cocosugxr:

Slowly cracking the code on how to sugar via Yelp

Will update in a week or so after testing it out a little more!

I know it has been well over a week, but here it is:

Step 1. Open Maps on your iPhone and zoom and click on Nice/expensive places in your area.

Note: you need to decide if you’re looking for clients that you likely won’t see unless they’re in town (click on nice hotels) or local POTs/clients (click on everything else ie: men’s clothing stores, cafes, bars, etc.)

Ex:

Step 2: scroll to the bottom and click on “Find out more on yelp” I then look for menn who have left reviews. I usually look for older men who mention that they come to this place all the time, favorite spot, etc. avoid the people who just come to talk shit or talk about how pricy items are.

Ex:

This review is okay, don’t necessarily like that he’s talking about saving on bloody Mary’s lol, but you get the picture.

Step 3: click on the profile.

Ex:

Now I not only have access to the fact he lives in LA, (local POT) I have access to all the places he’s left a review aka PLACES where high quality men frequent aka freestyle spots!! There is also access to his friends which could lead to others like him.

I now know new places to freestyle for what I’m looking for, which is a local POT, that I can see frequently and can eventually become a SD/sponsor.

The next possible step to this could be to comment on his posts, make friends, etc etc… but my goal here isn’t to be engulfed in the Yelp world, my goal is to find legit places to freestyle in order to find local potentials.

I can say that I use this method every now and then, and have found some really nice places in LA that I’ve never even heard of, or that I was somewhat unsure of, and think it’s worth trying.

Let me know what you guys think, any tweaks, successes or failures.

Xoxo

Resume/Applying for Jobs Advice‍

Hey Heauxs, so I know this post isn’t sugar related, but as we all know, having multiple streams of income is only helpful in being a healthy and happy SW.

So after going through about 43 resumes with my supervisor today, I thought I’d drop some knowledge.

Note: Most of this is common sense, also, there are plenty of other helpful tips out there, this is just a list of what I encountered first hand today. These tips may not apply to all jobs, but still, pretty helpful information.

1. DON’T ask for a salary that is too huge for the position, ESPECIALLY if they mention the salary in the job description! (Ex: Our job posting says $55,000/year, there were people asking for $90-120k..those resumes were deleted off the bat)

2. If the job application REQUIRES a resume and a cover letter, do both! Better safe then sorry.

3. If you don’t not have some form of experience in the field you are applying to (preferably over a years worth) you probably won’t get the job

4. Make sure you submit you resume in a way that can be easily read! (One persons resume was getting cut off and another person had color designs, and the words couldn’t be read over the dark patterns)

5. To bounce off of that, limit the amount of patterns and designs you have UNLESS you are applying to a more creative field. If you are not, it is unprofessional.

6. They will google you, and look through your social media… pretty self explanatory what you need to do. Keep it PG13, PG if you can.

I will add more info as I get it. We started with 43, we are now at about 20 resumes (we have yet to review social media). My boss is going over the rest in detail and will likely chop another half, in which I will ask why, and make another post. Then it’s reviewing social media, and finally, interviews.

Slowly cracking the code on how to sugar via Yelp

Will update in a week or so after testing it out a little more!

When to talk about allowance on dating sites?

This is what works for me. Allowance talk usually goes 1 of 2 ways.

1. IF they have shown themselves to be generous and a quality person from the jump (ie: picking a nice resteraunt, offering/agreeing to pay for travel, expensive house/nice job/etc. when screening, great conversationalist, etc. then, I will wait for the end of the first date or right after they ask for a second date to bring up an allowance. This strategy allows for me to charm a worthy man in person, who’s likely to give me more after meeting, then had I just asked online. (Note: I would say only about 10% of the men I talk to on these sites meet this criteria.)

2. (Majority of my interactions) I just straight up ask within a few messages. Somewhat along the lines of “Hey I think we’re looking for the same things, what were you thinking allowance wise” or “what would you need from me in an arrangement, and what are you able to offer.” Of course more eloquently, but you get the just.

Remember you have this!! Stay strong, don’t settle, take his offer and double it, & if he can’t meet your needs, decline. I know survival sex workers exist, BUT if you can have a vanilla job in your back pocket, DO IT. You’ll be more mentally, and eventually, financially happy, if you’re able to decline low ball offers. Happy sugaring!!

Xoxo

Happy New Year Heauxs

How I started my year off, how about you? Let’s all prosper and thrive to be the best, healthiest, happiest, richest versions of ourselves we can be.

2018, you were good to me, but 2019 is going to be better!

Xoxo,

Cocosugxr

Me and Jersey broke up

Don’t really want to go into detail, but I will say this:

I will never ever wait on a man, nor will I ever be a second choice.

Anywhooo lol, I’m currently in San Francisco with one of my old SDs. He flew me out last night and I’m leaving Sunday. I’ll make another post with more updates later, we are on our way to Napa to do some wine tasting au revoir!! ✌

Had another amazing date with my SDBF aka Jersey. This man is so sweet, after about 5 really nice dates I finally decided we should do the do, and it was actually amazing. I feel like that was the perfect time frame to be intimate in this specific situation. Not so soon that he doesn’t respect me and not to long that he loses interest, plus he wants more so I have more to leverage.

Overall great date, and I can’t wait for him to take me to Greece later this year!!!

Update: September 23rd, 2019

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Hey guys!

Happy Begining of Fall!

I’ve been meaning to make this post for a minute now, but I’ve been running around and staying busy these last few weeks- between my college courses, working, and back to back travels I’ve had little time to take a deep breath and relax.

