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Some Hot Mess posts your way tomorrow (if I’m not randomly deleted like everyone else). Staying with Cashus/Ellinoir for a little bit longer.

Still unhappy with TS4 skins though.  No progress on TS2 at the moment.

Trying to decide if I’m going to utilize my Pillowfort account…I don’t really like that site’s set up though. Waterfall isn’t there yet and according to its own creators, they are abandoning it for another site. Wordpress has a limit on capacity unless you pay them. So. Pillowfort. I guess.

In writing world, The Gang Part 1 is on its second draft and last glance edits before I open it for beta reading, which is something I’ve never done.  I also randomly started another short story in the same universe as To Muse and Dream Heavenly.  

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Also, I forgot to address this too in my first post on the issue (because I was pretty tired when I wrote it), but saying “I’m not TME” does not necessarily mean you’re amab.

To start off- I’m intersex. I’m amab. But my body type happens to be more feminine. I do have breasts. The main reasons I do consider myself to be transfem though is because 1) I was out as a gay cis man for a very long time, 2) I do have a penis too, 3) Everybody in the homophobic and transphobic area around where I live knows me as a man. So when I began to dress more feminine when I came out as nonbinary people began throwing transmisogynistuc slurs at me and more attacks were directed towards me too. But not everybody is seen that way.

For example, there may be an intersex individual who is technically considered “afab” due to having a vagina (or even not fully having one, depends), but may have a more “masculine” body type that leads everybody to perceive them as a man due to being intersex. They may even identify as a man for the time being, and if they choose not to identify as trans, then they should be considered a cis man if they so please due to their relationship with being intersex. But let’s say they want to begin transitioning to look more feminine and realize they’re a trans woman or a feminine nonbinary. There’s still the potential that those around who see them as a man will lash out and use transmisogynistic slurs against them. I would consider that person to be non-TME. That’s not necessarily transfem, only if they consider themselves to be transfem.

Don’t leave intersex people out of your arguments surrounding transmisogyny, you have to remember that every intersex experience is different and it’s possibly close to what you experience. Also, don’t forget about intersex people when claiming things about “TME or non-TME determines your agab”, because that’s simply untrue and is a transmisogynistic statement and borders interphobia.

Do not argue with this post unless you are also intersex.

married-to-the-night:

Hello, my name is Alannah. I’m here to present a new term that I hope is as useful to others as it is for me. Please hear me out.

I’m an alter in a dissociative identity disorder system. I am a [nonbinary] girl, and I use she/her pronouns. Our body was designated female at birth, and at the time that I split (2011), I probably could have identified as cis.
However, around 2013, I went dormant, meaning I wasn’t around at all, no input on our actions whatsoever.
When I resurfaced again, it was 2017. Other alters had begun taking testosterone in 2014. I awoke to having male-passing body. A different body shape, a deep voice, thick body and facial hair, a new legal name, and a new legal gender, amongst other things. Now, whenever I present as myself, I put myself and the system as a whole at risk. I deal with a great deal of dysphoria, and a great deal of fear regarding things as simple as how to refer to myself and which restroom to use, how to be me and not risk our life and career. I have to do a lot of work to make sure that I “pass” as my gender.

Because of this, I cannot identify with the cis experience. Some parts of it, maybe, because I live in a body born with a vulva and uterus, and others alters have the memory of being raised as a girl, but the majority of it I cannot. There is actually much more that I can connect to in the experiences of trans women. But I am not, and can never be, a trans woman. There are elements of that experience that I can never know, and it would be wrong for me to claim a label that does not belong to me.
So I experience parts of both experiences, but live neither life. There is not a word that describes this experience, so I have decided to make one to exist alongside of cis and trans.

Utrinquegender

Orutrinquefor short. It means “both sides”, in line with cis (“on this side”) and trans (“across”). It is a modifier, and NOT a gender.

It is a word for people who genuinely experience aspects of both trans and cis experiences, but do not fit either label: female-aligned alters in dfab DID/OSDD systems whose system has medically transitioned to male and male-aligned alters in the reverse situation. I am also open to it being used by individuals that have hormonal conditions that cause them to produce far too much of the “wrong” sex hormone, causing them to develop secondary sex characteristics, if said condition has done so. If you have another situation that I have not mentioned, feel free to ask, because I cannot list every applicable scenario.

