On Making Decisions During a Difficult Time

Sometimes, there are situations in life when everything feels like it’s coming crashing down.

Things may have been going smooth - but suddenly everything has flipped, and things could not be worse.

You may feel like crying constantly. You may feel like things are getting too difficult and things are too much for you to take on.

At this point, you may be compelled to take sudden decisions.

Here are some things to keep in mind:

1. Do not make decisions based on short term feelings. What you feel TODAY, you may not feel TOMORROW.

2.Talk to people you’re closest to. Mom, best friends - talk things out. You may fear vulnerability, and you might be scared of being judged. But sometimes you need to hear a third person’s perspective, and to get a reality check or advice. You’re not an encyclopaedia - you don’t have all the answers to life. It’s okay to seek them from elsewhere.

3. Write your feelings down. Note down your body changes. Has there been loss of appetite? Are you binge eating? How is this situation affecting you physically, mentally, emotionally? Keeping a record of it is helpful, not only for yourself but also in case you need to go to a doctor.

4.Cry it out. Don’t keep your emotions in. Crying will may not solve your problems but it sure as hell will help at least a little bit to get things out of your system.

5. It’s okay to focus on emotions first and solutions later. You can only identify solutions to your problem if you know what you’re feeling and why you’re feeling it. There’s no time constraints to this - it differs person to person.

6. If anything, seek professional help. Often, life’s biggest problems don’t seem as big as they once were in the past. Having a solid support system is difficult at times and can also be emotionally draining for your friends or family. At that moment, don’t feel shame in talking to a counsellor or therapist - you never know, it could turn your life around.

Three Days to Getting Your Life Together

If a 7 day challenge is a little too intense for you, try 3 instead.

7 day challenge : (https://csuitebitches.tumblr.com/post/657588886457974784/the-7-day-ichooseme-challenge)

I’m not a therapist or a doctor, take this advice as you would from a friend.

Day 1 :

Bed

1. Clean your bed

2. Remove the bedsheets

3. Change the pillow cases and the duvet covers

4. Put fresh sheets on and put the old ones for a wash

5. Spray some essential oil on your pillow (lavender is my favourite) if you like

Self

1. Take a shower

2. Do your personal hygiene (skin care, nail care, hair care)

3. Practice gratitude for 30 seconds

To Do

1. Make a to do list of all the pending things you have to do

2. Sort it out by date / priority, the most relevant to you

Day 2 :

Desk

1. Remove everything that’s on your desk and wipe it clean

2. Place all your books where they should be (a shelf or a cupboard)

3. Put all your pens / pencils in a pen stand

4. Clear up the chargers

5. If there’s any old mugs or plates, put them away in the kitchen

Self

1. Do a workout - minimum 15 minutes

2. Take a shower

3. Cook yourself at least one healthy meal. If you can’t cook, then try to. It doesn’t take a lot to make a quinoa bowl or some vegetables and rice

To do

1. Start your to do items

Day 3 :

Floor and Closet

1. If you’re someone who throws dirty clothes on the floor, pick it up and put it in the laundry

2. Sweep everything, under the bed, the corners of your room, under the desk

3. Mop everything clean after you’re doing brooming / sweeping

4. If you have a carpet in your room, then vacuum

5. Put all your clean clothes back in the closet as they should be (I like colour coding)

6. Make sure your shoes are organised properly or they could get spoiled

Self

1. Practice a 3 minute meditation

2. Take a 20 minute walk outside of your house

3. Sleep early tonight

To Do

1. Mark off the things you accomplish today