hey everyone, on a serious note: please block and report pastelpannies. they post graphic sh/suicide bait to transmeds and in the transmed tags. this isn’t about discourse.
hey yall their account got deleted but their new one is pastel-pannies. same deal as before, report them
Their pinned post is genuinely “Suicide is an answer”
I don’t care who’s side you’re on, encouraging a suicidal person to kill themselves is a CRIME. I’m not going to bother with if it’s moral, it is ILLEGAL. YOU would be responsible for any deaths that happen as a result.
generally don’t repost this kind of stuff, but yeah. this is important. their blog is disgusting and no matter what your opinion on the whole fucking debate, sending gore or shit like that to people who are often teenagers is extraordinarily fucked up. don’t let people get away with shit like that.
i went ahead and finally blocked the accounts that were on here after i got home from work. the whole thing was fucking stupid and while i know that i shouldn’t have fallen to that level, i did, and i’m sorry. highly doubt any of you wanted your feeds flooded with that.
so, this will be the last post i make on the topic (not to be a dick, but i’m just going to delete all the asks that are related to the goddamn thing. know that i love all of you who supported me with my whole heart, and thank you). what i have to say is this:
if there is anyone- anyone at ALL- who is still following me and is nblm, please unfollow. i really, really don’t fucking want to have to constantly ask this, even though i know i will, and i will reiterate it a thousand times: it’s not that i hate you, or think of you as lesser, but i want this blog to be for binary men. that’s all. just please unfollow. if you give me shit i will delete your ask and be done with it.
on the topic of asks, because so many anons were sent and i can’t block the senders, i’m turning off anons. this probably means that very few of you will send in anything, and that’s okay. i just want you to know so that you aren’t surprised when i do it. this is for my own sake, because quite frankly those last few sent my dysphoria through the roof and i’m not dealing with that on my own fucking blog. i hope y’all understand.
also, and i am very serious about this, PLEASE DO NOT bring up my trans status. i don’t like talking about it. you might have noticed, but i rarely bring it up; today was the only day that i have mentioned it on multiple occasions. in short form, this is because this blog is supposed to be a place for me to get away from that and just express myself as a man. i live with my parents still, who are unaccepting and in control of my health insurance, and so at the moment i am pre-transition. consider me a girl if it really makes you feel better, but don’t fucking follow me if that’s the case. do not send me asks about it. do not reply to posts about it. if you harass me about it (as some people have been), i will block you.
on the topic, i will be deleting most of the asks that are triggering to me. maybe that’s a cowardly move to some of you, but this is my blog and i don’t want it on here. again, feel free to unfollow if that isn’t your thing.
i also should mention that i will leave up the two posts i made about blm and transmeds/tucutes today. i want everyone to understand that this is a blog safe for any binary mlm of any opinions; i genuinely do not care if they line up with mine or not. that isn’t why we’re here; we are here to enjoy and bond over out love of men, and that’s that. if you can’t deal with the opinions i have, you’re free to leave, but if you don’t mind and you disagree, know that you are welcome here. i’m not going to make this a ‘tucute’ or ‘truscum’ exclusive blog just because of my own opinions, because being gay or bi has nothing to do with opinions on political topics. the same goes for the misandry and transmisandry stuff i said. (that i will be taking off, just because there was so much, but otherwise this is staying.)
the last thing that i will say is that i will more likely than not go ahead and delete most of what was posted today. it was very much my fault in part, i can admit that. but i don’t want it here. again, my blog, and i do not want to deal with things that are troubling for me in the aftermath of this. i would normally just bury it in posts, but there’s so much that i just want it off here. call it what you will, but i’m sick of seeing it already. i am not planning to entertain anything of this nature in the future, and hopefully as things get better for me i will be less invested in proving people wrong (which is kind of what that was). to all of those who defended me over the course of the argument, thank you for your support. it means a lot that there were people willing to intervene and stand with me. hopefully you won’t ever have to do that again, though.
so that’s that. i probably will lose a decent amount of followers, but i’m alright with that. no one is making you stay, and no one is forcing you to interact with my posts. if you don’t like this, if it sours my content for you, that’s fine. just leave. it’s easier for everyone if there is no arguments here, as we saw today. i would rather just keep this a happy place for myself and others, because i am not a discourse blog or anything like that. i’m literally just here to love men. that is all. that is what i intend to keep this from now on.
