#real life yandere
theyanderegf-deactivated2020012:
I just want him to behappy.
it’s all I want.
so why does seeing them together make me want to die?
theyanderegf-deactivated2020012:
the thought of her loving you makes me want to puke.
the thought of you loving her makes me want to die.
the thought of you together makes me want to kill her
and then you
and then myself.
so please…
don’t make the wrong choice <3
i’m not jealous, i’m territorial. jealous is when you want something that’s not yours. territorial is protecting what’s already yours.
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A couple of video essayists that I watch and respect highly have done videos on the yandere community in the last few days. They’ve expressed confusion and worry about us romanticizing mental illness and worry that we’ll emulate their behavior, citing several ‘real life yandere’s’ (including Yuka Takaoka).
At first I was a little bummed out, because that isn’t what we are. I’d like to think that anyway.
For me, the yandere community has been nothing but supportive. I’ve been in highly toxic fandoms before, and it’s awful.
But when I step back, I see why people are worried.
Yanderes should not be seen as romantic, they should be horrifying. And that that’s how it is for me. It reads like horror.
So, reminders:
Stalking is not sexy or healthy: if you have a stalker, contact the police, take steps to protect yourself. If you are stalking, you need to stop. It’s not cute, it’s not sweet.
No means no: if you need to stop what you’re doing with your partner, they need to respect your wishes.
Violence is not romantic: if your partner or crush is expressing violence- either hitting you or lashing out at you, you need to leave. It’s not safe. They don’t love you.
Emotional manipulation is just that: “If you leave I’ll die” “I’ll kill myself without you” are not sweet or romantic. It’s fucking disgusting IRL, and you shouldn’t stay with someone out of guilt.
Easier said than done, I know, but there it is.
Yanderes should not be sought out IRL. They’re dangerous and abusive. Do not strive to find them or become them.
Get help.
yes, i’m a yandere. no, i am not violent. i do obsess over people i love, but by no means do i stalk them or abuse them. i do get very jealous over the people i love. i do see a therapist and i’ve always had an obsessive personality. i write to vent my feelings and i do not pressure or manipulate my crush. him and i do both have feelings for each other, but we’ve agreed not to date because we never see each other. we text all the time as friends and i’m fine with that. please do not assume i’m a bad person because i am a yandere, thank you.
real life yandere
Are you scrolling through the yandere tag trying to see the crime scene pics of “real life yandere”?
go ahead, but go ahead knowing that girl is not what “yandere” is to 99% of us in this community.
we use this aesthetic and style to cope with our feelings and thoughts. do not associate us with “real life yandere” girl. Thank You
facts. just because i’m a yandere doesn’t mean i’m a violent person. i would never hurt anybody, including myself, because i love somebody so much. I DO NOT CONDONE VIOLENCE IN ANY WAY!
the water that douses the flame
you posted her. a girl, i don’t even know. you posted her on your story so i made up one. i recorded your story and when you asked me about it, i proceeded to lie and say it was an accident. an accident. a mistake. just like it was a mistake to fall so hard for you. you know i’m in love with you and yet you still can’t even fathom it. you can’t fathom how deeply i love you, how if i were to lose you i would cry for days until there was nothing left. i would cry and cry. but i won’t. i will not lose you. because losing you would mean the end of the world, because you are my world. you consume my thoughts day after day, week after week, minute after minute! i walk to class, my mind filled with thoughts of you, not paying attention to where my feet are going, but to the thoughts of you in my head. i sit in a lecture and find myself thinking of you. i make conversation with my teacher and classmates but i don’t remember what happens. i answer the questions correctly but i can’t retain the information. i close my eyes and i see you.
when you post a girl on your story who is beautiful and you say she is your heart, a tiny fire of jealousy starts in my chest, it grows and grows the more air i breathe and the only way to put it out is by talking to you, the water that douses the flame.
My little girl, my darling, my sweetheart.
you.are.mine
