#your feelings are valid
You can be angry about things but still make the conscious decision not to be cruel. When we remind each other to be kind, we’re not saying don’t be mad. There’s a lot of stuff to be mad about right now. But you can still be a kind and patient person. You don’t have to be mean to other people. You can choose.
Here’s the thing. Practical self-care, such as showering, feeding yourself, talking a walk, cleaning your space, getting rest, ect. will not solve every problem you have. Especially the big, serious ones. But it will solve a ton of smaller problems that are building up, adding to your stress, and using the energy you need to cope with those big serious problems.
You can feel as awful as you want, just eat a sandwich first.
I think there’s this little instinct we have that rejects solutions to our problemsif I feel better after getting my sandwich that means my problems are less validand therefore if I want my pain to be REAL it can’t be relieved in any waywhich is nonsense the reason why my problems feel smaller when I take care of myself is that I have more energy to cope with themand that’s a GOOD thingThe whole “oh must be nice to think that getting outside cures depression” movement is notin my opiniona victim complex so much as it’s a “I’m in pain and when you try to give me an easy solution it feels like you’re not listening to me”reaction
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Even if they are irrational.
Even if, logically, they don’t make sense.
Even if you know it’s an improper function of your brain’s chemicals.
Even if you don’t necessarily want to feel them.Your feelings are valid, and you don’t deserve to be forced into believing otherwise.
You are loved.
You are beautiful.
You deserve the world.
