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ADHD has many positives! But it also has downsides. It’s not a superpower but it’s not all negative either.
ADHD just is, it’s a neurotype which is not inherently negative nor positive, and even though it gives us a lot of strengths like the ability to hyperfocus, it’s important to remember that it’s also a disability because society isn’t made for us, and so we struggle and need accommodations.
Humans are more complex than just positives and negatives, abilities and disabilities, there’s whole galaxies inside of each of us :)
People would never tell others to stop wearing their glasses or to stop using insulin, but somehow when it’s about #ADHD meds they immediately start saying its bad for you and demonise it even further. I need my meds to function just like I need my glasses to see!
ADHD makes being compassionate with others easier because we understand how it feels to be left out, hurt and as if nobody understands us, but it’s also important to be compassionate with ourselves. This is your reminder to check in with yourself! How are you doing?
Validation, coming from others or from ourselves, make things easier. Rewarding yourself for recognising how far you’ve gotten is always important! (and yes, I do have that pin)
The other day @HowtoADHD was asking what we understood as #burnout and thought it would be a nice idea to illustrate. We need to check in with ourselves from time to time and understand what we need to balance. Burnout is no joke, so please try to listen to your body!
Nothing like when you have 1000+ hobbies and can’t focus on finishing 1 task. ADHD sometimes can be a double edged sword, in my case both sides are my multiple skills and languages vs my inability to finish tasks because they’re not as appealing as they could be. What about you?
Things I’ve realised these past weeks: I’ve been growing and didn’t realise. Take a moment for yourself, really look at how you’re doing, you may find you’ve been growing too.
We struggle, we get called out, we get negative messages from others, but let’s not forget what’s also good about us! Here’s some examples of good characteristics some of us #ADHD folk have!
The tens of thousands of sorrows hidden in the mask
I have sensory issues and, for some reason, people think it’s just me finding bright lights, loud sounds, unwanted touches and weird food textures are annoying, just like everyone feels about them, and I’m just being dramatic. Except that I’m not, I truly struggle with it, and it’s hard to explain how you feel things when others don’t feel the same.
When I say I would love it if people understood ADHD better, it’s usually about this. We are NOT lazy, we struggle so much in different areas of our lives that we are often misunderstood and called lazy, which can end in us developing some kind of anxiety disorder.
Words like “you’re so smart, if you would only work harder”, “why can you play all day but can’t do chores?”, “I told you to do this thing and you didn’t, why are you so lazy!” were (and still are) quite common for me to hear while growing up. I didn’t know what was wrong with me, so of course I thought I was lazy, I internalised it, and now taking a break or just existing when I don’t have anything to do fills me with anxiety, because I’m “just being lazy”.
It’s important for us to see that we do try our best, we work hard, but we also have bad days. How “productive” we are in the eyes of someone else, who doesn’t know what we go through every day, doesn’t define our worth. Our symptoms ARE NOT lazyness.
Some ADHDers, like me, end up being perfectionists as a way to cope with our symptoms. But sometimes the anxiety of making mistakes becomes so big we can stop doing things, even if we love it, just because the fear.
I think whoever said to never half ass things didn’t know neurodivergent people, because it was this kind of message that kept me away from trying to do anything. Being perfect, trying for something to be perfect, means it has to be done and there’s no room for mistakes. Why would I try to exercise once a week when the ideal is five days a week? Better not to do it.
When I realised that I was allowed to make mistakes, I was allowed to not finish something and not doing it perfectly, suddenly there were SO many possibilities in front of me. I was exercising, cleaning, cooking, they didn’t need to be perfect, they just had to make me happy. The same applies to this account, I wanted to share my experiences with other people so they could feel seen, but if I kept striving for perfection I wouldn’t be here at all. I’m still in recovery from perfectionism, but I still try to choose a half ass task over a perfect one :)
How to make your day better when you have a fluffy roommate! A tutorial by me.
Disclaimer: the fluffy roommate might scratch and bite. Proceed with caution.
Productivity is anything but linear with adhd, and boy is it hard to accept that not all our days will look the same after having a good, productive day
Do you ever make an impulsive purchase and then get immediately showered by regret? Omg SAME?
I love reading! But sometimes ADHD makes it really hard for me to read and end up spending a lot of time on the same page of the book
Since quarantine my vocal stims became 99% tiktok sounds lol
Growing up people made me feel that being different was bad, and that I had to be like the others, but thanks to the ADHD community I learnt to celebrate being different and to be proud of who I am just the way I am
Ever felt overstimulated AND understimulated? Yeahhhhhhhh
Break ups can be hard, and to me ADHD makes them harder
