#mr right
Dateless on Valentine’s Day? Well, I can say that you’re not alone and obviously, you’re not the only one. It is not necessary to have a date. So what if you’re dateless? So what if you’re single? It was never even mentioned in any law that each one of us is required to have a date on that day. Right? On the contrary, if you really wanted a date so badly, you can just date your friends or even your family. Just not that person you call “special someone” because obviously, you don’t have one. :P
Hey! Don’t be depressed just because you don’t have a Valentine date. It isn’t that bad. Yes, sometimes, you get kinda envy when you see couples, especially guys who give flowers, chocolates, and whatsoever to their girls on their dates, monthsaries, anniversaries, Valentine’s Day, and in many other occasions (and girls being sweet to their guys) because you also want to feel what it’s like to be in their position; to have, and be a lover yourself. Yeah, I know. I get that feeling too sometimes. But that doesn’t mean you have zero love life and you’re loveless! Well, maybe for now. Don’t think like it’s the end of the world for you just because you’re single, dateless, and doesn’t have a “special someone” this coming Valentine’s. Ugh. Don’t over-react. Don’t pressure and stress yourself too much on those things. You’ll get older and have wrinkles (or worse). Just kidding. Just don’t let yourself be mistaken by Mr. WrongforMr. Right(orMs. WrongforMs. Right). :)
Just let things be for now. Time will come. Who knows? Maybe next Valentine’s Day, you’ll have that “special someone” already. You’ll finally get to know what it feels like to love, and be loved by that “special someone” you’re longing for so long. Remember, everything worth having is worth waiting.;)
Advance Happy Valentine’s, everyone! ♥
they taught me love,
they taught me patience,
andthey taught me pain
Susan Patton, commonly known as The Princeton Mom, first came into the public eye with her letter Advice for the young women of Princeton: the daughters I never had inThe Daily Princetonian.
What was her advice?
Stop worrying about your studies and your career and start looking for a husband! (Your life has no meaning unless you marry a man! And you can’t marry unless you marry NOW! NOW! YOU HEARD ME, NOW!)
Patton has since become a controversial public figure, written two books (Marry Smart: Advice for Finding THE ONE&Marry by Choice, Not by Chance: Advice for Finding the Right One at the Right Time) and become the poster girl of internalised misogyny.
Let’s take a look at some statements she’s made in interviews and in her writing:
On marriage and ‘finding Mr Right’:
“[U]ntil you find a spouse, I would advise you invest your effort and energy at least 75% in searching for a partner and 25% in professional development.”
“You’re in your twenties, you’re no longer a student, and you are hoping to find a husband in a nonacademic setting. Good luck! You’ll need it.”
“To avoid a life of unwanted spinsterhood — with cats! — you have to smarten up about what’s important to you, and keep your head in the game.”
“When I say, ‘Find a man,’ what I really mean is, ‘Find a man who will respect you.’ And when I say, ‘Find a husband in college,’ what I’m really saying is, ‘It’s never too early to start planning for your personal happiness and looking for a husband who will respect you.’ It’s never too early, and it’s never too late. (Well, that’s not really true, but we’ll discuss that later.)”
“Men regularly marry women who are younger, less intelligent, less educated.”
On rape:
“The definition of rape is no longer when a woman is violated at the point of a gun or a knife. We’re now identifying as rape what really is a clumsy hookup melodrama or a fumbled attempt at a kiss or caress." "Why don’t women get up and leave?”
“Sex can’t be unwanted after the fact. You can’t say it was unwanted after the fact. That is what is problematic. Sometimes when women find themselves in situation where again they have been overserved, they should have walked away, but they just didn’t. It’s easier not to. Then they wake up and say, ‘My God look at where I am. I didn’t mean to.’ It can’t be unwanted after the fact. That’s not assault. It’s bad, but it’s not assault. And I’ve said this many times, it’s the most horrific of all crimes, perhaps with the exception of child abduction. I don’t like the idea of diluting the horror, the true crime of rape with mistake sex. ‘I didn’t mean to. I didn’t want it and I didn’t mean to.’ Those are two very different things and then shouldn’t be convoluted. Again, I am advocating for women to take control of themselves, take responsibility for themselves, don’t put themselves in harms way, ever. It’s only your job to keep yourself safe, always.”
On feminism:
“Feminists 'have over-corrected’ for past inequalities. Women now have become so emboldened by these antagonistic feminists that they have lost sight of the fact that this is the man you married.”
Apparently marital dissatisfaction is caused by feminism….
On her books:
“There are very few statistics in this book, and my research has been limited to talking with people I know, like and trust.”
And watch this clip about the importance of having plastic surgery before you go of to university. (It will increase your chances of meeting Mr Right.)
Susan Patton is divorced.
