#difficult times
This is what I call a color complementary scheme for these difficult times.
Staying home for this young man is a luxury. Not everyone has the means.
// More of my Street Photography: https://cybergus.tumblr.com
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Fred van Schagen
Romantic Paris - A courting couple kissing under a bridge on the bank of the Seine, Paris, 1954
Love in relationships is much like a plant, it can thrive or wither, depending on the effort invested, environment placed and nourishment provided. However, unlike plants, we were not designed to be held captive in one place, with one person, for long periods of time, as seen in multiple lockdowns.
- Dr Tim Lebens advice on how to maintain, strengthen and resolve relationships in difficult times
I agree with this piece of advice by Dr Lebens and I try to apply these principles to other aspects of everyday living. I relate this advice to an observation I made about obtaining a relationship with beauty. It requires a sort of sacrifice of one’s self or aspects of a perceived reality in order to devote time to nourish elements of one’s environment in order to uncover/ discover or obtain a relationship with beauty. Nourishment is very liberating and permits growth. When our relationships keep us captive, it tarnishes our vision, and it stops us from being able to identifying where there is potential to make positive relationships within our environment or our lives. Great Art is an incredible sponsor for motivation and vision, in this case, great photography, can evoke the inspiration within us to pursue positive relationships with our surroundings. A recipe for a fulfilling life.
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-Charles Bukowski
don’t let go : miles carter
i am slowly beginning to believe that there really is life after this, that you can go back to eating without the guilt, without the numbers, without the constant torment, and i am living proof of that.
it’s hard, it’s tough, but you learn, you forgive, you move on.
On Making Decisions During a Difficult Time
Sometimes, there are situations in life when everything feels like it’s coming crashing down.
Things may have been going smooth - but suddenly everything has flipped, and things could not be worse.
You may feel like crying constantly. You may feel like things are getting too difficult and things are too much for you to take on.
At this point, you may be compelled to take sudden decisions.
Here are some things to keep in mind:
1. Do not make decisions based on short term feelings. What you feel TODAY, you may not feel TOMORROW.
2.Talk to people you’re closest to. Mom, best friends - talk things out. You may fear vulnerability, and you might be scared of being judged. But sometimes you need to hear a third person’s perspective, and to get a reality check or advice. You’re not an encyclopaedia - you don’t have all the answers to life. It’s okay to seek them from elsewhere.
3. Write your feelings down. Note down your body changes. Has there been loss of appetite? Are you binge eating? How is this situation affecting you physically, mentally, emotionally? Keeping a record of it is helpful, not only for yourself but also in case you need to go to a doctor.
4.Cry it out. Don’t keep your emotions in. Crying will may not solve your problems but it sure as hell will help at least a little bit to get things out of your system.
5. It’s okay to focus on emotions first and solutions later. You can only identify solutions to your problem if you know what you’re feeling and why you’re feeling it. There’s no time constraints to this - it differs person to person.
6. If anything, seek professional help. Often, life’s biggest problems don’t seem as big as they once were in the past. Having a solid support system is difficult at times and can also be emotionally draining for your friends or family. At that moment, don’t feel shame in talking to a counsellor or therapist - you never know, it could turn your life around.