But I’m in Hawaii this week, and I couldn’t be more excited for the opportunity to enjoy some quiet time and sun. (And hella weed went on a run first thing when we landed, and literally ran into my new plug for the week. ) “Cal” one of my SDs of 2.5 years decided it was time to escape out to his beach house in East Honolulu for the week instead of spending our usual time in California. I live on the other side of the country, so my arrangement with Cal is that as long as he continues to provide a monthly allowance, I visit him for a week once every other month. While I adore my visits out to California; I’m happy to spend time anywhere out of my home state even just for a little bit!

Anyway! A couple posts ago I mentioned that I was stuck at the airport on my way to meet my POT/SD “Jay”- I eventually made it down safely to Kentucky, and was there for three days a couple weeks ago. Officially moving his status from potential, to sugar daddy.

It was actually a really fun several days spent down there; but as Jay expressed more about the type of arrangement he was ideally seeking, I had to keep it real with him and explain my schedule isn’t exactly as open as he’d like. He was insisting that we shoot for me flying down to KY once a month, and he would provide financial compensation at that time. (I still always prefer a SD who hands out $$ regardless of time spent, but I think I can get him there. Already convinced him to send money a couple times for shopping and a massage appointment.) But as a full time student with a job, and a life for that matter, I can’t commit to anything out of state monthly. He was bummed about this, but understood.

Ultimately we agreed that playing things by ear was the best thing to do for now! We would find time for me to travel to him based upon availability as it happens, and if Jay had the time and desire- he could even pop over to see me, as he does business in a city often that’s only a couple hours from my current home.

Jay sent a lovely arrangement of flowers when I returned home from my visit with him, including some beautiful purple and pinks- my favorite colors. I love his thoughtfulness and genuinely kind personality. It’s a rarity these days to meet someone as charismatic and humorous as he. Happy I had the time to go back and see him after our first initial meeting in May! If only he didn’t repeat the same stories from his youth over and over

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I met both Cal and Jay on seeking arrangement. Which I know gets a lot of shit on here from many sugar babies frustrated with the experience- and I completely understand where you ladies are coming from. Often times logging on to SA means combing through many ignorant messages filled with inappropriate comments and private picture requests. It’s annoying and down right disappointing sometimes! But with patience and some finesse, there is still some hope on SA to find a real genuine SD, who will offer you much more than “drinks and $300 to meet up tonight”. ‍♀️

Seeking Arrangement tips/reminders:

1.)Make sure your profile is in its best condition.

- Do you have enough content on your profile? Not suprisingly, adding just a bit more information than the typical SB page shows that you’re serious, and genuine about the process. Doing so also helps make your profile stand out from a sea of other potential girls! Adding a bit more “fun” causal information about yourself- like mentioning a hobby, or maybe what you’re studying in school gives your page more personality and detail. This is the POT/SDs first impression of you, make it count!

- Many SBs fall into the trap of only mentioning what THEY are going to receive out of the deal on their profile, which can be a turn off for POT/SDs who can smell desperation and money grubbing a mile away. Add the phrase “mutually beneficial” somewhere in your profile, or a comparable equivalent, it puts the thought in a SDs mind that you are aware that they too will also be receiving something out of the arrangement. It’s a given that these men are going to help you financially, they’re supposed to be a SD after all, so take the time to mention things you can provide for them as well! Include more specifics to outweigh just the financial assistance aspect- like mentioning your favorite types of dates, or adventures you’re looking forward to pursuing with them. Someone who writes about how they like to try out new bars in the city, or touring art museums, will be immensely more appealing than someone who touches on how they’re a broke student in need of cash quick. - If you are willing to travel out of state to meet up with a POT/SD, make sure you say so on your profile! This casts a bigger net for potentials who don’t happen to be in your immediate area but are still interested in meeting.

2.) Be willing to send the first message.

- Waiting to receive a message from POTs can be time consuming and unpredictable. There’s nothing wrong with being the first one to reach out with a cute introductory message expressing interest in their profile, and inviting them to check yours out. Favoriting a member’s profile shows a little extra interest as well!

- When looking through profiles, add filters to your searches to find more serious candidates. Selecting things such as “Diamond members”, background check, and premium weeds out profiles that are poorly thrown together and run by in-genuine salt daddy’s.

- Be aware of the age displayed on the POTs profile. He’s in his twenties? Very seldom someone this young has the financial means to be a genuine sugar daddy. Honestly 35+ is a more reliable age group.

- “Hi” doesn’t quite catch the eye, especially in an inbox filled with messages from other people who might have taken the time to craft a real sentence. Put some thought into what you’re saying as to showcase yourself in the best way possible. Compliment their profile if they have a nice detailed bio filled out, or set of pictures uploaded- flattery goes a long way with the male mind.

- If you are comfortable with pursuing arrangements with out of state POTs, adjust the location settings in your search. Highlight cities you’d like to travel to, or would feel comfortable traveling to when it comes to meeting up with POT/SDs, doing so will expand your list of potentials!

3.) Make sure the photos on your profile are the best.

- Including clear photos of both your face and body will increase the chances of a POT expressing interest in you. Naturally, these are men we are dealing with, so the physical appearance is undoubtedly an important aspect for them.

- Low quality, or Snapchat filter filled photos should be avoided. You can do better then this if you take the time! And you should. Whether that means dedicating an entire afternoon of selfie taking, putting in the effort pays off when a POT comes across your profile and is simply compelled to reach out after viewing your high quality breathtaking photos.

4.) Be Patient!

- Finding a quality sugar daddy usually won’t happen over night, this can be a process of months for many, so don’t get discouraged if things aren’t happening as quickly as you’d like.

- Monitor your inbox regularly to stay on top of messages and responses, the faster the reply- the more likely to engage in a conversation that is truly going somewhere.

I hope all of you guys enjoyed the end of the summer, and are kicking ass in school so far if you’re currently studying!

May all of you have abundant blessings and luck this week! Talk soon.

xo

lex