AHHH I AM GOING TO LOSE IT OKAY LISTEN UP EVERYONE, sex isn’t ✨"the closest way possible"✨ to connect to your partner, please don’t feel like you’re missing out on anything more intimate by not wanting to have sex (coming from an allosexual).
Our current definition for asexual is just “someone who experiences little to no sexual attraction” which is a decent enough baseline, but I don’t think it quite grasps just how broad a spectrum asexuality is. It’s also a little misleading, considering how some asexuals do experience sexual attraction when certain conditions are met (demisexual), but what I think I dislike the most about that definition is how it defines asexuality by what is not/what it lacks, rather than what it is or could be. I think that’s where a lot of the misconceptions around asexuality comes from, because if we understand asexuality as a simple lack of sexual attraction, then we leave little room for conversations around domestic partnerships/companionships, sex positive/neutral/repulsed discourse, etc.
I think a better definition would be something along the lines of “someone who doesn’t experience sexual attraction the same way allosexual people do.” I don’t think that is the perfect definition, but I do think it opens the door a little more to the fuller spectrum of asexuality
happy pride to you all my lovelies! Whether your out and proud, closeted (like me!) or questioning, this is a time to celebrate who you are and to not let ANYBODY rain on your parade! The rest of the alphabet mafia will always have your back. Now, go be unapologetically you! :)
P.S. if you ever need someone to talk to, my figurative door is always open!
Ok, I know I typically am the one who gives advice but this time I need it.
I enter a relationship with a heterosexual man recently, he is someone I’ve know for nearly 2 years and when we brought up dating he said he was fine with me being ace. Well lately we’ve been talking about the possibility of marriage. But he and I are worried how our relationship will work when he wants sex and I don’t. As some of you know I am a sex-repulsed ace and have always been worried about being in relationships for that very reason. I really like this guy and he wants to compromise we just don’t know how. I’ll take any help I can get.
Happy new year and all that good stuff! Sorry I’ve been a little absent lately, I’ve been in a weird place and having a hard time figuring things out. I have a new Pride art piece, hopefully, coming in the near future (๑>◡<๑)
I’m proud of all of you and remember to always be proud of yourself!!
I wish to ask a favor of my followers if I may. I am trying to get out of my current job because it’s running ragged and sucking the life out of me. I am planning on starting a twitch channel in the near future and was hoping you guys will follow and support me there.
Please follow me at Koi_Chan_ on twitch with this avatar and I hope and pray to make a living out of this eventually. Thank you so much for your support in advance. I love each and every one of you!!
Hey it’s ace week and you’re local ace has something to say! I’ve been out as ace for 3 years now and it’s still a big part of my identity that I’m proud of so here’s a lil something for those who need it!
Saw this and HAD to repost! I love it so much!!
Just looked up when ace week starts this year and I’m going to be in Disney World that whole week!! It’s going to be the BEST week EVER!!!!
I want you guys to know I’m not at all ignoring your asks. I give every answer a lot of thought in hopes of Brighton’s your day or helping you guys in the best way possible. I hope this little community keeps growing and we can all help each other!!
that quote like “god gave us transness for the same reason he made grapes but not wine; yeast but no loaves — so we may partake in the divine act of creation”
- Julian K. Jarboe, quoted in Something That May Shock and Discredit You by Daniel M. Lavery
No, okay, you know what? I’m NOT DONE with this yet.
Do you have any idea how infuriating it is to watch the capital letter Ls and Gs step all over the bodies of the queer and the kinky and the poly who fought and bled and fucking died to give us the future we have right now? Who erase our history, who try to take what we have grasped with bloody, exhausted hands?
We belong here as much as them.
How infuriating it is to watch them deepthroat that respectability boot to be “accepted,” not giving one single solitary fuck about throwing the rest of us under the nearest bus like they’re replaying the fucking train thought experiment. Like we’re something nasty to sweep under the rug and hope no one looks too closely.
We. Belong. Here.
Bro, I like the taste of leather as much as the next kinky bitch but I’m not going to sell out and turn my back on everything that made me what the fuck I am to get it. This past generation or two grew up in such a puritanical, conservative atmosphere, they don’t even realize they’re perpetuating it. More, they don’t CARE.
It was kinky and poly queers who helped shelter other movements, who walked through the shitstorm of being told we were freaks going to hell and living in sin, who stood side by side with Ls and Gs and all the others. It was our shoulders that were leaned on, our fists that threw punches as much as the rest.
WE.BELONG.HERE.
There are more flavors of the rainbow, Horatio, than your basic white cis L/G thinks there fucking are.
Thank you for coming to my fuckingtedtalk.
Like I said before:
Reminder that Pride must include L, G, B, T, Q, I, A and +, otherwise it’s just sparkling gay visibility.
Anonymous asked: Wait, I signed up for a trans kid when I decided to become pregnant? Are you joking or are you really that crazy?
Hey there,
I’m not joking at all and I don’t really see how this would be a laughing matter to you.
Yes, you signed up for a trans kid. And while we are at it, you also signed up for a disabled kid. Autistic kid. Gay kid. A kid who doesn’’t look like you. A deaf kid. A kid who will have interests that don’t match up with yours at all. You signed up for a shy kid and a loud kid and a kid who wets the bed and a sick kid.
That’s the beauty, the miracle of parenthood, don’t you agree? You decide to care for a little person you don’t even know yet. You decide to open your heart and home to them, you promise to nurture and love and protect a tiny human being. How can you promise that, if not unconditionally?
You can’t pick and choose your kid. Maybe even more importantly, they can’t choose you. They depend on you to keep that promise - and not only if they live up to whatever expectations you had.
