advertising and Marketing had a lot to do with that, but now I have a different approach that I am going to share in this blog post.
1.Don’t fall into the trap of Marketing
Sometimes, the packaging, the bottle, and the colours can seduce you and get you to buy a perfume before even you get to smell it.
But you really should not judge a book by its cover. I tried on perfume that had an incredible presentation but was not that great.
2.Shop for perfumes alone
When you go shopping with other people. It is easy to get distracted and eveninfluenced by their opinion. It is best to go perfume shopping alone. It’ll be easier for you to make the right choice for yourself. Without any noise or distraction around you to influence you.
3.Try the perfume on your Hand…
Wait a few hours to see how the perfume alchemizes with your natural body smell.If you still like the smell on your skin, you can safely purchase the perfume knowing that you will enjoy putting it on every day.
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Protecting yourself from negative low vibrational energy has become a difficult task. The more you are trying to be a positive person, the more life throws curveballs your way. People will test you, but the key is trying your best not to let them bring out the worst in you.
*Negative energy attracts negative energy. Whatever you put out there comes back around, good or bad. That is the law of karma.*
These are the 4 ways I protect my energy at all times.
Stay Away From Gossip
.Gossip paints an impression on someone, which leads to judging people. When you start to judge people before getting to know their truth, it reflects poorly on you.
When you harbour negative feelings about someone in your mind, it either causes you to be passive-aggressive towards them. Or may lead to resentment, both these things breed negative energy.
Don’t Go Where You Don’t Feel Welcome.
Even if no one has outrightly told you not to be around them. You must trust your instincts, feelings and intuition. Energy and vibrations can be felt easily in a room. If the vibe feels off to you, do yourself a favour and leave.
There is no use forcing yourself to be social with people who don’t care if you are there or not. Other people value your presence in their lives and those are the kind of people you need to focus on.
Avoid Lashing Out.
Some people only want to bring out the worst in you or cause you to publicly ridicule yourself. It can be difficult because we can be very impulsive when we defend ourselves.
Thinking about what you want to say before, you say it may not work all the time. Take a breather, realize the motive and then respond accordingly. You have the right to defend yourself but resist the temptation of saying things that hit below the belt in an attempt to hurt the other person. This way, you don’t speak negative things.
Meditate To Release Unwanted Energy
I meditate every day to get rid of stress, worry, and anxiety. All of which are negative emotions. I’m the type of person that is affected by emotional stress. This translates into physical discomfort for me.
Meditation has become my go-to remedy for protecting my energy because it’s a chance to release all of that unwanted energy.
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Your bedroom should be your sanctuary, a quiet retreat for you to escape and feel safe at all times. It should be a place where you unwind after a busy day at the office; a room to be alone and focus on your thoughts.
Your bedroom should aim to be a comfortable, calming place you look forward to resting after a long day. If you want to upgrade the energy in your sleep area, check out these tips on how to turn your bedroom into a sanctuary that you’ll never want to leave.
Indulge Your Senses
Turn your bedroom into a sanctuary is by creating a sensory experience.The easiest way to do this is through your sense of smell. Grab your most delicious candle or diffuse your favourite essential oils to help set the right tone.
Fill up the room with soft, plushy materials, including rugs, pillows, and throw blankets, for some extra warmth and coziness.
Consider including a small area rug around your bed. This way, your toes have something soft and cozy to land on in the morning, just as soon as you wake up. Your feet will thank you!
Nature elements have a calming, meditative feel. perfect for your bedroom sanctuary.
Nature elements have a calming, meditative feel. perfect for your bedroom sanctuary.
And there are many creative ways these elements can be incorporated into your room to create a perfect bedroom sanctuary.
You can add potted plants or vases of fresh flowers, hang imagery of nature on the walls, or incorporate textured elements through bedding, rugs, or throw blankets.
Let the Light In!
Harsh lights can instantly kill the mood you’re trying to set. So avoid using fluorescent bulbs that wash out any semblance of serenity. Instead, opt for soft or natural light to brighten up your bedroom.
Even small actions like opening a window (even for a little bit in winter times) can dramatically change the mood in your room to something calmer and more inviting.
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True happiness starts within you and the projected outwards not the other way around. Happiness starts and ends with you. This leads to the long-lasting type of happiness that everyone should be seeking and actively building. In this post.
Poor Self Image ✨
The way you view yourself sets the tone for how others treat you. It’s important to build your confidence in who you are and own it unapologetically.
See yourself like a star and the most important people in life. Cultivate a healthy self-image and genuinely love yourself. It makes a world of difference when you do.
Comparison✨
Another thief of joy is comparing yourself to another person. This habit is not only unhealthy but also very detrimental to maintaining a healthy mindset about yourself. You can combat this by highlighting your strengths and working on what you consider your weaknesses.
