I’ve never experienced oppression or discrimination by calling myself bisexual.
But I have been bullied, verbally abused, and called a freak because of my asexuality.
It’s incredibly rare that someone chooses to be in a relationship that doesn’t involve sex. We are rejected by our partners & love interests & even by the LGBT community, when all we asked from them was acceptance. Even if you’re LGBT, you’re expected to have sexual relationships with someone.
Regardless, we are deserving of romantic connection & love. It can be lonely, being excluded from relationships, the lgbt community. Being called “broken” and “medically abnormal”.
So don’t you dare tell me asexuals aren’t marginalised .
LGBT people: share an experience that is based on persecution of our sexuality and gender expression, have formed spaces to openly express our sexuality and our relationship with gender as safely as possible (even though we still sometimes get killed for it when in those spaces)
Acey-beans: we should center LGBT spaces around REAL shared experiences outside of heteronormativity! Like cake! UwU
Fucking GLAAD: Hey can we be more discrete with our lan-
Exclus: OH SO YOU WANT ME TO STOP BEING GAY? DO YOU WANT ME TO BE ERASED? YOU WANT ACES TO TAKE OVER? I’LL HAVE YOU KNOW MY TWO GRANDFATHERS DIED AT STONEWALL FOR ME TO ALIENATE ASEXUALS AT ANY GIVEN OPPORTUNITY. GOOD DAY, SIR. I SAID GOOD DAY!
Just admit that you’re a homophobe.
If you don’t want LGBT people to have spaces where we can actually safely express our sexuality, but instead cater to people whose identity is based on a disconnect from the sexual experience, then you’re a homophobe, plain and simple.
You goobers literally NEVER make these demands of the average cis-het. No, you be these demands of LGBT people.
You are toxic. You are bullies. You are homophobes.
*raises hand* I would like if everyone could keep it in their pants unless they are in privacy or at a club… That’s just kind of how I feel as a modest human being who would like to walk down the street and see kind gestures of love rather than two people engaging in foreplay on the sidewalk. People of all sexualities should be able to show affection or sexuality, but at the right time please.
Where the fuck are you going where there’s “foreplay on the sidewalk”? That’s pure hyperbole and a total dodge.
Even the Leather floats at Pride parades are never any less scantily clad than billboards for stripper clubs on the freeway – but Poor Pweshuss Smol Ace Beans would rather bully LGBT orgs to “de-sexualise LGBTOMFGWTFBBQ spaces,” rather than cis-het society, which is homophobia, pure and simple.
If they actually cared about what they perceived as an overall oversaturation of sexuality in society, they’d join forces with feminist groups, but they don’t, cos they’re misogynistic, in addition to homophobic.
LGBT people: share an experience that is based on persecution of our sexuality and gender expression, have formed spaces to openly express our sexuality and our relationship with gender as safely as possible (even though we still sometimes get killed for it when in those spaces)
Acey-beans: we should center LGBT spaces around REAL shared experiences outside of heteronormativity! Like cake! UwU
Fucking GLAAD: Hey can we be more discrete with our lan-
Exclus: OH SO YOU WANT ME TO STOP BEING GAY? DO YOU WANT ME TO BE ERASED? YOU WANT ACES TO TAKE OVER? I’LL HAVE YOU KNOW MY TWO GRANDFATHERS DIED AT STONEWALL FOR ME TO ALIENATE ASEXUALS AT ANY GIVEN OPPORTUNITY. GOOD DAY, SIR. I SAID GOOD DAY!
Just admit that you’re a homophobe.
If you don’t want LGBT people to have spaces where we can actually safely express our sexuality, but instead cater to people whose identity is based on a disconnect from the sexual experience, then you’re a homophobe, plain and simple.
You goobers literally NEVER make these demands of the average cis-het. No, you be these demands of LGBT people.
You are toxic. You are bullies. You are homophobes.
LGBT people: share an experience that is based on persecution of our sexuality and gender expression, have formed spaces to openly express our sexuality and our relationship with gender as safely as possible (even though we still sometimes get killed for it when in those spaces)
Acey-beans: we should center LGBT spaces around REAL shared experiences outside of heteronormativity! Like cake! UwU
We really need to address the fact that women aren’t more likely to be asexual than men. Ace men are more likely to be closeted especially to themselves because society tells them that they must be sexual/are sex obsessed/be attracted to people and in particular women. And it can be extrememly difficult to look at yourself and say “wow I guess I’m not the way society says I should be”.
Ace men deserve mad respect for figuring themselves out.
Person: What you’re wearing doesn’t make you look aro/ace! You look like you are trying to attract someone!
Aromantics/ Asexuals can dress ourselves up because we want to look pretty, regardless of what anyone else thinks. We are not dressing up for your pleasure. Aros and Aces should be able to dress nicely or even “immodestly” without this whole idea that doing so takes away from our aro/ace identity.
If you want to know what acephobia in the LGBT+ community does, it makes asexuals, like me, not want to go to LGBT groups because we won’t feel welcomed. It isolates us and tells us our problems are invalid. Acephobia in the LGBT+ literally scares aces away from places (like LGBT groups in our schools and communities) that should be safe for us.
on the one hand, normalise not having a life partner, especially for ace folks, but also in general I feel like that societal expectationand pressure can be harmful
on the other hand, who will rub vicks on my back when I get a cold ?
Ok, I know I typically am the one who gives advice but this time I need it.
I enter a relationship with a heterosexual man recently, he is someone I’ve know for nearly 2 years and when we brought up dating he said he was fine with me being ace. Well lately we’ve been talking about the possibility of marriage. But he and I are worried how our relationship will work when he wants sex and I don’t. As some of you know I am a sex-repulsed ace and have always been worried about being in relationships for that very reason. I really like this guy and he wants to compromise we just don’t know how. I’ll take any help I can get.
Hey it’s ace week and you’re local ace has something to say! I’ve been out as ace for 3 years now and it’s still a big part of my identity that I’m proud of so here’s a lil something for those who need it!
Saw this and HAD to repost! I love it so much!!
Just looked up when ace week starts this year and I’m going to be in Disney World that whole week!! It’s going to be the BEST week EVER!!!!
I want you guys to know I’m not at all ignoring your asks. I give every answer a lot of thought in hopes of Brighton’s your day or helping you guys in the best way possible. I hope this little community keeps growing and we can all help each other!!