Happy (early) Nov 15th! Remember that Stone Butch Blues is free now and always to read here
Leslie was a communist, a butch lesbian, a nonbinary and transgender activist, and the person who made me who I am today. Consider checking out Stone Butch Blues if you haven’t already Do it for Leslie, and for hir surviving partner, Minnie Bruce Pratt
Hello! I am a queer poet/playwright writing an MFA thesis on queer life! And I need your help! I originally planned on interviewing other queer folks in order to collect stories to be turned into poetic monologues but the current pandemic means I’ve had to change my plans a bit. I still need stories, so I’ve created a survey to help me collect them!
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t*rfs also like to twist the fact that there’s little long-term medical research into transitioning (for both trans women and trans men) in order to abuse and frighten trans men into detransitioning (which, btw, often leads to the suicidal depression that dysphoria causes and transitioning alleviates!)
like that popular post about how binding even with a good binder will fuck you up for life and make it impossible to have top surgery later on? written by a crypto-t*rf who thinks trans men are lesbians
the number of replies/tags that say something like “i’ve been terrified to bind and/or thought i’d completely fucked up my chance of getting top surgery because of that post” is horrific tbh and if you cis people actually gave a single shit about trans people you’d stop circulating shit like that
So wait. What’s the truth? Will binding fuck up your chances of getting top surgery?
no, it won’t. here’s an email from my GP, who’s been working in the Fenway Health system (which focuses on LGBT healthcare and research) for over a decade:
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Binders worn too tight or for too many hours in a day can certainly cause some chronic rib/chest pain; they may even cause some scarlike thickening of the tissue under the skin - usually at the margins where the breast folds down against the chest wall in general. This can be uncomfortable, too. But none of this translates into making top surgery a problem. Not at all.
None of the surgeons I’ve sent patients to have ever remarked about this and nothing in standard practice or the general literature suggests or supports that conclusion.
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Believed to have been kidnapped. May be in Thurston County, Washington State area, or Portland, Oregon area.
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I had facial feminization surgery, and the hospital is billing me at a way higher rate than I expected. Which is…making it hard for me to have food. I need food because it helps me be not dead. Here is the link to my go fund me
um reminder that i dont want transmeds following me, nobody gets 2 be the trans police . your experiences are not universal & people being themselves isnt your problem luv <3
So I found this app called Scan Halal where you scan the bar code of your food and it tells you if its halal or not. It’s a free app too. Pass this on so others can see and worry a little less about their food/snack choices
Yessss, it is very handy especially in non-muslim countries
If you reblog this for no other reason, do it because it’ll piss off Pauline Hanson. And pissing off Pauline Hanson is reason enough to do anything.
Pissing off Pauline Hanson is my favourite pass time
If you reblog this for no other reason, reblog it to make a Muslim feel safer, more accepted, and/or more informed about food.
Other people and their needs are not your game pieces to use to offend others or make yourself feel better.
This is actually a cool app! I had a customer come into my candy store and we discovered that certain flavors of the same brand of candy sticks were okay to eat! It was really handy for them to be able to scan it rather than rely on the ingredient list, which could be flawed sometimes!
Ooooh this is neat!
Nice!
For those wondering “why don’t you just read the ingredients”: Even if you trust the ingredient list, you don’t know which “natural flavors” were used, and you may not know where the various chemicals came from. And a lot of people have a hard time reading tiny print, and don’t want to stand in the aisle for five minutes trying to work their way through 95 words of 4-point type.
So glad this exists! We need more ways for people to find the info that’s important to them!
I really hate needing to beg on the internet for survival, but I have to pay for food and car insurance/upkeep costs, and I don’t have enough money for that. I’m a Jewish trans gal, I was kicked out by my parents earlier this year, I live in a part of California where the COVID-19 rates are too high for me to want to consider getting a job, so it’s time to beg. I know this isn’t my first donation post, but I wouldn’t be making this if it wasn’t serious. I don’t know what I can offer in exchange for your money, but I don’t want to die and I don’t want to go crawling back to my abusive parents.
My cashapp is $RosieQuinzel, and you can DM me for Venmo or Paypal because those have my dead name attached
it would mean so much to me if any of my mutuals/followers would go retweet this. i would love to see this pick up attention so jacie has an even greater chance of getting a big break. she deserves it and y’all know she does. thank you for your time xx
Lately I’ve been seeing people discuss why ‘genderbending’ isn’t transphobic, or why it’s something that’s fine and should be accepted. Most of the people who have been discussing this are cis, which is an issue right off the bat, so I’m going to preface this post by saying that if you are not trans, you do not have the right to determine what is or is not transphobic. Full. Stop. So if you’re cis, and your first instinct is to argue with me on this, I would like for you to consider why you believe that you can recognize transphobia better than someone who is routinely subject to it. That being said, let’s get into this.