Regrets✨
For me, I have tried my best to live a life with very few regrets. I don’t have regrets about past mistakes that may be seen as character flaws but rather about opportunities I never took. So the best I can do and will recommend for anyone is to take advantage of opportunities as they present themselves in life.
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Our dining habits reveals a lot about ourselves, attitude, and how we are perceived by others. Good table manners, as well as dining etiquette, are required qualities for every elegant feminine woman.
What are dining etiquette & manners?
Dining etiquette and manners are basic rules for behaviour around the table. The way we eat, the way we sit, the way we treat others, and even the type of conversations we hold are all part of table etiquette and manners.
Table etiquette around the world
You should be aware that dining etiquette can vary a great deal around the world. Different cultures have different norms and rules.
When you travel abroad, or as a guest, make an effort to learn and follow the local table manners.
Top 3 Table and Dining Etiquette tips
1.Switch your phone off
When you dine with others, you should always focus on communication and conversation. Constantly checking your phone can imply that you are more interested in your device than in the people around you. Don’t be rude!
If you have an urgent call that you cannot miss, politely excuse yourself from the table and take the call to another room.
2.Wait until everyone is served before you eat
It is important to wait until everyone has been served before eating any of your food. Take time to consider the feelings of those around you and wait before eating. If you are dining with family, friends, or your significant other, this rule applies.
3.Place the napkin on your lap
When you are sitting in a restaurant or any formal event, the first thing you should do after being seated is to put your napkin on your lap. Remember, once the napkin is on your lap it should never be placed on the table again. If you need to excuse yourself and leave the table for a moment, place the napkin on your chair until you get back. Before you leave the table – once the meal is finished – place the napkin delicately to the left of your plate.
Stay tuned for part 2! We’ll be going further in depth on the American, British and Conteniental styles of dinning etticate
Did you know that there are different clothing colours for your skin tone? Just like choosing jewelry, you can complement your complexion with the colours you wear! This process involves looking at your undertone, hair colour, and eye colour.
Typically, most people are placed into four different seasons or colour palettes. Check out this picture below to find colour palettes that can accentuate your skin tone.
Cool Hues
Summer Wardrobe Colors
If you got summer as your season, chances are you have blue veins or light-coloured eyes. It can be a bit confusing because we relate tanned skin to summertime. However, when it comes to wearing a summer colour palette, clothing looks best on those that contain cool undertones! You probably burn easily when out in the sun. Summer wardrobe colour palette that will feel the most vibrant will be muted colours with a cool hue. You will look great in Rosey-pink lipstick and may often wear sky blue.
Winter Wardrobe Colors
On the other hand, if you are a winter, you will have dark hair, dark eyes, and a cool undertone. This undertone must not be mistaken for being fair-skinned, but rather, your skin and hair often contrast harmoniously. Winters look best in sharp, contrasting colours. They will feel the most vibrant when wearing bright colours with a cool hue. You will look good in firecracker red lipstick. Wearing a navy blue will also look great on a winter-toned person.
Warm Hues
Spring Wardrobe Colors
In contrast to the seasons above, if you are a spring, you will have a warm skin undertone and will see your veins as green. Similar to Summer, you will have light hair and light eyes (this does not refer to the colour, but rather the brightness and dimension of your hair and eyes). Spring’s tend to tan easily and have a ‘yellow hue’ or golden look’ to them. True Springs look the most vibrant in bright colours with a warm hue. You will look good in orangey-red lipstick and may often wear aqua blue.
Autumn Wardrobe Colors
Autumns will also have warm skin undertones. Unlike springs, Autumns tend to have darker hair and eyes. Theywill also tan easily. True Autumns look the most vibrant in muted colours with a warm hue. You will look good in cranberry red lipstick and often wear teal blue. After taking the quiz I found out I’m a mix of autumn and spring Colours!
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If you began to notice that you’re keeping regular contact with fewer people than you did prior to your level up, there’s nothing to worry about. Losing friends while growing older is probably a good thing.
Here are some things you might experience as you get older and begin your level-up journey..
Hey loves! You are viewing part 2 of my “How to fix low self-esteem series” CLICK HERE to view part 1!
What is low self Esteem..?
Low self-esteem is caused by feelings of unworthiness or the feeling that we are far behind where we are supposed to be in life. How did we come to decide that we are not good enough? How did we come up with the “ideal self” that we do not seem to attain?
4.Practice Gratitude
Be grateful for what you already have, be it your health, your family and friends, your home, the food you eat every day. Don’t take these things for granted.
5.Make time for yourself
Time is the most valuable thing we have because it is the only thing that no money on earth could buy. Do not spend with the wrong people! Time is better spent alone than with people who don’t appreciate and value your company.
6.Do not tolerate mediocrity from anyone!
The main reasons people tolerate mediocrity & bad behaviour. Is either because they view themselves as inferior based on superficialities or because they need validation from that person. People will only treat you the way you allow them to, so the way people treat you is your responsibility.
