#microlabels
I like microlabels! I like to find tons of words that describe my experience and that more people feel the same way; that I’m not alone in that experience. I can think of at least 3 microlabels from the aro spectrum that fit me well, but in reality I just call myself aromantic! I use umbrella terms to describe myself when coming out, but I’m not opossed to the idea of having a bunch of microabels too . In the end it’s all about what makes you the most comfortable, I think.
how many times will you redefine pansexuality after being called before you finally accept that it’s okay to just call yourself bi
every time pansexuals are called out for being biphobic/transphobic/homophobic/etc they go “no no no that’s not what pansexuality means, actually this is the real definition of pansexuality”
first it was “attraction to men, women and trans people” and when that was called out for transphobia they changed it to
“hearts not parts” which was also called out for transphobia on top of biphobia and homophobia so they quickly moved on to
“attraction regardless of gender unlike bisexuality where gender is a factor” and when that was called out for being biphobic and ahistorical they swapped it for
“attraction to personality not gender” and when people called that out for being offensive and condescending to literally everyone who’s not pan they tried
“it’s the same as bi but just a personal preference for a different label” and now that that has been called out for enabling internalised biphobia i’m really wondering what they will come up with next
like how many more of these convoluted excuses for distancing yourself from bisexuality can you possibly come up with before you’ll finally be forced to face your internalised biphobia and learn to accept you’re bisexual
a lot of people (coughs in tiktok) have been saying lately that microlabels are harmful. what i have to say about that, as someone who’s been in and out of a lot of queer spaces in their life, is that if you use a microlabel, and you feel it’s helpful to your understanding of your identity, absolutely continue to use it. labels are tools that help us navigate the spaces we live in. if you love your label, keep using it! be proud of it! you are valid, it is no one’s business but yours, and you are more important than any queer discourse.
