#body politics
Every grey hair is proof you survived.
Digital illustration of the back of a brown fem with a long ponytail. Their hair is black with grey streaks, and they’re wearing a beige 2-piece jumpsuit that has fringe. The back of their jacket reads ‘every grey hair is proof you survived.’ The background is a desert scene.
OH hi babe.
Let’s dive right on in cause I got a problem.
I have had a very long standing interest in wellness. I’m talking, I started reading about herbs and Indigenous remedies, family remedies, food as medicine etc way back in the early 90s. I’ve always leaned towards treating myself in a holistic manner, I like to look at the whole picture of how my body works and how to support it working as…
Hello babes. It is yer problematic fave Auntie and I got beef.
We’re going to be talking about wellness, fatphobia, misleading shit a bunch of people say and how we can do better.
Recently I was doing some research, apparently this whole virus situation has sent me running back to my juices and berries witchy ways. That means I’ve been doing a lot of reading.
Listen wellness people…y’all.
One of…
Last night I shaved my legs,pits, and pubic hair (see links for pictures). I hadn’t shaved my legs and pits in half a decade, and I hadn’t shaved my pubic hair in more than a year and a half. I loved not shaving. I loved feeling the wind in my leg hair. I loved surprising people with the fact that I didn’t shave my pits. I loved feeling like I was still a little bit radical.I loved having hair on my cunt, because it helped weed out douchebags, I liked the way it looked, I enjoyed not having to deal with the shaving, and because it helps reduce infections. I’d even started pulling on my pubic hair while I masturbated, after MLAM did that to me a few times.
I didn’t shave because my feelings about my body hair changed. I did it because my owner told me to. I’m visiting him at the end of this week, and he finally gave me the order I’d been expecting for a while. He instructed me to shave, telling me to take before and after pictures for this tumblr, to explain that he is taking away my “stupid little feminist hissy fit shit.” I used to say that I wouldn’t shave for any man because I liked having the body hair and if some guy didn’t like it, tough. My owner tolerated that for a while, but planted the idea of making me shave in my mind, fucking with my feminist beliefs, making me wet thinking about him making me do that for him.
He’s let me keep my hair for a long time, longer than many owners would indulge a little feminist bitch like me. Let me hold on to this idea that I’m a strong, independent woman who can make decisions about her own body. We both know now that’s not true. I’m a toy for him to play with, including deciding how I will keep my body hair.
Having to do this was not unexpected, but it was a big deal to me. Not shaving may seem like a passive thing, since shaving is an action one chooses to take. But in this society, women are expected to shave, and I’ve gotten more than a couple of people online tell me I was gross or unattractive because I don’t shave. I was actively, and aggressively, deciding to not shave. It became part of my identity.
And now it’s gone. My owner has control over my past, present, and future, and can fuck with them however he likes. He decides what aspects of my identity I get to keep, and what aspects I have to get rid of.
I just finished taking the “before” pictures of my leg, pit, and pubic hair. Time to say goodbye to the past five years. I made a firm decision to stop shaving my legs and pits. I didn’t want to do it anymore, and I didn’t care what men thought. I wanted to see what it was like. I was being all radical and unique. I liked the way it looked and felt.
I’m going to miss the hair. I don’t want to do this. It upsets me and I feel like crying. I was never going to shave for a man’s sake ever again. I didn’t need any man to approve of my appearance or grooming choices. And now look at me. Undoing years of my life because a man told me to. Because all I want is to please him. Because following his orders and making him happy gets me wet.
“Motivated by a strong desire to show that "average is beautiful,” Lamm has decided to make his designs come to life with a doll called “Lammily.”
Lamm decided to take matters into his own hands after being bombarded with questions about where to buy a Barbie of normal size. The entreprenuer is offering prototypes of his toy to the first people to donate to his CrowdtiltOpen campaign, but his plan is to eventually be able to distribute the doll widely online and in retail. The longer term vision also includes embracing diversity by creating dolls with different ethnic backgrounds and body types.
The trend towards heavier sexualization of girls’ toys may have finally reached a tipping point with consumers. There’s a clear demand for toys that are realistic and appropriate for young girls, and many parents, if they knew there was an option, would buy them.
We’re seeing incredible momentum in the toy industry, and its not unrealistic to think that soon the empowerment of girls won’t be something companies even have to think about anymore. It will be automatic. But until then, Lammily will most certainly do.“
having a lot of feelings re: menstrual politics/poetics
because there’s so much essentialism around talking about periods (yr a woman because yr body does this thing) and there are girls who don’t have periods, and boys who do, and everything that’s About Periods in the world of scholarship uses the language of woman completely unthinkingly. and i don’t want to participate in that, i wanna be called out, hard, if i participate in essentialism. on the other hand i totally believe there are a zillion ways to talk about periods and other gross/awesome things bodies do without invoking gender essentialism. i am interested in the body as a site of excess, an inability to be contained/controlled; bodies defying capitalist logic, of the emotionality of bodily processes, of the ways people scratch new meanings over top of culturally constructed ones.
last night my menstrual blogger post was reblogged by someone posting about how feminists need to stop staying up all night thinking about their periods (linked with the statement: seriously, fuck gender politics sometimes)(see, this is what i’m talking about, the person said)
1. calling someone a feminist to get them to stop talking is really gross and misogynistic 2. OVERSHARE IS QUEER PRAXIS. 3. criticizing people for talking about their bodies sounds to me a lot like shaming.
i will keep thinking and talking about my oozing body and i encourage you to do the same.
menstrual bloggers: we out here