To start off, what is ‘genderbending?’ Most fansites will define it as the act of ‘switching’ a character’s gender, but there’s already an issue with this. ‘Genderbending’, or ‘rule 63’ as is called in some circles, it not just about switching a character’s gender, it is about changing that character’s body as well. I have yet to see a ‘genderbent’ version of a male character who lacked breasts and a dfab body. This the first and most obvious reason why ‘genderbending’ is inherently transphobic - it assumes that physical traits and gender are the same thing, and that you cannot be female without also being dfab.This is cissexism, and this is transphobic. The message that ‘genderbending’ says is that you must have breasts and a vagina to be female, and you must have a penis and a flat chest to be male. I should not have to explain why that message is transphobic.
However, the way ‘genderbends’ are carried out also has distinctly transphobic implications in how it switches out the physical traits of characters to make them ‘the opposite gender’ ( the notion of there being ‘opposite genders’ is some fresh bullshit that I’ll cover later in this post ). For example, by giving a male character breasts and curves when ‘genderbending’ him, the message is clear that this character was cis to begin with. ‘Genderbending’ inherently implies that all characters are cisgender by default, and erases any possibility of these characters being trans.This is not as overtly transphobic as the first point, but it is harmful to trans people within fandom spaces, as the assumption that all characters are cis until explicitly stated otherwise pushes us out of media and removes whatever representation we might try to make for ourselves.
The third issue with ‘genderbending’ is that it is always cis male <—> cis female, and nothing else. I have never seen people ‘genderbend’ characters by making them nonbinary or intersex. I have never seen a genderbend of a female character which made her a trans male instead. ‘Genderbending’ implies that there are only two options when it comes to gender: cis male and cis female. There is no such thing as nonbinary people within this ideology. Intersex people are laughable at best. Agender people are little better than a distant myth. ‘Genderbending’ ignores that it is impossible to make a character ‘the opposite gender’, because there is no such thing as an ‘opposite gender’. Gender is a spectrum, not a binary, but you wouldn’t know that from the way fandom spaces treat it.
Of course, there are some reasons for ‘genderbending’ cis male characters into cis females that will always get brought up in discussions on the politics of ‘genderbending.’ The most frequent is that cis girls, who only see themselves as one-dimensional characters in media, want to have characters like them who are just as multifaceted and developed as the male characters that we are given, so they make their male faves female to give themselves the representation they desire. This is a decent reason for ‘genderbending’, but it does not excuse the fact that the way in which ‘genderbending’ is done is inherently transphobic, and it gives fans yet another excuse to ignore female characters in favor of focusing on their male faves.
Another reason for ‘genderbending’ that I’ve heard is ‘it’s for the sake of character exploration - like, what if this character had been born as male/female instead?’ This excuse is cissexist and transphobic from first blush. The idea behind it is that someone ‘born as female’, aka with breasts/vagina will automatically be a cis female, allowing fans to explore what that character’s life would have been like if they were female. Why not explore the possibility of a character being designated female at birth, but still identifying as male? Why do you need a character to be cis for you to find their personality and life interesting to explore? Why do you automatically reject the notion of your fave being trans? If you want to explore what it would have been like for your male fave to have struggled with sexism, consider them being a trans woman, or a closeted dfab trans person.
As a closing statement, I want to make one thing very clear. ‘Genderbending’ does harm trans people. It perpetuates dangerous cissexist notions and the idea of a gender binary being a valid construct, erases nonbinary and intersex people, and others trans people. These are what we call microaggressions - they are not as dangerous as outright harassment and assault, but they enforce and support a system and ideology in which we are other, and we are worthy of hate and violence because we do not fit in.
‘Genderbending’ is a transphobic practice, and if you engage in it, you need to be aware of and acknowledge this.
i redesigned the transfem (left,) transmasc (middle,) and transneutral (right) flags. i don’t like the currently most popular ones because they’re visually unpleasant and they seem to refer to sex assignment at birth in the stripe colours, which is uncomfortable.
under the cut is an explanation of the stripe/colour meanings!