I really hope that this can be a useful term for others, because I know I’m not the only one that has been left without a word. Please do me a favour and spread this, so that this term can gain visibility and usage.

neolabels:

I was thinking and came to the realization that there’s no real distinction between orientations such as homoromantic and demiromantic, even though those describe totally different ways of attraction. Lumping them together has its flaws, so I created my own labels to distinguish them from each other when coining orientations.  

Affinitive orientations: Orientations describing what genders you’re attracted to, such as bisexual, pansexual, asexual, lesbian, gay, etc. Named for having an affinity for a given gender. 
Amative orientations: Orientations describing how you’re attracted to a person. Examples include demi-,  weort- ,mellow-, and fray-. 

justemotionalabusethings:

not so friendly reminder that if you’re a MAP/NOMAP or support MAPs/NOMAPs you can fuck right off and unfollow me! this blog DOES NOT support pedophilia in any form!!!!

this blog DOESsupport people with mental illnesses, POCD included!

letters-to-lgbt-kids:

My dear lgbt+ kids, 

Here’s a hug for the “label hoarders”. 

That’s a strange term, isn’t it? Hoarding sounds like you greedily cling to things you don’t need or even take things away from people who need them more than you. 

But that’s not what you do. You just use multiple words to describe your life experiences. 

Some people feel more comfortable just using one word, sure. Some may have the same experiences you do but choose not to label them. That’s great for those people - but you don’t need to be one of them. You are you. You deserve to use the words YOU feel comfortable with - and if that’s a whole bunch of words, that’s okay! 

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Dad 

I’m surprised that after almost a whole year, no one’s asked for a Manaphy themed stimboard or asked why I haven’t made one yet

m-a-n-a-p-h-why:

Yeesh, it took me so long to get the sources sorted out for a stimboard that the original post for one was deleted.

The only thing I can find is an unsourced stimboard it was added to.

Yeesh, it took me so long to get the sources sorted out for a stimboard that the original post for one was deleted.

Gonna take a trip abroad for like 5 days starting tomorrow.

The art is still queued up but I’ll be less responsive when it comes to messages^^

I finally sat down to make some sketches for the answers and there were over 50 D:
You guys are the sweetest but also wow that’s a lot of doodles
So I’m gonna have to stop making them full color for now or I’ll never make my way through it.

That being said ask day today^^

MICHAEL, happy and drunk: That’s my boyfriend!
ALEX, fond: Your husband, Michael.
MICHAEL, now euphoric:Myhusband, even better.

MICHAEL: Name a more iconic duo than my crippling fear of abandonment and my rage. I’ll wait.
ALEX: You and me.
MICHAEL, tearing up: Okay.

apex legends headcanons i spitballed with @cryptozo​

between matches, loba, bloodhound, fuse, and mirage sometimes play poker in the common area.  between wearing a full face mask and not having any obvious tell, bloodhound is frustratingly good at it.

other rotating players / general headcanons below the cut:

loba: obviously a natural at finding peoples’ tells.  wants to win for the sake of it, but only really cares about the spoils when there’s more than money on the table.  very, very good

bloodhound: initially lies and says “I do not know this game, but will join if it amuses you”, and absolutely destroys.  foolishly attempts to get more mileage out of this lie.  continues to do well regardless.  very competitive

fuse: just in it for a laugh.  infuriates loba (and bloodhound) by figuring out bloodhound’s tell and not revealing it to anyone (when bloodhound is really intently focusing on something they start breathing heavy)

mirage: has obvious tells that makes him terrible at poker but he likes the social aspect

valk:desperately wants to be good at poker; talks a big game but is mediocre at best.  takes it way too seriously, but then gets completely wasted during

octane: is unintentionally card counting in his head the entire time.  doesn’t actually care about winning so he doesn’t have a tell.  whenever he joins he plays a few rounds, does incredibly well, and then bails to do something else

lifeline:can get intensely competitive but usually is just there to socialize

wraith: sadly banned from playing because her voices from the void keep chiming in with other peoples’ hands.  she spectates now

rampart:a terrifying force to be reckoned with, absolutely clears everyone out when she plays and then hands the money directly to mirage for rent and leaves