#blacklove

Your own personal romantic timeline:

(Follow these steps to go from a healthy dating life to a healthy romantic relationship.)

Step 4:Ask important questions.

If you’ve gotten this far in your romantic timeline, you are now beginning to date and you are actively looking for your dream partner.

This is the key step in your timeline to go from healthy dating to a healthy romantic relationship.

You must ask questions. No, not just anyquestions.

Yes, their favorite color or favorite place to vacation might be cool and interesting for small talk but you want real information. This deciphers between frogs and your dream partner.

If a person you’re dating answers anything different from what’s been placed on your list of personal wants, you know exactly what to do.

Best questions to ask as during a date:

• What’s your relationship like with your mother or any leading lady figures in your life?
• How often do you speak with your family?
• Do you want a family of your own one day?
• What are your views on homosexuality/lgbtq+?
• What kind of hobbies do you take part in?
• Are you religious?
• What are your long-term goals?
• What are your views on gender roles?
• Are you an introvert or extrovert?
• How well are you in social settings?
• Are you skilled at communication and comprehension during disagreements?
• Are you okay with being wrong sometimes? And admitting when you are?
• What comes first in your life; ego or empathy?
• What’s your zodiac sign? (Very important. LMAO!)

Your own personal romantic timeline:

(Follow these steps to go from a healthy dating life to a healthy romantic relationship.)

Step 3: After analyzing your list and coming to your conclusion, if your list and answers say you ARE ready to date, begin to actively look for this person.

This isn’t a Disney movie, a healthy romantic relationship will not just fall into your lap. For some, maybe, but we’re being realistic here. Actively look for this person.

- Date multiple people.

- Get phone numbers.

- Ask questions. (Most important, ask about family life, ask about beliefs.)

- Go for your type. (It’s okay to decline if someone doesn’t meet your preferences- physically and mentally.)

- Stop feeling obligated. (If a person doesn’t fit your list, stop texting/talking with them.)

- Stop being afraid to be rejected. (Everyone has been rejected before, even the person you’ve been rejected by.)

- Stop becoming too attached so quickly. (If they aren’t checking all boxes on your list, you shouldn’t be falling for them. That’s just setting yourself up for failure.)

You have the blueprint/map for your ideal partner so there’s no way you can fall for a frogwhile dating. The only way to fail, is to lower your standards and go against the list you’ve created for yourself. Stop going against your list and get the person you truly want.